Friendship problems. Help?
OK.
So, I have a lovely group of friends.
Except one of them is a bit... well, not so great. =/
Now, everyone in my group has some form of obsession. Mine being Green Day/music and horses, and others being with a TV show or something else.
This girl, though, has no taste of her own. Instead, she claims she likes everything we do.
This isn't the entire problem. It's when she begins to go on about how much she loves it and all, and then starts being overly obsessed.
Now, I think part of the reason for this is her need to fit in. She thinks that she has to like everything we do to get us to like her more or something. She doesn't understand that we like people for who they are. =/
But something really incredibly annoying has been happening over good old Myspazz. OK, so on her profile under her interests she has listed all of our obsessions - including Green Day. Now, don't get me wrong - I'm not someone who always tries to be different to everyone else or whatever. It's the fact she knows nothing about them or their music, and yet tries to involve herself in my excitement over anything they do.
That's not all. My friend Sarah has a list of random facts in her about me section on Myspace.
This girl has copied and pasted what Sarah said. Hasn't even changed the punctuation, and has just left it like that.
Naturally, Sarah has gotten a bit annoyed.
This girl, of course, has taken her annoyance the wrong way.
But this isn't the end of it all.
While at a sleepover with two of my friends, this girl began an over analysing bitching type session on everyone in our group. Even about the two girls sitting in front of her.
This particular girl claims that my obsession with Green Day is 'hiding my innner problems.' Now, I personally don't believe I have any inner problems. I'm perfectly happy at the moment.
I don't know what to do. Obviously this girl feels the need to fit in so badly - and it's driving us crazy! We want her to be with us for who she is, not what she likes.
So, I have a lovely group of friends.
Except one of them is a bit... well, not so great. =/
Now, everyone in my group has some form of obsession. Mine being Green Day/music and horses, and others being with a TV show or something else.
This girl, though, has no taste of her own. Instead, she claims she likes everything we do.
This isn't the entire problem. It's when she begins to go on about how much she loves it and all, and then starts being overly obsessed.
Now, I think part of the reason for this is her need to fit in. She thinks that she has to like everything we do to get us to like her more or something. She doesn't understand that we like people for who they are. =/
But something really incredibly annoying has been happening over good old Myspazz. OK, so on her profile under her interests she has listed all of our obsessions - including Green Day. Now, don't get me wrong - I'm not someone who always tries to be different to everyone else or whatever. It's the fact she knows nothing about them or their music, and yet tries to involve herself in my excitement over anything they do.
That's not all. My friend Sarah has a list of random facts in her about me section on Myspace.
This girl has copied and pasted what Sarah said. Hasn't even changed the punctuation, and has just left it like that.
Naturally, Sarah has gotten a bit annoyed.
This girl, of course, has taken her annoyance the wrong way.
But this isn't the end of it all.
While at a sleepover with two of my friends, this girl began an over analysing bitching type session on everyone in our group. Even about the two girls sitting in front of her.
This particular girl claims that my obsession with Green Day is 'hiding my innner problems.' Now, I personally don't believe I have any inner problems. I'm perfectly happy at the moment.
I don't know what to do. Obviously this girl feels the need to fit in so badly - and it's driving us crazy! We want her to be with us for who she is, not what she likes.
Gah! That sucks so bad D:
I dunno really what to do, but I reckon you should confront her =]
But not all of you at teh same time..she'll probably feel intimidated or something..but you definetely need to get it through her head :D
She needs to know that she can be herself..
Lol, that be pretty much what everyone else said XD
But good luck Eggeh!!! :D :D
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Xx__SkittleWhisperer, July 17th, 2007 at 10:08:08am
maybe you should tell her...to well, stop trying so hard to be you and your other friends. maybe you can tell her that she needs to try and be herself...or to try to find herself. does she even really like Green Day? i mean, if she doesn't, tell her that she doesn't have to lke Green Day to be accepted as a friend of yours........=/ i hope that helped....let alone made sense......i hope you can fix this problem =] good luck!
ShesANimrod, July 17th, 2007 at 04:07:21am
try telling her perfectly politely what the problem is and if she gets upset just ask her why , we were doing what friends do by telling you the truth and looking out for you before you get hurt in a nastier way
sort of thing i would do...usually works
Sarah!, July 16th, 2007 at 04:48:12pm
I have a friend that copies & pastes tonnes of my things.
It's annoying to the max.
I have a friend that is apparently the biggest Green Day fan ever too, who also knows nothing about them. She's nice & all, but it's frustrating.
I honestly don't know how to help, seeing I'm in the same situation.
Maybe we should just sit & read other people's comments together. XD
Skippy., July 16th, 2007 at 01:30:00pm
f*cking punch her.
Tell her to stop being so god damn annoying. Because that's what's pissing you all off. Her NOT being her.
Tre Cool Junkeh, July 16th, 2007 at 01:24:32pm
K, I'm not good with advice, but try and bring the problem up with her. iunno, cause if I was in that situation, I'd go absolutely ballistic. But don't do that.
Good luck! :)
Riot on the Radio, July 16th, 2007 at 01:18:16pm