Cutting; A Call For Help?
We all know that cutting is an issue in some peoples lives, that people actually do do it and its not just some “emo” stereotype thing. But most people just look past it and think “Oh they have problems,” or “They need to take control of themselves.” What they don’t understand is that cutting yourself is something serious. This isn’t just being said this is something that not only effects them, but if you are a decent enough person, you as well.
Personally, I believe that cutting is something like a punishment. Typically people that cut themselves are not only trying to take away from the pain inside, but scarring themselves because of something they did. They might feel like that they are a screw up, or have no right to live. So how can someone know this and just look past it?
Though I do agree that quite a few people do put the blade to their wrist for attention. I know some who honestly do it just so they can say, “Look at me! Feel bad for me!” But it is also a call for help and some think of that as pathetic. But I don’t at all. Maybe the person doesn’t want to openly admit that they need help and ask for help so they hurt themselves. They don’t have the guts to yell, “I can’t save myself! Help me!” So this is the only option in their mind.
My father always said, “Self mutilation is just…weird.” Oh god how many times have I heard him say that. But he didn’t understand the seriousness of it. He thought of it as something that freaks do, but intentionally drawing blood and causing yourself pain is something that shouldn’t be overlooked. If your best friend did this and you found out…wouldn’t you be concerned? Wouldn’t you be asking questions? Wouldn’t you want to know what would make someone do this to themselves? It is a sick thing….but its something that shouldn’t just be taken as “Oh, they have problems.” Because what’s that going to fix? Nothing.
All I am saying is that next time someone may complain or go to you with a serious problem; listen. Don’t just reply “I’m sorry,” because that’s the worse thing you can do for them. They have already heard that enough, and it’s not really that they want sympathy, they just want help. So be a friend, be a best friend and help others. Really, just giving some advice or helping them with things is something that not many people do today, from what I have seen.
I know that my inbox will always be free to ANYONE and I mean ANYONE who just wants to tell someone about something. If you don’t even want me to reply, that’s fine. Or if you want advice…I’m not going to turn you away. I have talked friends (yes that’s meant to be plural) out of suicide, so I’m not going to just give you “I’m sorry,” as an answer.
I love you all.
Xxxx
Jessika.
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Awesome blog. That's all I'm saying.
And I liked that you pointed out that some people do it to punish themselves.
Cause I used to read a lot about cutting on info sites and all it said was something in the lines of "people self harm to take away the mental pain they are in" and I thought that was bullsh*t.
Not everybody does that.
As someone said, everybody has a personal reason for cutting or self-harming, that they might not even be able to put words too.
Great blog ^^,
Wino Forever, November 14th, 2007 at 11:35:54pm
What I laugh about is how emo's sit and cry about how screwed up their lives are. If they are that screwed up they should stop whinin about it and do something about it,.
schooldropout, November 14th, 2007 at 08:57:10pm
It depends on the reasons why you do it, I mean if people really want to kil themselves like the emo's claim to do it.
"Its down the line, not across the tracks"
Trust me I know, some people cut and self harm because they are punishing themselves and thats a mental illness.
schooldropout, November 14th, 2007 at 08:45:09pm
In these days, I have big problems taking people that cut seriously.
That is probably because there are so many that just pretend, that I can't believe that anyone is for real anymore.
But I see your point.
Nice blog^^
Lykwoah, November 14th, 2007 at 07:07:31pm
this is an amazing blog. you saw the problem from all angles. i like that.
get famous, November 14th, 2007 at 09:57:03am
I think that each persons reasont o cut is different.
Though, this is a good blog.
It's a generalisation (a good one) of the basic reasons people do it.
Each time some one cuts, it's personal and can't even really be pin pointed, even by the cutter.
I think it invovles alot of confusion.
germma margaret!, November 14th, 2007 at 09:47:17am
I agree with both of them, this is an amazing blog. Cutting is serious and you point out the views of it perfectly in this blog.
Good work. :]
dramamine;, November 14th, 2007 at 09:34:12am
Amazing blog Jessika. I agree completely with what you've said. This is a serious issue, and for anyone to overlook it, probably needs mental help of their own. It's a scary thing to deal with, but sometimes people just dont understand that they can talk about their feelings. It's not a crime.
Amazing. ♥
michelle danger., November 14th, 2007 at 08:02:54am
Thank you.
I just wanted people to stop looking at is as something cliche
because you do feel pathetic when you do it
but you need help
and thats all their is to it.
Jessie.Tastic!, November 14th, 2007 at 04:47:30am
I seriously am almost crying right now.
this blog is extremely powerful, and I completely agree.
telling yourbest friends that you've cut...is the hardest thing ever, to do.
I told my best friends..and I couldn't stop crying and shaking. I was so scared, and ashamed. I felt so pathetic and lame. it was only the first time I'd done it.
as wierd as it sounds, this blog really means alot...
I dont know what else to say..but...wow...
<3
Bubble Wrap., November 14th, 2007 at 04:38:43am