You spell it 'parent'.
My old class was really immature but we got through the talks just fine. No one blushed in Romeo and Juliet, and in PE, we just shut up and listened.
k.
In our Sex Education class, most of the year were going 'ew!' but a few of them were going 'o lol dats osm'.
Whats better- having your children know about sex and to be cautious or not having them now and have them find out when they're getting treated for a STD?
My mother has never talked about sex to me- but she had a chat with me about puberty. I kinda found out myself, but still it would have been nice to have that talk so that I could understand when people said it.
The Doctor Falling In Love With The Board Age: 34 Gender: Female Posts: 8786
December 22nd, 2006 at 11:15am
My Mom told me three maxims about sexual behavior.
1. If you get pregnant, you're out the house.
2. If you have it with a girl, you're out the house.
3. If you turn it a whore, you're out the house.
That was it. I learned about sex from a combination of The Simpsons, Discovery Channel and a porno video I found in my Mom's room that was marked 'Bambi'.
...
Bambi it wasn't.
Matt Smith Admin Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 31134
December 22nd, 2006 at 11:37am
I think sex should be openly discussed.
I don't think its wrong or dirty.
Children need to know this stuff; my own sex education was pretty crap, I guessed I 'missed the boat' in terms of age. I had one optional session when I was about 10 where we were taught about menstruation and how ovules were fertilized and that was it. No condoms on carrots or anything fancy. I guess it was a bad thing, because I'm still very full of naïveté. =D
Robbie Falling In Love With The Board Age: 33 Gender: Male Posts: 9947
December 22nd, 2006 at 11:40am
Bloodraine:
I think sex should be openly discussed.
I don't think its wrong or dirty.
Children need to know this stuff; my own sex education was pretty crap, I guessed I 'missed the boat' in terms of age. I had one optional session when I was about 10 where we were taught about menstruation and how ovules were fertilized and that was it. No condoms on carrots or anything fancy. I guess it was a bad thing, because I'm still very full of naïveté. =D
Our deputy head teacher waved a large, green plastic penis round and then put it on his head in one of our lessons.
Matt Smith Admin Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 31134
December 22nd, 2006 at 11:46am
Robbie:
Bloodraine:
I think sex should be openly discussed.
I don't think its wrong or dirty.
Children need to know this stuff; my own sex education was pretty crap, I guessed I 'missed the boat' in terms of age. I had one optional session when I was about 10 where we were taught about menstruation and how ovules were fertilized and that was it. No condoms on carrots or anything fancy. I guess it was a bad thing, because I'm still very full of naïveté. =D
Our deputy head teacher waved a large, green plastic penis round and then put it on his head in one of our lessons.
That explains so much about you, Rob.
Robbie Falling In Love With The Board Age: 33 Gender: Male Posts: 9947
December 22nd, 2006 at 11:52am
Bloodraine:
Robbie:
Bloodraine:
I think sex should be openly discussed.
I don't think its wrong or dirty.
Children need to know this stuff; my own sex education was pretty crap, I guessed I 'missed the boat' in terms of age. I had one optional session when I was about 10 where we were taught about menstruation and how ovules were fertilized and that was it. No condoms on carrots or anything fancy. I guess it was a bad thing, because I'm still very full of naïveté. =D
Our deputy head teacher waved a large, green plastic penis round and then put it on his head in one of our lessons.
That explains so much about you, Rob.
I'm not going too deep in to my life but I was forced to mature quicker than I believe I should have and that my... nature has something to do with this. Any of you who know me even vaguely will know I'm an open person.
I think sex should be openly discussed.
I don't think its wrong or dirty.
Children need to know this stuff; my own sex education was pretty crap, I guessed I 'missed the boat' in terms of age. I had one optional session when I was about 10 where we were taught about menstruation and how ovules were fertilized and that was it. No condoms on carrots or anything fancy. I guess it was a bad thing, because I'm still very full of naïveté. =D
Our deputy head teacher waved a large, green plastic penis round and then put it on his head in one of our lessons.
My Mom told me three maxims about sexual behavior.
1. If you get pregnant, you're out the house.
2. If you have it with a girl, you're out the house.
3. If you turn it a whore, you're out the house.
That was it. I learned about sex from a combination of The Simpsons, Discovery Channel and a porno video I found in my Mom's room that was marked 'Bambi'.
...
Bambi it wasn't.
