Is It Ok To Hate Your Parents?
I am writing this because I need some help with my mom and dad. I really despise them. For some reasons I can explain and for some that I can't. And this may seem like normal teenage angst to some of you but this is my depression talking so just listen.
My Mom.
She is the biggest b*tch ever. She yells at me for stuff I don't do and when we try to talk things over, she just yells and tells me I am wrong because apparently she is always right. WRONG! She tells me I can't wear wristbands because she thinks I am hiding my cuts. I can't dye my hair dark brown because it looks like black. I can't wear make-up until I am 16 years of age. She said that when i used to wear Black eyeliner, that I looked like a whore/slut. She judges me constantly and I just can't take it anymore. Because of her, I am afraid to be myself in my own house. She wonders why I don't like talking to her. She doesn't stop to think about things before she says them. I wish she was thin and beautiful. I wish she was one of those parents who never yells and just talks.
My Dad.
He smokes his way through life. Yea, he has back problems and he needs medication, but living off smoking and medicine is not the answer. He sleeps through the day then complains about how he doesn't sleep at night. He tried to quit smoking once but that didn't work. Doesn't he see that smoking is just killing him? Doesn't he see that the reason his back hurts and he can't breathe half the time is because he SMOKES?
I am already seeing a therapist. And she does help a little. But not enough. I am tired of pretending to be something I am not. I am tired of my mom yelling, "YOU CAN'T GET THAT SHIRT BECAUSE ITS BLACK. NO BLACK DURING THE SUMMER, MICHELLE!"
It never ends...
My Mom.
She is the biggest b*tch ever. She yells at me for stuff I don't do and when we try to talk things over, she just yells and tells me I am wrong because apparently she is always right. WRONG! She tells me I can't wear wristbands because she thinks I am hiding my cuts. I can't dye my hair dark brown because it looks like black. I can't wear make-up until I am 16 years of age. She said that when i used to wear Black eyeliner, that I looked like a whore/slut. She judges me constantly and I just can't take it anymore. Because of her, I am afraid to be myself in my own house. She wonders why I don't like talking to her. She doesn't stop to think about things before she says them. I wish she was thin and beautiful. I wish she was one of those parents who never yells and just talks.
My Dad.
He smokes his way through life. Yea, he has back problems and he needs medication, but living off smoking and medicine is not the answer. He sleeps through the day then complains about how he doesn't sleep at night. He tried to quit smoking once but that didn't work. Doesn't he see that smoking is just killing him? Doesn't he see that the reason his back hurts and he can't breathe half the time is because he SMOKES?
I am already seeing a therapist. And she does help a little. But not enough. I am tired of pretending to be something I am not. I am tired of my mom yelling, "YOU CAN'T GET THAT SHIRT BECAUSE ITS BLACK. NO BLACK DURING THE SUMMER, MICHELLE!"
It never ends...
Im only 14 T_T
I dunno why it says 16 on there *tried to change it*
Every two seconds we are fighting. Yelling, screaming, throwing things. I hate it. I really don't like them at all.
And as for my mom, she is yelling at me now for having an "attitude" that i don't have at the moment and my dad is smoking outside. No one ever understands how this works.
somedays i just want to strap and video camera to my forehead to make people understand what i feel and what i deal with. i know i have it good but still. i hate where i am. and i hate them so much.
I just want to be stuck in an elevator (with a bucket and a snack bar of course)
TheHobostacheSheriff, July 3rd, 2007 at 10:12:51pm
In your case; I can already tell you that you don't hate your parents, you just don't get along. On your profile.. it says you're 16...so whats the problem with the make up? As for your dad, you obviously don't hate him seeing as how you're concerned about the health effects smoking will have on him.As for your mom not allowing you to wear black thats a bit silly, but your attitude towards her isn't going to make her see things your way.
Kurtni, July 3rd, 2007 at 09:05:35pm
My parents aren't normal average everyday parents, nor my real parents.
Because of that, I really don't know what to say only that your mother and father really really REALLY love you to be telling you that the way you dress really does make (to some extent) what kind of person you are. They don't want you to get hurt in any kind of way, that's what it sounds like to me. Plus, everything your feeling, the need for independence, angst, ect..is all the stuff an ordinary teen feels.
but the best advice of all:
Never hate your parents. You don't know how god you've got it.
Toxic Narcotic, July 3rd, 2007 at 07:05:32pm
yea i have talked to them but it ends with yelling and tears and things being thrown.
TheHobostacheSheriff, July 3rd, 2007 at 04:10:08pm
i know how you feel.
CanYouFeelIt, July 3rd, 2007 at 02:40:56pm
Well, it's not that I don't believe, I just think that everyone can have their own belief about God if they want and they won't "go to hell." But my dad disagrees on part.
Hey, you can talk to me about anything. I really do know what it's like to disagree with parents and withstand the urge to throw somthing very heavy and sharp through my window. Have you talked to your parents about how they treat you?
Funky Platypus, July 3rd, 2007 at 02:15:23pm
my mom dragged out of my bed while i was crying and told me to shut up. my dad just sits there and watches as his life withers away. i don't like them at all. i seriously which i was an orphan. im not even kidding you. and im sorry about you dad *hugs* but my relationship with my parents isn't as good as yours. my mom is super christian and i don't believe at all. she shoves it down my throat.
TheHobostacheSheriff, July 3rd, 2007 at 01:37:11pm
Alright, I've got some good advice for this. I have a lot of disagreements with my mom concerning my own image. Not necessarily what I dress, but my beliefs about many things. And my dad is Super Christian and I can't stand it how he can be closeminded concerning music, beliefs, and religion.
But don't ever take your parents for granted. My dad is dying right now. I feel so guilty for every time I exploded in his face, for all the fights I"ve had, and I can't take it back. I've had many disagreements with both of my parents, and I've screamed "I hate you" at my mom. I've never felt worse about it.
Imagine if the last thing you ever said to one of your parents was "I hate you." Let's say your mom or your dad gets into a car crash. How guilty would you feel? It's a sickening, twisting feeling. Don't ever let that be your last words. And don't say that something like that won't happen! I used to take my dad for granted, even after he was diagnosed, and it was only this year when I truly realized that he's dying. You can't take back the hatred. I feel so awful about it, now that my dad's all frail and limping.
Don't ever hate your parents. Unless you've been abused by both of them in some way, or if they abandoned you for drugs or something. Those would be my only two reasons. Take my word for it. Dislike is one thing, and resentment. It's perfectly normal, especially at our age. But hatred is too far.
Funky Platypus, July 3rd, 2007 at 01:06:46pm
You shouldn't hate your parents because of that. Appreciate them.
RhymesLikeDimes, July 3rd, 2007 at 12:29:34pm