you think you know a person
I've learned a lot of things about life. I mean, I've lived a whole 17 years. For most of those 17 years, I never thought my best friend wouldn't be my best friend. But recently, I began to see that I might have been wrong all along. In the past, I have pictured her being the made of honor at my wedding, being the Godmother of my child, planning my 50th birthday party, hell, even talking at my Goddamn funeral for Christ's sake, that is, if she outlives me.
You think you really know a person. You have this one best friend always by your side for 12 years of your life and you think you know that person. Well its true, you really do know that person. But no matter how much you might know a person, that doesn't stop them from changing. New people come into their life. Exciting things happen to them. They start doing things they once would never do. And my friend, she does all these new things with the new people that came into her life. Take her boyfriend for example. I'm not a big fan. And it's not that I'm jealous because she only wants to hang out with him (I mean, at first I was. I really was. But now I'm over it). He is a real stuck up, snobby asshole to be completely honest. I met him about 3 years ago and he was the exact same then as he is now. They weren't together since then though, they have only for about a month now. But anyway, she does all these fun and exciting things with him that I've always said, "Hey! Let's go do this together one day soon! It'll be fun!" and she would be all "sure, hey, let's do it" but then when it came time to go out and do something adventurous she'd some how back out of it or say we'd do it some other time.
But now, we hardly even talk. We were the best of friends up until July. Then she started going out with her boyfriend and she doesn't even think enough to send me a text every now and then. And so, after a whole month or so of sending her texts and calling her to make plans and constantly getting declined, I decided to just delete her number and see how long it will take her to contact me for once. And it makes no sense really to delete her number. I've known her since I was 5 and I know her home and cell phone numbers off hand. But I guess it's a way for me to sort of let go, and realize that I also need to move on with my life and hopefully one day she will remember the friendship we once shared, and hope that I might answer her call.
You think you really know a person. You have this one best friend always by your side for 12 years of your life and you think you know that person. Well its true, you really do know that person. But no matter how much you might know a person, that doesn't stop them from changing. New people come into their life. Exciting things happen to them. They start doing things they once would never do. And my friend, she does all these new things with the new people that came into her life. Take her boyfriend for example. I'm not a big fan. And it's not that I'm jealous because she only wants to hang out with him (I mean, at first I was. I really was. But now I'm over it). He is a real stuck up, snobby asshole to be completely honest. I met him about 3 years ago and he was the exact same then as he is now. They weren't together since then though, they have only for about a month now. But anyway, she does all these fun and exciting things with him that I've always said, "Hey! Let's go do this together one day soon! It'll be fun!" and she would be all "sure, hey, let's do it" but then when it came time to go out and do something adventurous she'd some how back out of it or say we'd do it some other time.
But now, we hardly even talk. We were the best of friends up until July. Then she started going out with her boyfriend and she doesn't even think enough to send me a text every now and then. And so, after a whole month or so of sending her texts and calling her to make plans and constantly getting declined, I decided to just delete her number and see how long it will take her to contact me for once. And it makes no sense really to delete her number. I've known her since I was 5 and I know her home and cell phone numbers off hand. But I guess it's a way for me to sort of let go, and realize that I also need to move on with my life and hopefully one day she will remember the friendship we once shared, and hope that I might answer her call.
Wow, something so so similar happened to me recently. But this girl who used to be my best friend not only got a new boyfriend but decided it would be a good idea to get engaged to him after three whole entire weeks. Not only did she change, but I started disliking her for the person she became, a person both of us agreed we'd never be. The sad truth is, people change. People who were your friends when you are young are sometimes better left in the past because when you both grow up and become adults you go in two different directions. We are all equals while we are in school. Then people grow apart. Some grow up (like you and me) while others stay immature. Or worse, they become so different you don't even know them anymore. And theres nothing you can do.
Its been really hard for me. When I thought I was over it I figured out I really wasn't. I guess these things take time. If you ever need someone to talk to, just pm me. Hopefully things will be better for you soon.
suburban.zombie, August 17th, 2010 at 03:59:13am
thanks, your right, but it really is so hard to let someone go when they have been such a big part in basically your whole life..
pasalacqua16, August 12th, 2010 at 12:23:40pm
I know the feeling. There was this one friend of mine who...basicly surpassed everyone else I knew, as a friend, hell a soulmate, best friends, together literally 24/7, but then suddenly, light switch fast he didn't like me. And it sucked and I spent weeks crying and feeling awful until one day he was being his new angry mean self and I just thought -y'know what? This guy is a douche, even if he did used to be amazing, he's not worth wasting an ounce of feeling on. And since then I've actually managed to almost completely erase him from my thoughts, unless anyone brings him up.
I strongly suggest you follow your word and let her go. Don't close the door but don't try and drag her through it.
Yay!, August 11th, 2010 at 11:59:23pm