Pregnant before marriage

nothing wrong with it at all.
marriage isn't the be all and end all of life anyway

I don't find it wrong at all. My parents didn't marry until my sister was 9, and nothing really changed, and sometimes, having a baby can make 2 people realize that they want to spend their life together.

I don't think getting pregnant before getting married is wrong at all, as long as the people having the kid together love each other and they're gonna love the kid, S'all good.

as long as the 2 people are going to be there for each other and the child i don't see a problem

I don't think think it's wrong. But then again, my mom had me when she wasn't married. But look at me. I turned out fine.

nothin wrong with it just that people belive it wrong like you should'nt have sex before marrige but does any one listen, no so what ever

It's mostly the tradition that makes people believe they have to be married before they have kids.

I mean, sure marriage provides a better environment for children to grow up and all, but what I'm trying to say is that many people only get married because the woman gets pregnant.

As for me if you live with someone for couple of years not being married and you are pregnant it is normal - the other thing if you are going to be a young single mother without boyfiend's support - this is hard!

no

samb13:

no

You bring a lot to the table.

I feel that as long as the couple can healthily support the child then it should be no problem.

My parents had me after they were married, but it really wouldn't have mattered.

Although, they did give me an example that way, and so I used to find it really weird if my friend's parents were not married (and it wasn't a step-parent situation). Not so much, now, but still!

if the parents split up after they're married, the divorce proceedings are probably a harsher thing for a child to deal with than if the parents split having never been married. not saying that it's not tough for the latter, though.

ok well i can tell you personally how i feel about this argument because my mom had me when she was 22, and she was not married. i don't know who my real father is, and i've never asked. he was never around, i've never seen any pictures of him, and i don't even really know how i would bring up this topic to my mom. but anyway.. i think as long as you have a loving family around who is willing to help out, the child won't have problems. i didn't. my mom still lived with her parents, her sister who is a year younger than her, and her brother who was 9 when i was born. there we're always people there to help her out, family and friends. so my mom was able to go to work and finish school. i had a great childhood, and my mom started dating someone when i was about 2 years old i guess, and they got married when i was 4. so the father position was filled eventually. now i have two little brothers, and my uncle is kind of like an older brother to me since we're so close in age.

but i think it sucks when the mother has no family, no job, no education, no boyfriend, anything like that, because it could really affect the kids life. luckily i was, and still am, fortunate enough to have a great family, and a great mom. yea she bugs me sometimes, but without her what would i have?

ok well i can tell you personally how i feel about this argument because my mom had me when she was 22, and she was not married. i don't know who my real father is, and i've never asked. he was never around, i've never seen any pictures of him, and i don't even really know how i would bring up this topic to my mom. but anyway.. i think as long as you have a loving family around who is willing to help out, the child won't have problems. i didn't. my mom still lived with her parents, her sister who is a year younger than her, and her brother who was 9 when i was born. there we're always people there to help her out, family and friends. so my mom was able to go to work and finish school. i had a great childhood, and my mom started dating someone when i was about 2 years old i guess, and they got married when i was 4. so the father position was filled eventually. now i have two little brothers, and my uncle is kind of like an older brother to me since we're so close in age.

but i think it sucks when the mother has no family, no job, no education, no boyfriend, anything like that, because it could really affect the kids life. luckily i was, and still am, fortunate enough to have a great family, and a great mom. yea she bugs me sometimes, but without her what would i have?

sorry, didnt mean to submit that twice

Haha my parents STILL haven't married. xD

Granted, they're not together, but even my mom and stepdad haven't married and they've been togther for 17 years. HAHA. Lazy much?

So I don't see anything necessarily WRONG with it, but I'd prefer to be married first in my position.

haha thats pretty funny actually. my friends parents have been together for like 18 years, and had 3 kids, and only got married earlier this year. i guess for some people these days it could be a money issue if they plan to have a big party.

I think it's fine i mean you should wait but in my case the only way my parents will let me marry my fiance is if i'm pregnant so i thinik its fine but not all should get pregnant right away

Hitchcock Starlet.:

It's mostly the tradition that makes people believe they have to be married before they have kids.

I mean, sure marriage provides a better environment for children to grow up and all, but what I'm trying to say is that many people only get married because the woman gets pregnant.

oh that is true