What should I do?
My best friend, Rhea, had a boyfriend named Christian, who I sometimes call Krusty. They were such a cute couple. They went out for a few weeks. He got her a really expensive Christmas present. They were so happy together. Then one night, Rhea said to me:
"I don't think there's any chemistry anymore."
I knew that it would be over soon. I really wished it wasn't. They were awesome together. Everyone says she's strange, and everyone says he's a nerd, but they were the most beautiful couple I've ever seen. Christian told me that he loved Rhea with all of his heart and that he wanted to be with her forever. The next day, Rhea told him it was over.
That night, I got on MSN Messenger to see how things were going between them. As soon as I logged in, a conversation popped up. It was Christian. I found it a little strange, since he never talks to you unless you talk first. We greeted eachother and asked eachother what's going on, ya'know, the usual. Then all of a sudden, I see this pop up on the screen:
Christian says:
will u go out w/ me
I thought he was joking. I decided to kinda go along with it. "You wanna go out with a boy?" I asked. "No..." he replied. "Well, then you can't go out with me =]" He called me a transvestite, and I agreed with his statement. "In all seriousness, would you go out with me?" He was serious?!?! Wow, I didn't think someone was gonna ask me that again for like, three years! "What about Rhea?" I had to make sure what he was saying was true. He sent me a little crying smiley. "Aww, hun! I'm so sorry!" I realized that "hun" wasn't exactly the right thing to say after he just asked me out, but I call people that a feel bad for/am worried about "hun."
"I don't know..." I said. Rhea had always secretly told me that she thought Christian and I would make a good couple. But I'm not sure if she meant it or not. When Rhea and my ex, John liked eachother, I told them that they should date again. I didn't mean it, of course. I still loved John two months after he broke up with me.
I don't know him all that well. After Rhea and Christian called me, we got on MSN and talked because my sister had to make a call. Rhea copied and pasted part of her and Christian's conversation:
Rhea says:
do u rly wanna go out with her?
Christian says:
idk
Christian says:
i wanna get to know her better
Well, that's fantastic! [/sarcasm] I can't believe this. He tells me that he would always love Rhea about two days ago, and now he's saying that he wants to get to know me. I'm pretty sure he still loves her. If that's the case, I'm not going out with him. That's happened to me before, and it hurts so bad. Ok, I know he still likes her.
lisha says:
I have a serious question
lisha says:
but you can't get mad
Kristy says:
ok
lisha says:
you promise you wont be mad?
lisha says:
or sad or anything
Kristy says:
promise..
lisha says:
ok
lisha says:
do you still like her?
Kristy says:
ya
lisha says:
=/
So what am I supposed to say to him? Hopefully he doesn't wanna go out with me anymore. To be honest, I don't wanna get to know him. I'm afraid that I'll start liking him, and then I'll be stupid and go out with him even though he still loves Rhea. But if we get to know eachother, he might forget about her and like me back. But how can I know if he's really over her if that happens?
Ugh I'm so confused ._.
Help?
"I don't think there's any chemistry anymore."
I knew that it would be over soon. I really wished it wasn't. They were awesome together. Everyone says she's strange, and everyone says he's a nerd, but they were the most beautiful couple I've ever seen. Christian told me that he loved Rhea with all of his heart and that he wanted to be with her forever. The next day, Rhea told him it was over.
That night, I got on MSN Messenger to see how things were going between them. As soon as I logged in, a conversation popped up. It was Christian. I found it a little strange, since he never talks to you unless you talk first. We greeted eachother and asked eachother what's going on, ya'know, the usual. Then all of a sudden, I see this pop up on the screen:
Christian says:
will u go out w/ me
I thought he was joking. I decided to kinda go along with it. "You wanna go out with a boy?" I asked. "No..." he replied. "Well, then you can't go out with me =]" He called me a transvestite, and I agreed with his statement. "In all seriousness, would you go out with me?" He was serious?!?! Wow, I didn't think someone was gonna ask me that again for like, three years! "What about Rhea?" I had to make sure what he was saying was true. He sent me a little crying smiley. "Aww, hun! I'm so sorry!" I realized that "hun" wasn't exactly the right thing to say after he just asked me out, but I call people that a feel bad for/am worried about "hun."
"I don't know..." I said. Rhea had always secretly told me that she thought Christian and I would make a good couple. But I'm not sure if she meant it or not. When Rhea and my ex, John liked eachother, I told them that they should date again. I didn't mean it, of course. I still loved John two months after he broke up with me.
I don't know him all that well. After Rhea and Christian called me, we got on MSN and talked because my sister had to make a call. Rhea copied and pasted part of her and Christian's conversation:
Rhea says:
do u rly wanna go out with her?
Christian says:
idk
Christian says:
i wanna get to know her better
Well, that's fantastic! [/sarcasm] I can't believe this. He tells me that he would always love Rhea about two days ago, and now he's saying that he wants to get to know me. I'm pretty sure he still loves her. If that's the case, I'm not going out with him. That's happened to me before, and it hurts so bad. Ok, I know he still likes her.
lisha says:
I have a serious question
lisha says:
but you can't get mad
Kristy says:
ok
lisha says:
you promise you wont be mad?
lisha says:
or sad or anything
Kristy says:
promise..
lisha says:
ok
lisha says:
do you still like her?
Kristy says:
ya
lisha says:
=/
So what am I supposed to say to him? Hopefully he doesn't wanna go out with me anymore. To be honest, I don't wanna get to know him. I'm afraid that I'll start liking him, and then I'll be stupid and go out with him even though he still loves Rhea. But if we get to know eachother, he might forget about her and like me back. But how can I know if he's really over her if that happens?
Ugh I'm so confused ._.
Help?
I know ._.
Andrew Volpe, December 28th, 2007 at 10:34:15am
Don't do it. Obviously you are just going to get hurt. If he was so deeply in love with your friend...than he wouldn't be asking you out. It would ruin you and your friends replationship. No boy is worth that. Ever.
You're just the rebound girl. Sorry babe.
Jessie.Tastic!, December 28th, 2007 at 10:31:09am
I think you shouldn't get into the problem, that'll make things all the more akward. Just try and help him, and her as much as possible without taking a pirticular side or don't make the fact you're picking a side obvious. I wish I knew what else to say, just keep headstrong and do what's right for you.
elle., December 28th, 2007 at 08:51:24am
If your friend would be upset it isn't worth it. If you're age is accurate, 14, people your (and my) age fall in and out of love all the time. It's just part of growing up. He said he loved her a few days ago, but he probably didn't mean it, or understand love enough to mean it.
Personally, I think he's just upset his relationship ended and feels alone. You don't want to be his rebound.
Kurtni, December 28th, 2007 at 07:35:04am
dont go out with him. that would ruin your friendship
whatserekim, December 28th, 2007 at 07:30:56am