Adoption

What do people think about it? I was adopted as a baby and it fucked me up. I wonder what you all have to say on it?

Were you adopted into a bad family?
And what would you do if your adoptive parents died and you were an orphan again who doesnt get PRESENTS ON CHRISTMAS!!!!11?
[seriously though one time a girl said that she hated her adoptive parents and then a teacher asked those questions......-_- not in a funny way.]

I think that if you're pregnant and you don't want the child, is better to give it up fro adoption when is born than aborting...but...that's just a 16 years old girl's opinion.

I know my step mother's sister is not able to have kids so she has 2 adopted kids and I think they are lucky, she's kind of a cool woman...but not all the kids that are adopted have such a good luck though...

I was sort of adopted...I'd prefer it if I had a perfect family life, of course, but isn't it better then an orphanage?

adoption is often very good.

Definately. Adoption gives children back their lives. I know it must be hard growing up and wondering why your parents gave you away (Unless they died), but its better to be at the heart of a loving family, even though you aren;t blood relations, than living in an orphange.

I think adoption is good. Most families would probably be kind to you anyway...because families or couples who can't have children of their own generally seem to be nice...and some families adopt people because they have a heart...but yeah, I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out for you...

....Good idea.....gives kids a second chance

...........HOWEVER............

I have two uncles and an aunt....who were adopted

into my dad's family as babies

......brought up alongside my dad and 5 others.....all as brothers

and sisters

..........age of 18, my grandparents told my uncle he was adopted....

...he suffered a mental breakdown......destroyed his life

there are times......when adopted kids should NEVER be told the truth

H-F-P-R

Well, I agree actually even tho I have a right to know it fucked my life up.

i think it is a good thing .... if someone can't have kids ..or if they just wanna give someone a nice home but i do think it can kinda screw up a child because they might never know who their parents are ....

i think adoption is a good thing. much better than fostering. my familly used to foster and it hurts when they leave, they usually just have enough time to settle and then they are uprooted and there isnt a thing you can do about it! i think that adopted children should always know. i mean imagine believing some one is your mum and then she isnt and there is some one else but you are never given the oppertunity to find your real roote who you truly are because you adoptive parents didnt tell you. its not fair on the child.

it's probably not the adoptian that "fucked you up". probably just insecurities. you're real parents could have been 10 times worse...

Its a good thing...

My Great Uncle Adopted two children, there were aged 2 and 3... there mom was a drug addict who over dosed and died not too long after they were given up for addoption and there dad the same, but i think hes still alive..

they also addopted there grandson who was born at teh wrong time.. so in all they have there normal children... and 3 adopted,

i do agree adoption messes you mind up... the eldest one is now about 14.. and shes just resently gone to another home, because she was becoming too much, she was starting to smoke, sleep around.. sneak out.. take drugs.. and hit my Great uncle and aunty...

adoption can screw you up but in the majority of cases it helps the child have a life.

Am i right in thinking if someone can advise me if your adopted into a bad family can't you go back to social services?

I wanted to much to be put up for adoption when i was younger, i hated my family and they were all ass holes.

tre_cool_is_god:

adoption can screw you up but in the majority of cases it helps the child have a life.

Am i right in thinking if someone can advise me if your adopted into a bad family can't you go back to social services?

I wanted to much to be put up for adoption when i was younger, i hated my family and they were all ass holes.

Yea, you can i think, well i know that if the family doesnt wont you anymore, or cant deal with you, you can go back...

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tre_cool_is_god:

adoption can screw you up but in the majority of cases it helps the child have a life.

Am i right in thinking if someone can advise me if your adopted into a bad family can't you go back to social services?

I wanted to much to be put up for adoption when i was younger, i hated my family and they were all ass holes.

Yea, you can i think, well i know that if the family doesnt wont you anymore, or cant deal with you, you can go back...

thankyou! I think that social services would look and investigate any family who wanted to adopt anyway, wouldn't they?

im unsure. i think its good, but if someone becomes pregnant at a reasonable age they should not put the child up for adoption without a good reason i.e. it was concieved by rape.

auh-buh-cuh-s:

im unsure. i think its good, but if someone becomes pregnant at a reasonable age they should not put the child up for adoption without a good reason i.e. it was concieved by rape.

There is an article in my local paper today 2 newborn babies were abandoned in a phone box and they are asking the mum to come forward to have the medical help she needs or may need, people who obviously need help should perhaps be taught how to look after the children and not be judged because if having kids doesnt scare you then your an unfeeling twerp. because it is the hardest job that anyone could ever do.

My family anrt a babd one its just i dont interact well with people and i am very aggressive.