I say "No public displays of affection" in schools is a bad call...
Sorry if this comes out longer than I want it to.
So I suppose I've been doing what you could call "thinking". I've been thinking a lot about my current school and my old school and of course, their rules.
My current school is a charter school and most of the 6-12 grade, 220 students are on an independent study program, there is not a single minute when all students and administrators are on campus at the same time. Basically because we don't need to be. It is a very laid back atmosphere, and unlike my old school, has much fewer rules, and the ones that there are, are logical. The dress code isn't strict yet people follow it, because if you didn't, it would show just how much self respect you lack. The consequences of doing wrong are simple, a behavior form if you're just being an ass, a trip to the principal's office if you refuse to work, and probation if you refuse to cooperate. 5 behavior forms, 4 trips to the principal's office, or 3 probation sentences in a semester all equal immediate ejection from the school, and another kid filling your place.
One of the rules that is exists at most regular middle and high schools is thankfully missing at my current school. "No public displays of affection, such as, but not limited to, holding hands, hugging, kissing, etc." I seriously just got that from my 6th grade agenda, that included the rules, from when I was going to the only middle school in my area. I think it is mostly ridiculous. I can understand the whole kissing thing, but I don't think I have the same reasons as the "administrators" I mean it's not the most sanitary thing after eating one of those cafeteria burritos, to share it with someone by playing tonsil hockey, and time could be a factor, I've seen some of those make out sessions last so long people are late for their classes.
But hugging and holding hands. First of all, at my old school, it wasn't allowed for anybody. Period. Not boys to hug or hold hands, not girls to hug or hold hands, and not a boy and a girl to hug and hold hands. At my middle school, if a teacher who believed in this rule caught students hugging or holding hands, the students were suspended, 1 day for a boy/girl for holding hands 2 days for boy/boy or girl/girl and then a day was added to each punishment for hugging.
Now call me a nosy little snot for wondering this, but it seems that the people who run the school, are breeding the next generation of homophobes, which I don't know about you, but I have a rather large problem with. The majority of students at that school frown upon bi's or gays, calling people "queer" or "homo" if they act stereotypically gay, which maybe they are but I don't understand what is wrong with it. Not to mention, the students there are angrier, more violent, and just seem a lot more pissed off with the world than the kids at my current school.
At the school I go to now, you can hold hands, hug people, and even kiss if your idea of a kiss isn't like sucking someone's face off or trying to suck all the air out of their lungs. The students I go to school with, seem happier, less ready to rip your head off, and not nearly as tense. We all get along just fine, without all the "no public affection" rules.
Anybody got an opinion on this?
So I suppose I've been doing what you could call "thinking". I've been thinking a lot about my current school and my old school and of course, their rules.
My current school is a charter school and most of the 6-12 grade, 220 students are on an independent study program, there is not a single minute when all students and administrators are on campus at the same time. Basically because we don't need to be. It is a very laid back atmosphere, and unlike my old school, has much fewer rules, and the ones that there are, are logical. The dress code isn't strict yet people follow it, because if you didn't, it would show just how much self respect you lack. The consequences of doing wrong are simple, a behavior form if you're just being an ass, a trip to the principal's office if you refuse to work, and probation if you refuse to cooperate. 5 behavior forms, 4 trips to the principal's office, or 3 probation sentences in a semester all equal immediate ejection from the school, and another kid filling your place.
One of the rules that is exists at most regular middle and high schools is thankfully missing at my current school. "No public displays of affection, such as, but not limited to, holding hands, hugging, kissing, etc." I seriously just got that from my 6th grade agenda, that included the rules, from when I was going to the only middle school in my area. I think it is mostly ridiculous. I can understand the whole kissing thing, but I don't think I have the same reasons as the "administrators" I mean it's not the most sanitary thing after eating one of those cafeteria burritos, to share it with someone by playing tonsil hockey, and time could be a factor, I've seen some of those make out sessions last so long people are late for their classes.
But hugging and holding hands. First of all, at my old school, it wasn't allowed for anybody. Period. Not boys to hug or hold hands, not girls to hug or hold hands, and not a boy and a girl to hug and hold hands. At my middle school, if a teacher who believed in this rule caught students hugging or holding hands, the students were suspended, 1 day for a boy/girl for holding hands 2 days for boy/boy or girl/girl and then a day was added to each punishment for hugging.
Now call me a nosy little snot for wondering this, but it seems that the people who run the school, are breeding the next generation of homophobes, which I don't know about you, but I have a rather large problem with. The majority of students at that school frown upon bi's or gays, calling people "queer" or "homo" if they act stereotypically gay, which maybe they are but I don't understand what is wrong with it. Not to mention, the students there are angrier, more violent, and just seem a lot more pissed off with the world than the kids at my current school.
