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October 5th, 2007 at 08:52pm
Everyone makes mistakes, no matter how perfect we think we all are. A lot of our mistakes go unnoticed and we don’t learn from them, then there is the mistakes that are unavoidable and ruin everything we have already planned. Some of the mistakes we all make are minor and no one really cares about them until it effects them. Then there is the more serious mistakes that go towards regret, we’ve all regretted something in our lives even those who deny it. We regret not being with the people we care about when they need us most, we regret saying things that seriously hurt others and change the course of our lives. We regret what we said, or for lack of a better word the things we didn’t say. I know I have, have you?
The point I’m trying to make is that everyone makes mistakes, no one’s perfect so why do so many people try to be. Is it because they are scared of letting people down? Letting themselves down? Or is it because a lot of people don’t want to admit that they did something wrong and don’t want to take the consequences.

The world is a big place and when mistakes are made by our generation they aren’t thought too kindly upon. According to senior citizens the people between the age of 8-25 are all trouble makers, how do they work that one out? Because its happening in the newspapers, on the T.V, and on the streets. Our world is changing, we are changing and making mistakes as we go along, learning the lessons that come with it. But some people, just doesn’t see it like that. Because we don’t live in fear of authority we are considered “Yobs”, we experiment with alcohol and drugs and take the consequences for it. Our generation is looked down at by the people who don’t know what it’s like growing up in our world, there is so much pressure there that we all instantly snap making some of the hasty decisions that nobody wants to see their children go through. But the pressure just doesn’t come from peers or drugs or alcohol. It comes from closer to home.

Parents and teachers constantly warn people over the dangers of drugs, sex underage and exams. Of course taking drugs is bad for you, but how about the people that it helps? They don’t explain that in case we have this idea to go and do drugs, some of us may do drugs because we want to .Not because someone tells us to, the whole thing about sex really bugs me on how we apparently need to be educated on it. But if your wise enough to make that decision, use protection and doing the deed with someone you really care about then it shouldn’t be wrong. If a girl becomes pregnant at an early age, it is considered bad. But can't a young mother take care of a child the same way as a mother who is older and married? They aren't given that chance nor will they ever have that chance to prove themselves to others and say " I can do it, just the same as everyone else". The older generation and teachers should be encouraging more youngsters to act mature in these situations, but yet again they don’t. They only want us to know about the dangers and bad things about having sex, it could hurt( obviously), you can have STI’s and you can get pregnant. The generation who is older than us, head and shoulders above our apparent maturity tries to scare us out of having mature relationships. If we make a mistake we can learn from it, whether some people agree or not we still have the right to make mistakes, learn from them then move on.

The whole concept of exams is getting tiring, so many people are being encouraged and so many people are being let down. Not just by their parents, or themselves but teachers. Teachers have this amazing way to try and push you into their way of thinking, “ get good grades to give the teacher a good name”. We all try in exams and when we fail, we all feel miserable not only because of us but because we know we are going to be ridiculed at school. Not everyone is meant to be a rocket scientist, not everyone wants to have a job where it counts on the best exam results. Some people want to do different things, but there’s no room for individuality as far as life is concerned.
Near exam time everyone panics on what they have to revise and obviously no one is that perfect to remember everything. So why do they expect us to?
Because all they care about is gaining themselves a good name, getting to be known as one of the hardest working teachers of the year who push and push and push. But a teacher can only push so far when the pupil finally snaps. Under extreme pressure anyone would snap, but is it really fair for fifteen year olds to go through it when they still haven’t apparently come to grips with maturity. If we aren’t mature for the world, what makes them so sure we are mature for sitting exams and planning our futures. Honestly all I can say is that I’m pretty sure that I don’t want to grow up just yet, in fact I’m certain of it. You have your whole life to work and make money and only a precious few years called childhood to actually have fun, after that any dreams of making it as teenager is snuffed out by those who say its impossible. We are only children for at least sixteen years and the rest of our lives we have to live up to others expectations, we still have to as children and that fear of being told what to do, how to live and possibly how to make our world a better place is drummed into our heads.

