You're To Young To Be In Love.
Is there really an age restriction on falling in love? What age suddenly makes you able to fall in love? What is it inside that triggers you to be able to have those kinds of feelings for someone? Who decided this? Someone who didn’t have those feelings until they were older?
I think why most teenagers are doubted or questioned about actually being in love with their boyfriend/girlfriend is the fact that usually, it’s not love. No, this is not because they are young. This is because “love” is not something that is often looked for in High School. Love to me is a feeling so strong, that you know with all your heart that that person is meant for you and you know that you will last forever with them. But honestly…if you really think about that, how many high school-ers actually want that?
Some of the reasons that I know a lot of teenagers want a boyfriend/girlfriend in high school are as follows;
Trying to fit in is something that shouldn’t be looked down upon. Everyone wants to be accepted, right? Even if that means following the crowd. Getting a boyfriend/girlfriend may make that person seem “cooler” or more wanted because of the fact they have someone to call all there own. Maybe the fact that they want to fit in so badly, they want that person in their lives to make them seem important.
Desperate times, call for desperate measures. Having trouble with friends? Having a boyfriend/girlfriend may seem like a relief for the pains of growing up. That one person in your life that you can call all your own and that you can feel like you trust. It’s a best friend yet so much more. Someone to support you and fall back on. But does that honestly mean that you’d want to literally spend forever with them?
Attention is something that quite a few people feel they are lacking. Having a new boyfriend/girlfriend should get at least some people talking, right? Walking down the hall holding their hand should get so stares. Having that person being “your property” ensures at least some attention from him/her…so why not?
Deep affection and incredible adoration of a person can be mistaken for love very easily. No, it does not make the person stupid, ignorant, teeniesh, or anything less than human. Sometimes its like you want to believe that you are in love. Maybe the thought of actually being in love is so strong that something in you triggers the false sense.
No, this is not true with all high school students…but sex is a big part of relationships. Having that “hot girlfriend” or “hot boyfriend” can score you popularity points, and get the school talking. Being able to brag about how far you got with your girlfriend after the football game in the boys locker room during gym, or gossiping about how big his “wooooo” was with the girls…yes this is appealing to some people. Maybe even you.
Do you really want to get that serious in your life just yet? Do you really want to find someone to spend forever with? Think about how many boys/girls you will crush on, fall for, date, and breakup with. Do you think that you have to find that one special person just yet? Doesn’t it frighten you at all to be that serious already in your life?
But I do believe that you can fall in love at any age. Being so young and so new to this whole “dating thing” makes it almost impossible to fall in love. But yes it can happen.
Think of it this way; wasn’t there something (i.e: tv show, band, hobby) that you were quite fond of as a child? But when years past it didn’t seem as important, and/or childish? Didn’t those feelings change with age?
You are a teenager. A 98237498237498374 feelings and changes are going through your body right now. Your decision making isn’t at its best stage, you’re battling with yourself, teachers, parents, everyone and everything else. You sometimes act on impulse and do irrational things. You are a teenger. It’s normal.
Don’t think you have to fall in love just yet. Just try and make it out of high school alive first. Stay with your friends. Date around. Don’t put that much pressure on yourself.
being in love and loving someone are two different things, arent they now?
princess consuela, June 23rd, 2008 at 05:14:17pm
amazing blog.
I totally belive there's no age limit on love. I also belive that love can still be real without being forever. People change and so can their affections. It's only natural.
When i was a kiddo, i loved Barbie. I really really really did. But i'm not the same person i was when i was 6. I've changed. And so has barbie. Does that mean i didnt truly love Barbie? No. I did love her then. I just dont now, and chances are, she doesnt love me.
Umberto, March 22nd, 2008 at 05:33:14am
i've never been in love..
and the reason why i want a boyfriend its really simply, i mean everyday a lot of couples walks around and they seem realy really really happy.. and yeah it wouuld be nice to share that happiness with soemone you apreciate
:)
Emo Orange Bunneh Ears, March 21st, 2008 at 04:23:29pm
I think its impossible for anyone in their teens/high school to know the true meaning of love.
I mean, when I see a couple who have been together for years and years and they are very obviously happy and still going strong - i call that love.
I don't call dating for a fair few months when you're fifteen years old, love.
Good blog, though.
j'adore., March 21st, 2008 at 02:53:59pm
There's a boy that claims he loves me.
i say i do, only because isn't that what
you're supposed to do? look out for the
ones that care the most?
i say i love you.
but it's all a big fat lie.
._.
Fallop!an Cwac Cwac., March 19th, 2008 at 05:48:10pm
Some people overuse the word way too much tbh. It's disturbing how many people have someone in real life and someone on the web, telling both most likely "I will love you forever".
