You're To Young To Be In Love.




Is there really an age restriction on falling in love? What age suddenly makes you able to fall in love? What is it inside that triggers you to be able to have those kinds of feelings for someone? Who decided this? Someone who didn’t have those feelings until they were older?

I think why most teenagers are doubted or questioned about actually being in love with their boyfriend/girlfriend is the fact that usually, it’s not love. No, this is not because they are young. This is because “love” is not something that is often looked for in High School. Love to me is a feeling so strong, that you know with all your heart that that person is meant for you and you know that you will last forever with them. But honestly…if you really think about that, how many high school-ers actually want that?

Some of the reasons that I know a lot of teenagers want a boyfriend/girlfriend in high school are as follows;

Trying to fit in is something that shouldn’t be looked down upon. Everyone wants to be accepted, right? Even if that means following the crowd. Getting a boyfriend/girlfriend may make that person seem “cooler” or more wanted because of the fact they have someone to call all there own. Maybe the fact that they want to fit in so badly, they want that person in their lives to make them seem important.

Desperate times, call for desperate measures. Having trouble with friends? Having a boyfriend/girlfriend may seem like a relief for the pains of growing up. That one person in your life that you can call all your own and that you can feel like you trust. It’s a best friend yet so much more. Someone to support you and fall back on. But does that honestly mean that you’d want to literally spend forever with them?

Attention is something that quite a few people feel they are lacking. Having a new boyfriend/girlfriend should get at least some people talking, right? Walking down the hall holding their hand should get so stares. Having that person being “your property” ensures at least some attention from him/her…so why not?

Deep affection and incredible adoration of a person can be mistaken for love very easily. No, it does not make the person stupid, ignorant, teeniesh, or anything less than human. Sometimes its like you want to believe that you are in love. Maybe the thought of actually being in love is so strong that something in you triggers the false sense.

No, this is not true with all high school students…but sex is a big part of relationships. Having that “hot girlfriend” or “hot boyfriend” can score you popularity points, and get the school talking. Being able to brag about how far you got with your girlfriend after the football game in the boys locker room during gym, or gossiping about how big his “wooooo” was with the girls…yes this is appealing to some people. Maybe even you.

Do you really want to get that serious in your life just yet? Do you really want to find someone to spend forever with? Think about how many boys/girls you will crush on, fall for, date, and breakup with. Do you think that you have to find that one special person just yet? Doesn’t it frighten you at all to be that serious already in your life?

But I do believe that you can fall in love at any age. Being so young and so new to this whole “dating thing” makes it almost impossible to fall in love. But yes it can happen.

Think of it this way; wasn’t there something (i.e: tv show, band, hobby) that you were quite fond of as a child? But when years past it didn’t seem as important, and/or childish? Didn’t those feelings change with age?

You are a teenager. A 98237498237498374 feelings and changes are going through your body right now. Your decision making isn’t at its best stage, you’re battling with yourself, teachers, parents, everyone and everything else. You sometimes act on impulse and do irrational things. You are a teenger. It’s normal.

Don’t think you have to fall in love just yet. Just try and make it out of high school alive first. Stay with your friends. Date around. Don’t put that much pressure on yourself.
Posted on March 18th, 2008 at 12:11am

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