All through life we experience mistakes, some of the mistakes I make is sometimes different to the mistakes that friends make. But isn’t that the point of growing up? Making mistakes and building our lives the way we want to live them, if you live in today’s world you obviously can’t because someone will find something wrong with it.
There’s a brighter side to life, which people often forget and pretend that it isn’t there just so they can whine and complain about every little thing. We might not be able to change the world but we can change our lives, making the decisions that we want to make and learning from the mistakes that happen.
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October 6th, 2007 at 05:20am
If you want more replies, you might shorten the novel a bit. haha. I know I'm not going to read through that all, anyway...
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October 7th, 2007 at 05:46am
Maybe this would be better as a blog? Think Can't seem to find what we're supposed to debate. Oh well, we could just make something up.
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October 7th, 2007 at 03:19pm
I appreciate you sharing your english essay with us, seeing how proud of it you must be but care to explain what exactly are we supposed to be debating?
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October 7th, 2007 at 06:45pm
After reading that all again, a second time, I have managed to find mistakes in your rants.

Firstly, our generation has had it no harder than the previous, infact, it is possible that they have had a tougher time than we have. It was them after all who fought against Nazi Germany and/or were imprisoned in concentration camps. There are very few places in the world today that mimic the conditions that those people had to go through, so I do think that they are sometimes right in thinking that we are not as grateful as we should be for our own lives. And I don't think there is anywhere in the world right now were the undertaking of an efficient eradication of an entire race is taking place, so all the more reason for us to take our lives into more consideration.

Though I do agree there is a lot less freedom now than before, especially when talking about Nazi Germany. I think it was Decartes who said that the 'French have never been freer' during the Nazi occupation of France, a statment which I whole heartedly agree with in a morbid kind of fashion. What, he meant of course, apart from causing an out cry from the masses, was that the French have never had a more clear path to take, ever before. They could either join the Nazis and live reasonably well, or choose to join the Resistance, and almost certainly die.

Our generation's uncertainty has caused many youths to take stupid choices in life sometimes, because the consequences themselves were unclear.

I don't understand the drugs bit, but some people are too stupid to have safe sex. The younger the mother is, the more likely she is to not have the resources to care for her child, there is a proven correlation. Of course, the affection the child receives
shouldn't change, but the living conditions would certainly be different in comparison to a planned child with financially secure parents.

Thirdly, you live in a shit place, with shit people obviously. Because my parents and teachers are certainly more encouraging than yours, thank God. You know, after grad party last year, all my mates and I and some teachers went out to party again and we all ended up getting high on some hash. Quite funny really, the teachers didn't seem to care at all about acting maturely, it seems that might just be an isolated issue. Yeah, sure a majority of teachers would like their students to accomplish things in life and not screw themselves out, but I think all of them would just as equally admit that you should have fun too. I dunno, I tend to be on really good terms with my teachers, I doubt that you are though. My tutor even told us that peer pressure, looking cool, curiosity, all those things aren't the reason people do drugs in the first place, it's obviously due to pleasure or noone would do drugs in the first place.

However, is spending money on drugs worth more than getting a secure job with a decent amount of payment (to then spend money on drugs with)? Teachers who pressure you to do well are correct in that case, I believe. But there is a certain amount of pressure a teenager can take, of course.

Really, though, there are two courses of action to take in these circumstances. You can either do all your courses, do all the work you need to do in school, pass everyithing to your best ability, and then relax for the rest of your life. Or you can do nothing and then wait till you're in your thirties to start your formal education. I hope you realise that the reason we take the subjects we take at the difficulty they're taught at is because it relates to the development of your brain. A thirty year old with fifteen years more preperation in life will not do as well as a fifteen year old at GCSE's. It's designed so that subject material progresses at a similar pace to the development of your brain. Year 7's, for example, do not understand abstract theories of philosophy and science very well at all, which is why it is not taught. Once in year 9 or so, your mind moves from the literal to the abstract where we start to think more deeply into the problems and issues of our being and stuff like that, and that is when more difficult subject matter is introduced. That's why the education board has divided up the levels of education into 'key stages' as you may have heard them being referred to. They do use a biological process to determin what should or should not be taught. They do have our best interests in mind. It's just that they assume that we are all interested in, I don't know, learning about the movement of the skeleton, or something, which we aren't, but it is still taught at a level which is considered reasonable for our education age. Anyway, it's even tougher if you live where I do, expectations are way higher over here. A year 12 student last year in this school was the top contender in the IGCSE exams which are a hell of a lot tougher than GCSE's, and I shouldn't even get started about the IB programme which I finished last year and is even tougher than university. So if you want to talk about high expectations, I'd be welcome to, but I'd hate to bore you because I'm sure I know more about those than you do.

