Suicide and self harm!

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Mike Dirnt.
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July 25th, 2007 at 12:16pm
I don't see how people can pretend to be depressed. It's not funny, it doesn't make you popular.
I, myself, have been diagnosed with depression and it comes and goes, really.
I can seem really happy, hyper, fun but inside I'm feeling cold, upset, alone.
But I just push it out of the way, if I can, and get on with life.
Yes, I've thought about suicide.
But for my own reasons.
Not because my mom won't let me go out or because I want to fit into a catagory.
Sometimes I still feel like I'd be better off dead but I'm too cowardly.
I'm young, my life is still yet to change. I should live life to the full whilst I still can, right?
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July 25th, 2007 at 02:16pm
A lot of people do cut for attention/to fit stereotypes nowadays.
I admit, I did it for attention but now it's spiralled out of control to the point where I can't help myself.
I would NEVER ever advise anyone to start cutting for that reason; it's really stupid and it can get out of control.
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July 25th, 2007 at 02:24pm
Kirsten___Ostrenga.:
A lot of people do cut for attention/to fit stereotypes nowadays.
I admit, I did it for attention but now it's spiralled out of control to the point where I can't help myself.
I would NEVER ever advise anyone to start cutting for that reason; it's really stupid and it can get out of control.


I think that most people start cutting themselves becouse of that reason... It's not stupid in a part.
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July 30th, 2007 at 04:26pm
No, it actually is kind of stupid. Because it can, and in that person's case, did spiral out of control.

The only feasible reason I can see for someone to cut is to cause physical pain and damage to distract oneself from the emotional pain and damage. I'm not saying cutting is a smart thing to do, but that's what people do. And for some reason, its become an increasingly significant problem in the last decade.

Attention is the last reason on Earth to cut.
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August 5th, 2007 at 05:24pm
lyrical_mess:
Attention is the last reason on Earth to cut.


It's really not!!!
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August 5th, 2007 at 05:30pm
HysteriaCatherine:
lyrical_mess:
Attention is the last reason on Earth to cut.


It's really not!!!
Explain your case instead of just disagreeing.
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August 8th, 2007 at 10:15am
Attention is not the last reason, becouse if someone notice that u have cut your arms or any other part of body, he'll give u some attention (people also want to know why someone have done something).
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August 8th, 2007 at 03:25pm
That...makes no sense. Confused

If you want attention, go jump up and down yelling about how the 'world is about to end' or something. You'll get more attention than if you cut yourself and flaunt it because people wil actually bother to take notcie whereas now, it's almost comon place for teenagers to cut.
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August 8th, 2007 at 03:52pm
HysteriaCatherine:
Attention is not the last reason, becouse if someone notice that u have cut your arms or any other part of body, he'll give u some attention (people also want to know why someone have done something).


really because if i see it i just roll my eyes and look away. People who desperately need help don't seek it.
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August 8th, 2007 at 04:07pm
HysteriaCatherine:
Attention is not the last reason, becouse if someone notice that u have cut your arms or any other part of body, he'll give u some attention (people also want to know why someone have done something).


Yes...That's why people cut for attention but its a stupid reason to harm yourself unless you're just so englufed in some kind of emotional or mental problem and you can't bring yourself to talk to anyone so you try and get someone to ask you about it by cutting yourself.

Only that doesn't make a whole lot of sense either.

Like I said, attention is the last reason to cut. If you want attention, ask.
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August 9th, 2007 at 02:01pm
lyrical_mess:


Like I said, attention is the last reason to cut. If you want attention, ask.
What if you don't know how? Dno

It's a pretty hard thing to go up to someone and say "Hey, I'm feeling really depressed and I would really like some attention from someone who can help me". It sounds so simple but when you're already in that place it's one of the hardest things to do.

I've always been terrible at talking about my problems. I'm good with words but I don't like talking about my problems and when I was feeling depressed the only way I could see to tell someone that I wanted help was to self harm. I didn't flaunt it but I knew someone would find out eventually and I knew that when they did they'd get me help.

It worked, too. It depends on what way you look at it; you could say I did it because I was depressed or you could say I did it for attention. Either way it worked and I've stopped since getting help.

You have to remember that if someone cuts themselves for attention then there must be a reason behind it; they must want the attention for some reason.

Maybe that's worth a couple of scars sometimes. Dno
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August 10th, 2007 at 05:47pm
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lyrical_mess:


Like I said, attention is the last reason to cut. If you want attention, ask.
What if you don't know how? Dno

It's a pretty hard thing to go up to someone and say "Hey, I'm feeling really depressed and I would really like some attention from someone who can help me". It sounds so simple but when you're already in that place it's one of the hardest things to do.

I've always been terrible at talking about my problems. I'm good with words but I don't like talking about my problems and when I was feeling depressed the only way I could see to tell someone that I wanted help was to self harm. I didn't flaunt it but I knew someone would find out eventually and I knew that when they did they'd get me help.

It worked, too. It depends on what way you look at it; you could say I did it because I was depressed or you could say I did it for attention. Either way it worked and I've stopped since getting help.

You have to remember that if someone cuts themselves for attention then there must be a reason behind it; they must want the attention for some reason.

Maybe that's worth a couple of scars sometimes. Dno


Yeah, thats right.I wouldn't say it better. And thats why I think attention is not the last reason.
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August 11th, 2007 at 01:32pm
i used to cut but i didnt do it for very long thankfully as a really good mate helped me through it. it didnt help me at all and i didnt ut deep at all excep once and its still healing. if it hadnt of been for my mate that helped me through i dont know how i would of coped or how i would have stopped,.
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August 13th, 2007 at 02:13am
I agree with Snoo, tbh.