... I hope you're joking, but I guess you aren't. o_o;
Those rules by your mom are ... aweful.
worn-out astronaut. Had A Life Before GSB Age: 31 Gender: Female Posts: 28177
December 22nd, 2006 at 04:43pm
juxtapose.:
I think sex should be openly discussed.
I don't think its wrong or dirty.
Children need to know this stuff; my own sex education was pretty crap, I guessed I 'missed the boat' in terms of age. I had one optional session when I was about 10 where we were taught about menstruation and how ovules were fertilized and that was it. No condoms on carrots or anything fancy. I guess it was a bad thing, because I'm still very full of naïveté. =D
You at least have sexual education. We dont have that in schools, but I think that this church group si going to make a program. Cant say that that will be good. We have a class about AIDS and other, what you can get if not using a condom. But in the end it all ends up that the doctor is making fun of us and saying how sex is really bad and how its best for us not to be having any until marriage. Which doesnt really suprise me, the questions that some people ask
we have no sex ed in our school
theres a girl in the middle school thats pregnant, probably because no one ever talked to her.... sigh..
Old Gregg King For A Couple Of Days Age: 32 Gender: - Posts: 4119
December 22nd, 2006 at 11:00pm
guitars_are_sexy:
we have no sex ed in our school
theres a girl in the middle school thats pregnant, probably because no one ever talked to her.... sigh..
Well obviously someone talked to her.
And how does nobody talking to her have anythign to do with getting pregnant?
We had mixed health classes all through middle school, so some of the booys were a bit immature, but for the most part it was very intresting.
We had this game where you had to pick a bag..and each of them had different "STDs" in them
I got AIDS and a Mr. Pibb
Misanthropist Post Whore Age: 31 Gender: Female Posts: 23279
December 22nd, 2006 at 11:56pm
ttttaylorrrr </3:
guitars_are_sexy:
we have no sex ed in our school
theres a girl in the middle school thats pregnant, probably because no one ever talked to her.... sigh..
Well obviously someone talked to her. And how does nobody talking to her have anythign to do with getting pregnant?
We had mixed health classes all through middle school, so some of the booys were a bit immature, but for the most part it was very intresting.
We had this game where you had to pick a bag..and each of them had different "STDs" in them
I got AIDS and a Mr. Pibb
Attention starved leading to the desperate need of being wanted so they turn to sex with someone who shows them attention?
Only in extreme cases of course, but I've known that to happen.
Matt Smith Admin Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 31134
December 23rd, 2006 at 04:30am
ttttaylorrrr </3:
guitars_are_sexy:
we have no sex ed in our school
theres a girl in the middle school thats pregnant, probably because no one ever talked to her.... sigh..
Well obviously someone talked to her.
And how does nobody talking to her have anythign to do with getting pregnant?
We had mixed health classes all through middle school, so some of the booys were a bit immature, but for the most part it was very intresting.
We had this game where you had to pick a bag..and each of them had different "STDs" in them
I got AIDS and a Mr. Pibb
I think she meant "wtf why is meg not bloodraine, I bet she just want to confuse Courtney."
back to sex...
I think education is important, however in all honesty, some of you are saying tell them when they are really young, and I find that pointless. Whats the point in telling a 5 year old to use a condom?
Talk to them when it matters so that what you're telling them is actually going to have an impact on them.
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And how does nobody talking to her have anythign to do with getting pregnant?
Thats exactly my point, no one talked to her when she needed it. She wasn't aware of all of the precautions she needed to take, nor was she aware of the concequences. She may have known "yeah, sex creates kids" or "STDS are bad" but that isn't enough. She didn't know how bad they are, nor did she know enuogh about protection to not have kids. No one talking to her has everything to do with it.
Misanthropist Post Whore Age: 31 Gender: Female Posts: 23279
December 23rd, 2006 at 11:30am
About being unaware, how can that continue for very long? Sex is on the television, in songs and in school. If you are aware of those, chances are you know some details on sex. A lot of people who don't learn sex ed from their parents get it from school, or friends. School makes you aware so getting pregnant because she was unaware, doesn't really stand. Some schools start sex ed in grade four.
lyrical_mess Falling In Love With The Board Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 5278
December 23rd, 2006 at 12:39pm
Sex ed in grade four? That's a little extreme. Maybe puberty talks in grade four are more appropriate. We had this thing called "Growing Up Program" in fifth grade, seperate for the boys and girls. Then in sixth, we had it again, still not mixed. Only this time, the girls got to see the boys stuff (by which I mean the video and worksheets and whatnot) and the boys got to see the girls stuff. The classrooms were right next to each other and the boys were like, whistling and stuff...