At the school I go to now, you can hold hands, hug people, and even kiss if your idea of a kiss isn't like sucking someone's face off or trying to suck all the air out of their lungs. The students I go to school with, seem happier, less ready to rip your head off, and not nearly as tense. We all get along just fine, without all the "no public affection" rules.
Anybody got an opinion on this?
We have this same thing at our school, but it's even stricter since it's K-12.
I think it's over rated. Me and Zach can't hold hands or hug? It's just stupid, they have no right to control us and there is no legal age for holding hands or hugging, or even kissing for that matter.
Tweenager, June 22nd, 2008 at 11:10:13pm
I don't really know, its difficult. I mean, doesn't actually making out and all that stuff simply belong to high school life? But then again school is not made for that, school is for learning. People can do that stuff outside of school.
I think holding hands and kissing is okay, it just shouldnt get too, like Jen said, soft-porn like.
Love, March 26th, 2008 at 03:29:08pm
Personally I think hugging is okay and even kissing is okay as long as it doesn't get to the soft-porn stage, that just looks absolutely trashy and screams "I need for you people to notice me cos I'm sad and pathetic really".
Cradle of Fear, March 26th, 2008 at 08:50:27am
I think this rule is okay to a degree. Holding hands and hugging is harmless.
At my school, kids kiss all the time and teachers don't mind, because it's part of socialising and growing up. But if you're kissing and it's after the bell you just just get tapped on the shoulder and get told to "move along".
I think PDA's should be left to to the people who are doing it. I t think hooking up (kissing with tongue) at school is generally pretty rank and tacky. I won't do it, but I've seen people that will.
germma margaret!, March 25th, 2008 at 07:35:37am
that's just stupid.
I mean seriously D:
Rage, March 25th, 2008 at 04:11:30am
the no hugging rule was just started in my school,
i guess i understand why they did it here (don't get me wrong
it's one of the dumbest things ever) they started it because
a student was huging his girlfriend, she was a skirt and he
tauched her butt while a teacher was around. he was suspended
for a week. now, if you are caught hugging, you are taken out of school
for the rest of the school day and you have 3 weeks of lunch detention.
i really miss being able to hug my boyfriend before the first period bell
rang and holding his hand on the way out. but i think that something
had to be done.
Fallop!an Cwac Cwac., March 25th, 2008 at 01:19:57am
got to get this down before i forget- Its wrong to have a larger punishment for boy/boy or girl/girl PDAs. WRONG WRONG, FAIL FAIL.
At first I was all WOW at your school, it sounded so great. When you started talking about the no PublicDisplaysofAffection, my opinion became the polar opposite.
My school, god bless it, doesn't really have any rules like that. The teachers there remember what it was like to be in the throes of young, innocent love. So they only stop it if the face suckage gets to a softcore porn level.
ROZY-LYNN., March 24th, 2008 at 11:03:03pm
I THINK ITS RIDICOULUS THAT I CANT TAKE A FRESHMAN AND THROW MY ARM AROUND HIS NECK AND SQUEEZE THE OXYGEN OUT OF HIM!!!!!!!!
uhh I mean....
I think the whole "hands off" thing was invented for people like me. I have no offence in lovers doing whatever they want to. My skool doesnt have written rules about "public displays of affection" but the "dirtbag" teachers will see people making out in the hallways and say somthing like "carefull there, you might get a head injury! No seriously, break it up and get to class."
Persionally, I think its funny, but I could care less in general.
Blarg!, March 24th, 2008 at 05:57:41pm
Personally If a school I was at tried to inforce that, We'd end up starting a protest.
schooldropout, March 24th, 2008 at 04:10:55pm
My school has a "hands-off" policy. In order to prevent violence, we're not supposed to touch each other, full stop. No one takes any notice of it, especially not me. In fact, the past two weeks I've tried to hug everyone in my class at least twice.
Enigma, March 24th, 2008 at 07:34:14am
in our agenda book for my high school it says "Only handholding is permited."
my english teacher stands in the hallway every second shes not teaching a class to yell at anyone if they so much as TOUCH another student. she got mad at my friend who is a lesbian for standing too close to her girl friend. they weren't touching, kissing, even talking about touching or kissing, just talking. i'm assuming shes just homophobic.
i think its rediculous i can't hug my boyfriend or kiss his cheek. its even more rediculous that i can't hug my friends. i can't put my arm around anyone, my boyfriend cant' put his arm around me. who do we hurt by doing that? i could understand if it was during class but between classes and at LUNCH? come on.
and our dress code. one TINY hole in your jeans and you get a detention and sent home to change. and i am not exagerating. the same teacher enforcing the PDA rule is being a nazi once again on this one. its so so dumb.
i think dumb rules like these force people to rebel.
reject08, March 24th, 2008 at 04:54:13am