Children who are going against their parents

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*Saint Ana*
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May 30th, 2005 at 08:40pm
Like running away from home, calling parents with their first name...

what do you think? it's the parents fault or the children's fault?
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May 30th, 2005 at 08:45pm
i think its the parents fault for letting their kids get away with things like that
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May 30th, 2005 at 08:45pm
explain? what is this topic about? children who runaway from home or talk back? Cause you were kind of vague. Some people do have bad parents and have a right to do something about it, running away should be your last option...
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May 30th, 2005 at 08:47pm
Ummmm, that was a bit overgeneralized, but I'm going to try to follow up on that. I'm going through that right now as a matter of fact. If you don't mind, I'm going to relate this to American Idiot in a way. See right now, I'm getting really frustrated at home and I seriously thought of running away or something. But the thing was I had nowhere to go and i would have to come back anyways, so what was the point. I just locked myself in my room for a while. But it can be anyone's fault I guess. And for the calling the parents by the first name, I do that with my dad. His name's Brad which is really weird because when I heard JOS, i got freaked out with the moms and brads thing. hahahaha.

But overall, it depends on the situation. With me, it's partly my fault because of grades and stuff, but it is my moms fault in a way because she is threatening like crazy with the GD tickets. But I don't know exactly what I beleive when it comes to this......
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May 30th, 2005 at 10:19pm
no, as in. kids these days are going against their parents. running away from home, talk back at them...

i think maybe it's the parents fault. coz, yeah, they think that the kids doesnt have their own freedom. that's why, the kids are getting overreacted and run away from home and stuff.

on the other hand, it could probably be my fault, coz, ditch school (parents involved and later, we get the consequences at home...) and grades...
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May 30th, 2005 at 10:29pm
Sometimes i feel like American Idiot really relates to my life i know it sounds kind of stupid, but my parents are hard core conservatives and always pushing their beliefs of me and i just got sick of it and wanted to find things out on my own. I didnt run away however for lack of a place to go, but i feel like i ran away in my own way to find myself and my beliefs and i am still exploring them. I hope thats what you meant. My parents are really upset about my beliefs and values and my lifestyle but i think i just needed to figure things out for myself. Not be influenced by my parents, eventually you need to make your own decisions.
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May 31st, 2005 at 02:09am
In all honesty, there are some really crappy parents out there. Parents who never discipline their kids while they're growing up and then get overbearing with them when they're teenagers. Or there are the parents that discipline too much ... or the parents who couldn't give a fuck. My honest opinion is that if more people put their kids first and loved them as much as they say they do, there wouldn't be so many fucked up kids in the world trying to run away from home. I know this because my mother is the most awesome person in the world ... compared with some of the other parents I know (including my father), she's an absolute legend and she gave up everything for us. My mum always told me she'd accept me no matter what I said, did or believed, because that's what love is really all about. Some people today are so shallow and selfish, all they care about is what other people will think of their kids, rather than what is good for them as people or what makes them happy. It makes me really mad ... you see all the shit that happens in the world and so much of it is because people have grown up miserable and lash out at other forms of establishment, which mirrors the authority figures they grew up with.
Oh well, rant over. This probably has nothing to do with what you're saying but simply I understand kids who go against their parents ... and it's usually the parents' fault.
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May 31st, 2005 at 03:11am
I think its is both, i mean there isnt much a parent can do unless they use violence which is illegal so disciplining is a problem and because we try to give of this illusion that everyone is equal so kids start to think that this is true and feel that calling their parents by their first names is ok as they are on the same level in their minds. As for running away there are many reasons why kids do this it could be problems at home, lack of attention, problems at school so i think this depends on the situation as to whose fault it is
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May 31st, 2005 at 05:15am
i think its the parents fault because they let their kids do it technically
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May 31st, 2005 at 07:07am
It's the parent's fault for letting their child get out of control like that. They could have prevented it from happening.
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May 31st, 2005 at 08:34am
I think it´s noone´s fault, really.
Because kids want to express themselves and do a lot of crazy and frustating stuff, especially when it´s against something their parents tell them or against their parents believes.
But parents are only worried about their kids and don´t want them to go too far, so they are unnevering the kids and the kids are unnevering them.
And then sometimes it gets out of control.

There are really crappy parents and kids out there, but that´s a more difficult situation and then it depends.
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May 31st, 2005 at 09:09am
I don't really go against my parents. They don't mind me drinknig or staying out quite late if they know about it. I think it's both the parents and the kids fault. The parents fault for being so slack with them and the kids fault for taking advantage of it and going a bit OTT.
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May 31st, 2005 at 11:57am
er.. a lot of kids call their parentals by their first names.. is it a bad thing? Confused
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May 31st, 2005 at 02:27pm
jimmy <3:
er.. a lot of kids call their parentals by their first names.. is it a bad thing? Confused

It's a bit.. cold. Maybe. Like instead of "mom" you say f.eks "Anna". It kinda shows that you don't want a close relationship to them. I would never call my parents by their first name.
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May 31st, 2005 at 03:07pm
jimmy <3:
er.. a lot of kids call their parentals by their first names.. is it a bad thing? Confused


i call my mom and dad by there first names...but thats what i grew up hearing my sister and my brother would call them by their first names, jerry and dave....so... i mean they could care less about what we call them as long as its not asshole or something like that....lol
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May 31st, 2005 at 03:14pm
Ok...1.....whats wrong with calling your parents by their first name?

and....tits the kids choice to run away from home. but the parents must have done something to make the kids runaway.....so its kinda both their faults because if the parents werent bad parents...it woulsnt have happened.....but the kid made the choice to runaway....so both i guess.
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May 31st, 2005 at 04:23pm
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It's the parent's fault for letting their child get out of control like that. They could have prevented it from happening.

Agreed. I would never do that anyways. I <3 my parents. Very Happy
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May 31st, 2005 at 04:26pm
Bit of both. There are some really bad parents out there, but my cousin used to run away a lot, but she as really good parents.So I basically think that it depends on the family and (as I've said before) a bit of both.
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May 31st, 2005 at 04:54pm
GabbaGabba Hey27:
Ok...1.....whats wrong with calling your parents by their first name?


Well usually you only call your friends, siblings and cousins etc by their first names, meaning that you guys are the same level. By calling your 'rents by their first names it's kind of saying you think of them like you think of a freind or classmate as you call them by their name. It could also mean you don't think of them as your 'mum' and 'dad' or whatever.

It's the same with teachers you address them as Mr and Mrs or Sir and Miss. Respect for your elders, you know. Titles show that a person is higher than you wether its age, rank or position.

(arg. sorry i know i'm bad at explaining, its too early)
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May 31st, 2005 at 04:56pm
I'm a Name Changing Whore:
It's the parent's fault for letting their child get out of control like that. They could have prevented it from happening.


And just out of curiosity, how could have they prevented it?
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