Anyway, yeah everyone makes mistakes, but there is a point where there are just an unreasonable amount of mistakes to be made and people are just being blatantly stupid about them and can't be bothered to do anything about them.
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October 7th, 2007 at 06:54pm
Anji:
Maybe this would be better as a blog? Think Can't seem to find what we're supposed to debate. Oh well, we could just make something up.
That's what I thought.

Although after reading it, my eyes hurt and I can't really think up something intelligent to say in response. You've most likely said it all for me though. Faith
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October 11th, 2007 at 07:02pm
We could debate on how far people are responsible for their own mistakes/ how mistakes affect your life, couldn't we? Which is kind of interesting. Because even the tiniest mistake could shatter your world. Imagine: Its the last test of the semester and you took Honors Chem this year. Its reallllly tough. The last question is an essay question on...equilibrium reactions or something. And they want examples. The first example you give, you make a mistake with the equation. The rest of the question depends on that equation. The whole damn thing is now a mistake. That essay question was worth 7 points and you are now 7 points short of passing that test. You don't get to graduate. You now work in a gas station and college freshmen throw chewed bubblegum at you.

That one mistake screwed up your life. I mean, that was a bit of an exaggerated example since you'd have to have done horrible in chem througout the year. But you could make it the beginning of the year. And you flunked and got discouraged. Your parents yelled at you for doing so poorly. You feel so down and feel like you can't do chem. You fail chemistry entirely. Whose mistake is it? Yours for not studying enough? Your teacher for not offering you extra classes? Your parents for yelling at you?
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October 11th, 2007 at 08:51pm
you know, not everything in this forum is a debate. Coolio it's called specific discussion.And, if you're just commenting to tell someone you won't read what they wrote because it's too long, don't spam the thread please.

There is alot to discuss on the concept of mistakes. How you learn from them, are there "good mistakes", how many times is something considered a mistake before it becomes irresponsible, ect. This is a great topic.
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October 13th, 2007 at 04:10pm
Debates are generally more interesting. Coffee
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October 15th, 2007 at 08:10pm
Anji:
Debates are generally more interesting. Coffee

Thats your opinion. There isn't anything wrong with having a topic for just discussing.
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October 16th, 2007 at 09:30pm
I like discussing this topic, too.
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October 21st, 2007 at 01:55am
I think the majority of people don't learn from mistakes, I'll post again with my points and what not when I'm not dying of hunger and sleep deprivation.
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October 24th, 2007 at 10:52am
I think it depends on how big your mistakes are and what consequences they had as to whether or not you will learn from them.

Also what is regarded as a "mistake" is relative to every individual. So therefore when you say that everyone has made mistakes, that is not necessarily true. Regret is not the same thing as mistake.
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October 24th, 2007 at 02:11pm
Well...There are some strict parents, some of them do not let their children do certain things, okay for example, how can a girl learn from having sex, getting pregnant, having a baby, and then say that she learned from that???
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October 24th, 2007 at 02:11pm
i think that for some mistakes you cannot learn from them
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October 24th, 2007 at 02:17pm
Strict parents shouldn't be what's stopping you from having underage, unprotected sex. Well obviously there are some things that you know in advance that are going to happen.. ie. If you have sex without a condom, you will get pregnant. Mistakes are things that you didn't foresee the consequences of or didnt mean to do. Purposely having unprotected sex when you don't want a baby is not a mistake, its stupid.

And I'm sure, if that example did occur, that you would certainly learn a great deal from it.
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October 24th, 2007 at 03:13pm
Agreed.
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October 27th, 2007 at 11:51am
Who's to say that patronizing parents and grandparents aren't a mistake themselves? Dno Hollywood certainly seems to think that, but then again, Hollywood has always had a very liberal bias.
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