Encouragement.
When is it right to encourage someone?
Like...should you only encourage someone to do something if you think they're genuinely good at it? Or just coz you love/like them? Or maybe as a joke...
Okay, so here's an example.
There's this boy at my school called Jordan. He loves to sing. He has this deep singing voice and thinks himself as a young Elvis. Sadly he's obviously tone deaf.
Then there's this group of girls. They find his singing hilarious coz it's so bad. So they encourage him. Urge him to sing in class, preform at the talent show and even try out for britans got talent/the x factor. They do this for a joke.
Everyone laughs at him, even the teachers. He thinks it's because everyone loves him.
Because of this 'encouragement' Jordan's convinced he's the most talented singer on earth and that he's wonderful with females. His ego is huge.
Is this fair? To encourage someone for laughs? So far that he could potentialy embarass himself on national television?
I think that's harsh.
If you watch these talent shows there are other people simular to Jordan who's friends/family encourage them. But maybe not for the same reason as the girls at my school. They encourage their family members coz they love them and don't want to hurt their feelings by saying they're bad singing or whatever.
Is that the right thing to do?
Just some thoughts I had in my mind.
Like...should you only encourage someone to do something if you think they're genuinely good at it? Or just coz you love/like them? Or maybe as a joke...
Okay, so here's an example.
There's this boy at my school called Jordan. He loves to sing. He has this deep singing voice and thinks himself as a young Elvis. Sadly he's obviously tone deaf.
Then there's this group of girls. They find his singing hilarious coz it's so bad. So they encourage him. Urge him to sing in class, preform at the talent show and even try out for britans got talent/the x factor. They do this for a joke.
Everyone laughs at him, even the teachers. He thinks it's because everyone loves him.
Because of this 'encouragement' Jordan's convinced he's the most talented singer on earth and that he's wonderful with females. His ego is huge.
Is this fair? To encourage someone for laughs? So far that he could potentialy embarass himself on national television?
I think that's harsh.
If you watch these talent shows there are other people simular to Jordan who's friends/family encourage them. But maybe not for the same reason as the girls at my school. They encourage their family members coz they love them and don't want to hurt their feelings by saying they're bad singing or whatever.
Is that the right thing to do?
Just some thoughts I had in my mind.
in my family, we're brutally honest. If I stick, my mom will say "Mindy, shut up, that sucks." unless I'm doing things wrong intentionally for a laugh.
You should never encourage someone out of spite. It's horrible.
Tyler Durden, August 25th, 2009 at 07:26:33pm
I really don't think that's very nice.
When I was a kid (up until age 11, I think) I couldn't sing for crap. And my family would be all, "Oh, you're so good!" Now I can sing, and I finally found out that I couldn't, and I felt horrible.
PCG, August 20th, 2009 at 08:10:33pm
That's so cruel.
I have a tone deaf friend, and I'm honest about it and all is good.
Cause he's good at other things... like jumping up lamposts.
waiting_a_long_time, August 17th, 2009 at 01:38:38am
That's really not fair. I'd much rather me tell the person he's bad at singin than for Simon Cowell to do it.
If you tell someone their bad at it they'll only be hurt for a little while, if you let them go on National TV and get told by judges their going to ask 'why didn't anyone tell me?'
What those girls are doing to this Jordan is completely unfair to him, maybe if you found something diffrent he can do like really well he might stop singing and do the other thing he is good at more (:
dumbstruck., August 15th, 2009 at 04:33:02am