I mean, if someone is cutting...maybe a bit of it is for attention. But if someone is cutting for attention, their problems could be just as severe as someone who isn't cutting for attention
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August 13th, 2007 at 02:28pm
Misanthropist:
I agree with Snoo, tbh.

I mean, if someone is cutting...maybe a bit of it is for attention. But if someone is cutting for attention, their problems could be just as severe as someone who isn't cutting for attention


Well... Maybe.
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August 24th, 2007 at 11:44pm
I feel pretty sad.. a lot. For about four years now... A lot of things make me happy... but at the same time.. I'm always worrying... always.. ALWAYS something could go wrong.. or a friend could decide they hate me. I'm always nervous. I feel like nothing can last forever. I'm 18 now... and it's time for me to start becomming an adult.... and in my mind.. I know I'm going to fail miserably. I feel like I'm going to grow old..... be alone forever.. never succede at anything.

I feel.. that if I just up and kill myself.. i'll be saving myself a lot of wasted time.. and saving people a lot wasted time that they would have spent with me.

But I know suicide is bad. I was tought it was bad.. and that it's always better to seek help. But I feel like if i seek help.. or I'm seeing a shrink.. or i'm on meds.. people willl thing i'm crazy. I'm not crazy..and I don't want people to think I'm crazy.

There's no solution... and just recently I started cutting. It makes me feel stupid. But at the time.. it's like instant releif.

anyway.. My opinion on self harm.. and suicide... I guess i just feel like everyone deserves to be happy.

I wish there was no such thing as suicide... and self harm... or depression. But I'm idealistic.. and all of that is impossible.
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October 7th, 2007 at 12:52am
Suicide and self harm!

Excuse me if I am about to write a longer thing but this topic is not about how to make a cake in 5 minutes or something like that.

I registert me into this board to discuss about things that are going on and about things that are important for me.

Suicide and self harm are important for me because i thought of sucide, but i wont do it, and i am happy that my situation is good enough to stay alive.

So, just something extratopic( self harm..... : did you have ever seen : the secretary, no worry it is no porn, but a good film about self harming, for ALL of you outhere who is struggling or living hand in hand with self harm should watch the film)

So, now I really want to start this post, Suicide. First at all letst define suicide!
Suicide: A person takes his own life.
Easy said , don t you think?
Well lets look to what causes suicide!
Thoughts... thoughts are the reason, are the why and because somebody killed himself.
What kind of sorts? Well now the thing is gettin a litt bit bigger.
Lets start from the other side, what keeps us alive? Well i think:

[*]happiness
[*], a reason for the own life,
[*]love ,
[*]goals and dreams.

We want to be someone, we want to reach , fullfill some dream so we stay alive hoping we will make it.
If someone is in absence of one of this thinks or better he has none of this reasons he will think of suicide!.

When are you unhappy?
Well, when you do not get what you want, when other do treat you like shit , when , when something is not doing well as you like.
Reason for the own life
I think this is the best way to get you out of your hole if you think that your life has no sense, THAN GIVE YOUR LIFE a sense. Is there somebody you like of love? Then be there for him, is there a topic that touches your heart? Then participate in that Topic, you will find other peoples that think the same way as you do.
Love
Oh yes , the love, i am not sure if there is one but not there should be a topic about it, if i do not find anything like that i think I will start one xD
Well love is surely the hardest way , there are so many people, so many have a different point of view of love , no it would be better to say that thay live love in a different way as others, surely if you find somebody to love or somebody who loves you , you will surely forget you thoughts of suicide

PAUSE
I write so much becuase I hope i can help somebody , because i hope i can reach somebody, a lost life is something terrible, WE have our life in OUR own HANDS, that is really true.

You do not like how you look? You want to be thinner? YOu want to have more musels, because you think you will gaine more respect, more love more attention? well thant go to the fitnesscenter or do a diet or go to a doctor and let them tell you how to do it... there are so many people that complain so much that they forget that they can do something against theyr own problems
so if you just complain the problem is not big enough because if it really would be big enough you would do something against it

I could continue this post , i could write about what kind of situations there are that are reasons of suicide, i could write so much,
why is this important?
Well matter of fact suicide thoughts are a sign that something is really going wrong in your life it should give you the input to change something, first at all try to make your thouhgs on suicide,
[*]were it comes from ,
[*]why it is here
and if you know were it comes from and what the reasons are
then well congratulations!
You know what to change, you know were to fight back

I am not such kind of a person who loves humans, matter of fact i do not like them Very Happy
but I am sincerely sad when i hear about a teenager or an adult person who takes his own life away
what a waste, what a shame, ;(

all the best to you all

TheBeginner

sry for my english spelling
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Mibba
October 7th, 2007 at 12:56am
That's all great and stuff, but I don't think it should be just generalized like that. It's waaaaaay more complicated.
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October 7th, 2007 at 01:04am
Cobra:
That's all great and stuff, but I don't think it should be just generalized like that. It's waaaaaay more complicated.


Well of course generalizations are not the answer, but you know as the world is made of atoms, you can find in each reason for suicide a thing that is in everyone present, sry if i do express so badly... as english is not my mother tounge

at the end people really do not have so many different reasons of killing them selfs

at the end it is love, at the end it is the feeling of beein seen seen by others and loved

at the end i think , if i may, if you go really to the essence of the prolbem, you l find yourself to one of the things i wrote

but of course i am of your opinion that it is far more complicated but i would say the situation that brought somebody to suicide thouhgs is complicated, the reasons is mostly the same

the best to you all

TheBeginner

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October 7th, 2007 at 01:11am
TheBeginner:

but of course i am of your opinion that it is far more complicated but i would say the situation that brought somebody to suicide thouhgs is complicated, the reasons is mostly the same

I beg to differ. I think every single person out there thinks in their own way, thus reaching different conclusions.
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