torn torn torn.
Okay, lets get the shit out the way.
I'm 14. Unfortunately my scientific age defeats me. I act about 16 but ah well.
He's 18. He's a bit immature and acts about 16.
I'm interested
He seems interested.
but but but...
Okay, in 2008 my best friend's mum and dad split up. About 2 months later her mum met a new man and he moved in. He had 2 sons, and 3 girls. Rob, Tom, Lizzie, Gemma and Laura (made up names). I met Rob in May last year and we immediately got on really well. My best friends mum and boyfriend got married in like, July, I know, they barely knew each other for half a year but ah well. My best friend fell for Tom, and they've been in a relationship since August. Spare me the 'ohh incest' shit because its not like that.
I have been best friends with Rob since then and lately there's been hints towards us moving into a relationship.
He's called me beautiful and I think he has the most amazing personality and is perfect.
I know, mushy lovey dovey stuff right?
I know he respects me because of the way he talks to me. Since we met we've both had one relationship with other people. They didn't last long and we were both best friends through it all.
He's been going through some rough times and doesn't seem to think much of himself, which is a shame because he is amazing and deserves everything he wants.
But I guess what's holding us back from going out with each other is the age gap and the thought of upsetting my best friend who is his step-sister if we broke up.
He's told me he loves me and I know I love him back, but I don't know if I'm mistaking our friendship as being 'in love' with him.
What would you guys do in this situation?
Much love
x x
I'm 14. Unfortunately my scientific age defeats me. I act about 16 but ah well.
He's 18. He's a bit immature and acts about 16.
I'm interested
He seems interested.
but but but...
Okay, in 2008 my best friend's mum and dad split up. About 2 months later her mum met a new man and he moved in. He had 2 sons, and 3 girls. Rob, Tom, Lizzie, Gemma and Laura (made up names). I met Rob in May last year and we immediately got on really well. My best friends mum and boyfriend got married in like, July, I know, they barely knew each other for half a year but ah well. My best friend fell for Tom, and they've been in a relationship since August. Spare me the 'ohh incest' shit because its not like that.
I have been best friends with Rob since then and lately there's been hints towards us moving into a relationship.
He's called me beautiful and I think he has the most amazing personality and is perfect.
I know, mushy lovey dovey stuff right?
I know he respects me because of the way he talks to me. Since we met we've both had one relationship with other people. They didn't last long and we were both best friends through it all.
He's been going through some rough times and doesn't seem to think much of himself, which is a shame because he is amazing and deserves everything he wants.
But I guess what's holding us back from going out with each other is the age gap and the thought of upsetting my best friend who is his step-sister if we broke up.
He's told me he loves me and I know I love him back, but I don't know if I'm mistaking our friendship as being 'in love' with him.
What would you guys do in this situation?
Much love
x x
:) cheers guys.
I think I'll keep stay best friends with him.
x
HilaryRae, May 12th, 2009 at 06:20:26pm
Ah, I've been in the exact situation, and it didn't work out at all. My dad was super protective of me, but one day it'll happen, I still like him. ;)
Anyway, I first suggest having a talk to your best friend and see how she feels about it. If it's good from there, I say go for it. Sure there'll be an age difference, but I think it could work. Good luck!
Skippy., May 11th, 2009 at 04:37:04am
age gap isn't a big deal. as long as you're not having sex then nothing is illegal. i say go for it.
Miley Cyrus, May 10th, 2009 at 09:43:16am
how do you act 'sixteen?'
i think your concept of ages betrays you. X] but i would avoid....if anything that might happen could be considered illegal, just dont bother.
banquo, May 9th, 2009 at 11:06:30pm
Well there are two ways you can think of it
Go for it, you like him, yes, there is an age gap. But if you guys try then it'll work and you'll be happily ever after.
or
the age gap is the biggest problem, and that yes, you both act like you're 16 but that could also be an issue, You two are still going to act your age most of the time, where he'll do what his 18 year old mind thinks is right might confuse what your 14 would (not calling you stupid just asking there's a big difference)
Ave Maria, May 9th, 2009 at 10:02:14pm
I wouln't, but I'm a panzy.
Now, the age gap does matter. Not trying to be mean, but just cause you're told you act 16, and you think you act 16, doesn't mean much. Even a 16 year old who acts like a 16 year old may still be immature. I don't think I'm making much sence, but yea. When you're out of high school and all that crap, age doesn't mean much. Sadly, now it does.
Blarg!, May 9th, 2009 at 08:01:44pm
not use the S word in a blog.
and also just go for it.
worst comes to worst you get dumped and your freind is mad at you, its worth the risk.
Yay!, May 9th, 2009 at 07:43:26pm