Alcohol
I hate it. And BTW this is no offence to anyone who likes it, I'm not attacking anyone on here. I just need to get this off my chest.
The reason why I hate it:
It's brought nothing but pain and suffering to people I care about. It was the main reason my parents split up, why my step dad has brain damage and how my best friend died.
My parents split up because my biological father had problems with alcohol. He would drink at home five nights a week and became abusive to everyone. Saturdays and Sunday nights he would go out to pubs, and by then end of the night he would end up in bed with a twenty year old woman. My mum finally left him when I was five.
My step dad did get angry when he was drunk but he would never take it out on my mum, my siblings or me. He was just really scary when he was drunk. In 2003 he rode his motorbike while he was drunk and crashed it. He was in a coma for three weeks and suffered brain damage, a broken neck and blindness in his right eye. He was so lucky to be alive.
My best friend Scotty was driving home from the supermarket one night and a drunk driver hit his car and killed him. Scotty had not been drinking at all that day. He tried to get out of the way of the other driver but was too late. I never got to tell him how I felt.
There are other people in my family who drink a lot everyday and think that they are not alcoholics. What was it today? 3 ciders, 2 beers, 3 rum and cokes, 4 Jack Daniel's, 2 Smirnoff's, 5 gin and tonic's, 3 brandy's. Oh yes, your definitely not an alcoholic.
And my friends don't care that I cry every time they talk about they last time they got drunk. Yes they comfort me and ask what's wrong and all that but they don't listen. Hearing them talk about getting wasted and all the different drinks they've had brings back memories that I am trying to block out of my head. And they get mad when I say I won't go to a party if there is going to be alcohol there. Sure I'll go, if you want me to make a scene and ruin your night.
I'm glad I got that off my chest.
The reason why I hate it:
It's brought nothing but pain and suffering to people I care about. It was the main reason my parents split up, why my step dad has brain damage and how my best friend died.
My parents split up because my biological father had problems with alcohol. He would drink at home five nights a week and became abusive to everyone. Saturdays and Sunday nights he would go out to pubs, and by then end of the night he would end up in bed with a twenty year old woman. My mum finally left him when I was five.
My step dad did get angry when he was drunk but he would never take it out on my mum, my siblings or me. He was just really scary when he was drunk. In 2003 he rode his motorbike while he was drunk and crashed it. He was in a coma for three weeks and suffered brain damage, a broken neck and blindness in his right eye. He was so lucky to be alive.
My best friend Scotty was driving home from the supermarket one night and a drunk driver hit his car and killed him. Scotty had not been drinking at all that day. He tried to get out of the way of the other driver but was too late. I never got to tell him how I felt.
There are other people in my family who drink a lot everyday and think that they are not alcoholics. What was it today? 3 ciders, 2 beers, 3 rum and cokes, 4 Jack Daniel's, 2 Smirnoff's, 5 gin and tonic's, 3 brandy's. Oh yes, your definitely not an alcoholic.
And my friends don't care that I cry every time they talk about they last time they got drunk. Yes they comfort me and ask what's wrong and all that but they don't listen. Hearing them talk about getting wasted and all the different drinks they've had brings back memories that I am trying to block out of my head. And they get mad when I say I won't go to a party if there is going to be alcohol there. Sure I'll go, if you want me to make a scene and ruin your night.
I'm glad I got that off my chest.
Perhaps I'm a hypocrite for saying "I hate alcohol" because while I don't particularly like drinking and absolutely hate being drunk I am generally not a sober person... but I still hate alcohol. Its caused a lot of abuse in my home as well. Its almost 1:30pm and my mother is still asleep because she's too hungover. They yell and throw things and argue and break glasses and scream things through the neighborhood and hit each other. It makes me sick. I know how you feel and understand the visceral reaction to drinking and I'm so so so sorry that you had to experience all of those things.
Its true that it was more the fault of the individual though, not what they were drinking. Plenty of people in this world can drink socially and not have it turn into a problem. Of course I think the "everyone does it" thing is a cheap excuse though. Not everyone does it and certainly you don't have to. If for now you don't want to attend parties with lots of drunk people you shouldn't have to. I hope though you'll be able to come to terms with this though cause yes a lot of people drink and you'll have to be around alcohol eventually. Hopefully your friends will listen to you though and be careful.
nyeh., February 7th, 2010 at 01:27:48pm
im not a big fan of drunken people tbh. i find it awkward. i like when people are sober. i've never been drunk and i feel a bit like an outsider because when people have fun they get drunk. so its like.. whats the point of going anywhere to "party" when it has to do with getting drunk.
like..
"are u coming with us?"
"...what for..?"
i just have different values in my life.
princess consuela, February 6th, 2010 at 10:33:59am
i understand where your coming from as well-
It's a shame your friends can't use your painful experience to learn from.
"Everyone does it" is a load of bull- plenty of people don't. However, a lot of people will drink, and they will drink in excess and just be stupid about it. Meh, idk...
I am sorry you have had such a bad time with it all.
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banquo, February 4th, 2010 at 01:15:08pm
I've had similar experiences with my family and friends. And I'm sorry that you've had to go through stuff like that. I honestly think it is somewhat the alcohol's fault considering alcohol does alter people's moods and such, but maybe not entirely. idk. And I can understand how you feel when you hear your friends talking about it, as if you don't want them to get hurt either. I'm going to guess your friends are around about your age, if not that, teenagers anyway. I can also understand why they might be drinking too and such. underage drinking, to be cool, because everyone else is doing it etc. but like The SquirrelMeister said, focus on letting out your negative emotions.
Skippy., February 4th, 2010 at 12:31:11am
I understand that you have had negative experiences with it.
But it's not the alcohol's fault.
It's like blaming the gun that shot someone.
And freaking out at alcohol is a displacement reaction. You need to focus on letting out your negative emotions, otherwise, trust me, you're going to have trouble in a world where a lot of people drink.
But I can see where you are coming from.
The SquirrelMeister, February 3rd, 2010 at 10:12:57pm
vett, February 3rd, 2010 at 07:28:06pm
I understand that you have had negative experiences with it.
But it's not the alcohol's fault.
It's like blaming the gun that shot someone.
And freaking out at alcohol is a displacement reaction. You need to focus on letting out your negative emotions, otherwise, trust me, you're going to have trouble in a world where a lot of people drink.
But I can see where you are coming from.
TO BE DELETED, February 3rd, 2010 at 04:12:57pm
While i get that you have a lot of great reasons to not want to drink, you cant expect your friends to feel the same. Its a teenage right of passage, its not clever and its not smart but everyone does it.
Yay!, February 3rd, 2010 at 10:10:47am