Advice Please?

I try not to make blogs about personal issues because I know they're not the most interesting thing to read about in the world, but I'm really at a loss here.

I've spent a good portion of my summer at my dad's house. I don't see him as often as I'd like to, seeing as how when my parents got divorced my mom moved 5 hours away. I have a really good relationship with my dad, we rarely fight or argue about anything.

However, I can't say the same for my relationship with my mother. After my parent's got divorced, she decided it would be fun to act like she was 21 again instead of a mom in her thirties, and a lot of her responsibility was placed on me, and I couldn't handle it. I love my mom, but I'll never forgive her for that, and things between us still remain quite tense.

Last night my mom called, and she got in an argument with my dad because I've stayed at his house longer than their custody "agreement" allows. This was completely random on her part, because before I even left she knew when I planned on coming home, and had no objections.

Anyways, their conversation ended with my dad saying "I'm not fighting with you while the kids are here," and he hung up on her. It really infuriates me when she does things like that to my dad, and I called her back and we got into a fight and I told her I was never coming home, but I know I have to, I can't legally stay here.

After I calmed down, my dad was talking to me and he said if I was truly that unhappy living with her, he could talk to his lawyer about changing the custody agreement. I don't know if I want to do that. I remember going through their last custody battle, and it was horrible. I could handle it now, but I have younger siblings, and I don't know if I should put them through that. They were too young to remember what happened last time, lucky for them.

I'm 16, in two more years she can't tell me what to do anyways, and I won't have to visit my dad on her fucking schedule, but god two years is a long time. That's a lot of arguing, fighting and general unhappiness to endure. I know I could probably deal with it, but I'm sick of "dealing" with our relationship. I shouldn't have to. I also think maybe some time apart might be good for us, you know?

Custody cases can take months. I don't know if its worth it or not. Help?
Posted on August 12th, 2008 at 11:49am


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