It is possible for a teen to fall in love, and good luck to them. But for those just filling in time or doing it for the sake of popularity? Wow, way to take someone else's feeling into consideration - user much? If that's a persons intention for being with someone they should be upfront about it. If not it highlights the fact there is still a LOT of growing up to be done.
Grandma, March 19th, 2008 at 12:02:20am
Some may not agree (with there "love as no age limit" crap), but I sure as hell do. Out of every guy (my age or close to it) I've ever known, only 3 of them are still friends/still talk to their ex girlfriend(s).
Perhapse a rough breakup? Hmmm, mabie they weren't meant for eachother after all. Even though they did repeat "I'll love you forever" to eachother the week before. Thats cause you're right. Real love is not very common in your typical high school.
This is why I choose to remain single. Even though you always hit on me every time you see that I'm online. Hahahaha.
Blarg!, March 18th, 2008 at 04:22:55pm
I've fallen in love.
And I really dont care about the age thing, Age is nothing.
And I think that if you honestly love the person; Any age is an age to get serious.
It's different for other people I suppose.
Tholomew Plague, March 18th, 2008 at 04:05:46pm
*claps*
Amazing. Thank you. This blog actually states the reason why I broke up with my boyfriend a little while ago. He thought it was love and wanted to be with me for the rest of his life, I thought it was obsession and was scared that I would be with the same person all through highschool, and the rest of my life. Neither of us had that much experience to go by. How would we have known?
You made a good point.. though some people would find it totally romantic and cute that they're with the same person since highschool, I think it would be hard.. without knowing what else there is out there and if you could be truly happier with someone else. o_o That sounds mean.
Anyway. Good blog. =]
Hello, My Name Is Asshole, March 18th, 2008 at 03:46:13pm
Interesting blog, yet I have to say I have trouble following your point. When I read your title and the first lines I thought you'd write that it doesn't matter how old you are when you truly love someone. But for 90% of your blog you totally get away from that point, as far as I understand. You say most people in high school don't love their boyfriends, they just see them as someone to raise their status?, someone who gives them some attention when they need it? If you ask me, being with someone for those reasons is sad. You can't wait for someone to make you "happy", it just helps for a second, especially when in the end those "partners" don't really "love" you either.
Also, you might not look for someone to "love" in high school, yet you may find true love without searching. And just because you're still pretty young that doesn't mean that you can't have that special kind of feeling for someone. You say it might be deep affection but not love? What gives you the right to judge that? You don't know what's really inside a person's heart.
Some kids might want to get serious pretty early in their life. We're not the ones to judge about that. We can say we have our doubts, or we can say that we wouldn't do it that way, but in the end it's their life and if they are sure about it then they should go for it.
I truly believe that love can reach everyone, as you said it too. But when you say that you suddenly go away from the whole "you cant find love in high school" to your thought at the beginning ("no matter what age you are, everyone can love"), even though you were only given reasons for the complete opposite so far.
I agree that kids shouldn't put too much pressure on having a boyfriend. I like how in the end your blog kind of comforts kids who might be insecure. That's really good. And it's true, they still have so much time on their hands.
But if they feel like they love someone, then they should go for it. You only know if something was right or wrong after you do it. That's part of growing up, that's part of experiencing.
Love, March 18th, 2008 at 12:18:50pm
good points there wifey :] *pats your head*
i-f.U.c.k., March 18th, 2008 at 11:39:36am
Yeah, this is great. I have to say that I agree, altough I'm not one of those people. I've been with Colin for over 8 months, and I'm not with him just to up my status, I really and truly want to be with him forever. I think that the difference between and "hookup" and a "realtionship" is that when youre in a realtionship, you are with the person because you really care about the person more than yourself. Most high schoolers are only experimenting, and looking for the kind of person that they want to be with. They are too busy and too naive to hold up a relationship. That doesnt mean everyone, just most, in my opinion...
I guess it just depends on who the people are. I think you can fall in love at any age, it just depends on when you meet the person who you are supposed to be with. I think that there is someone out there for everyone, but just because someone finds them at a younger age then someone else, does that mean its not real love? Of course it is. Some people are just lucky enough to find their soul mate before others.
Great Job. :D
JessLovesColin, March 18th, 2008 at 10:13:40am
really great blog. but love is deffinatly something that can't be stopped. it just..happens unexpectadly...even when you'd rather not...=\
Bubble Wrap., March 18th, 2008 at 01:16:27am
Great Blog Jess.
You're truely the best blogger ever.
<3
hollywood tragedy., March 18th, 2008 at 12:51:27am