In seventh, we had mixed classes and they taught us about STDs and prevention but no teacher actually mention what intercourse was until eighth.
I actually have a funny story. When I was 7, my dad got us this children's encyclopedia and I was obsessed with it. I memorized it. So there was a thing about fetuses (fetusi?) and how they develop. It said that a fetus is formed from a fertilized human egg. So one day, when my mommy was taking me to a piano class, I was like
"How does a human egg get fertilized?". My mom stopped dead at a red light, turns around to look at me, then goes back to looking at the road. Finally, she goes "... They'll tell you in college."
It's actually not that funny, but it says something about the attitude towards sex. But they're really trying to change that now. There's all these ads on TV that tell you to openly talk about condoms, sex, and AIDS. That's a good thing. But American attitudes towards sex need to change too. Someone said their teacher played with a green toy penis. See? It's just a big joke to people.
And also this whole stereotype of "boys only want sex" or whatever. But yeah, I agree with what someone said earlier. It's pretty fascinating. Not in a perverted "SEXXXXX" type of way, but from a scientific and psychological point of view.
No, this is not a thread for people to openly talk about sex O_o.
But what's the stand on openly discussing sex and sexual issues? People get embrarrased easily (well, a lot of people. not all of them), and they consider it taboo in a lot of countries. When we were reading Romeo and Juliet in eight grade, half the class blushed when the word "breast" appeared. And it was talking about breast as in the are of the body where the heart is.
In health class, for the two weeks we spent on reproductive systems, the whole class was dead-silent. No one was asking questions or anything. When the teacher asked us "You all know what intercourse is, right? I mean, you understand?" we were all like, red-faced (I admit it) and he asked us to tell him what it was. No one raised their hand.
You might say that it was because it was a room full of eight graders (I'm in tenth now). But the truth is, no one treats sex like an objective bodily function. It's dirty. It's sick. People don't treat it like it's normal.
I mean, okay, it spreads diseases. Be wary. But come on! The other day when we were learning about HIV/AIDS in biology and the teacher mentioned (in a very shaky voice) that we should practice safe-sex and use a condom, the boy who sits behind me goes "Ma'am, why do we have to learn something so disgusting?".
K, so I'm done with my mini-rant. Any thoughts?
My Honors Bio teacher taught us about the dangers of Anal sex for about 10 minutes, consider yourself lucky.
Personally, I feel strongly that parents should discuss sexuality with their children. Human sexuality is a natural, beautiful form of expression and if discussed openly gives you the peace of mind as a parent that you know they will not be misinformed by their peers. My husband and I do not believe in censoring our children and have always treated them as young adults. Cultural reluctance to educate young people about human sexuality and cultural reaction of shame and punishment for young people's experimentation and access to information through the prolific pornography industry is an intrinsically related combination which fosters unhealthy cultural human sexuality. Unhealthy in the sense that shame and ignorance become barriers to people's healthy and safe concepts and practice of sexuality. A culture which will not educate itself about sex in order to "protect" itself is left (on many levels) ironically unprotected.
Very, very well put, while the proverbail "ship" had already sailed with me, i understand where everyone is coming from.
Misanthropist Post Whore Age: 31 Gender: Female Posts: 23279
December 23rd, 2006 at 10:56pm
lyrical_gaah52:
Sex ed in grade four? That's a little extreme. Maybe puberty talks in grade four are more appropriate. We had this thing called "Growing Up Program" in fifth grade, seperate for the boys and girls. Then in sixth, we had it again, still not mixed. Only this time, the girls got to see the boys stuff (by which I mean the video and worksheets and whatnot) and the boys got to see the girls stuff. The classrooms were right next to each other and the boys were like, whistling and stuff...
It was a talk on STD's in grade four, and a briefing on how babies are made. I didn't attend school in grade five so idk what they learned there, grade six was girls only sex ed about periods, puberty and any questions we had on sex. Grade seven we got packages for our periods, and another talk of sex. Grade eight we got nothing, grade nine we get it twice: once in science, and once in health.
And it's not fetus, it's foetus, singular and fetuses plural (I think I'm right on the plural, at least).
I think she meant "wtf why is meg not bloodraine, I bet she just want to confuse Courtney."
back to sex...
We're not all british.