Sexual abuse
Almost every day we hear that some kid in our area or a person in a newspaper in a magazine has come forward about knowing that someone is a sexual predator or being the victim of sexual abuse.
Only the other day I was confronted by a little woman who was asking for help, I asked her what was wrong and she burst into tears and told me a very painful story of how her own husband had been sexually abusing his grandson. She said that her partner at first denied the child's accusation then admitted it, but this got me thinking. What if this wasn't the first time and he did it to his own children. Of course the woman was embarassed that she had confronted a complere stranged over her problems, but at the same time at least she spoke to someone.
We all know someone who has been the victim of sexual abuse and sometimes people don't come forward because they are scared. But look at that little boy who told his parents " me and grandpaw have a seceret" He knew it was wrong.
Children being sexually abused by people they knew is on the uprise and often its brushed under the carpet by families I think there needs to be harsher sentences for those who allow it to happen. And more support for victims and their families.
Only the other day I was confronted by a little woman who was asking for help, I asked her what was wrong and she burst into tears and told me a very painful story of how her own husband had been sexually abusing his grandson. She said that her partner at first denied the child's accusation then admitted it, but this got me thinking. What if this wasn't the first time and he did it to his own children. Of course the woman was embarassed that she had confronted a complere stranged over her problems, but at the same time at least she spoke to someone.
We all know someone who has been the victim of sexual abuse and sometimes people don't come forward because they are scared. But look at that little boy who told his parents " me and grandpaw have a seceret" He knew it was wrong.
Children being sexually abused by people they knew is on the uprise and often its brushed under the carpet by families I think there needs to be harsher sentences for those who allow it to happen. And more support for victims and their families.
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Well believe it or not...
But I was a victim of sexual abuse...
I was sexually abused about 3 times in my whole life...
The first was when I was 5 years old by my dad's "friend" in front of church parking lot,
The second time was when I was 7, and I was touched by a drunk man outside my dad's bar when we used to live in Mexico.
The third was when I was 15, by an abusive boyfriend that I had...
This has destroyed me in many ways...
I don't think these guys who sexually abused me were psychologically messed up.
They were all drunk when they did it to me.
But yea there are some people who have mental illnesses and they commit these sort of things.
Tre_GDA, October 13th, 2009 at 12:40:41am
well, assuming that someone did have a mental disorder, then i fully support the idea of them getting help. but that doesn't justify the act either. but it would prevent another occurrence of abuse, which is obviously good for all. but if they don't, then there is no excuse that can even begin to justify something like this.
get famous, February 25th, 2009 at 05:38:46pm
I think it' a very valid excuse - an illness.
As much as I hate child abuse, there are certain factors that need to be taken into account and are very, very important to consider when discussing this issue.
Dr.Hymen, February 25th, 2009 at 05:38:02pm
there are no excuses good enough for taking someone's innocence.
princess consuela, February 25th, 2009 at 05:36:22pm
Wrong.
Those people are not aware of their illness, which is why I said they get absorbed into this kind of world where they take on an entire different role. They are not aware of what they are doing. I think I said that about 3-4 times already.
Besides neuro illnessess are unbelieveably hard to heal, especially when you don't know you're ill.
Dr.Hymen, February 25th, 2009 at 05:33:14pm
it's a mental illnes.
however, thats a poor excuse. there are ways to fix it. those people need help they should get help before they destroy lives.
princess consuela, February 25th, 2009 at 05:30:10pm
An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
Mental illness is NOT a "bullsh*t excuse". It's a problem. It's a problem that is so difficult to treat and it needs to be approched with severe caution. They do not realise what the are doing. Inside them, they don't want to abuse these children, but this illness that they have controls them. It's like deamonic possesion. The person doesn't want to do bad things, but this illness posesses them.
Dr.Hymen, February 25th, 2009 at 03:18:28pm
I still disagree.
People who sexually abuse kids deserve everything they get, every single thing they did to the kids should be done on them. In fact worse. They should be locked in a room with parents of the kids they abused.
Mental illness is just a bullsh*t excuse.
Whatever you want to call it, it shouldn't happen. Fair enough if a grown pair of adults like frisky porn watch other adults not kids being tied and bound to kitchen tables!
schooldropout, February 25th, 2009 at 03:11:02pm
I have said it to victims of child abuse because I work with them every Tuesday for 4 hours a day. There between the ages of 10-17 and I've explained all the reasons for child abuse, as it's quite mandatory to bring that ounce of light to them. None of their responses were like yours.
There are a lot of people out there who understand the indepth programs of a mentally ill person. When plagued with such an illness, it's very, very difficult to control yourself. These people do not realise what they are doing.
It's not that they know what they are doing, but they don't understand how wrong it is. They genuinly do not even remember abusing a child like that. It's a neurologial problem.
I'm sorry to say that yes, i do know what I'm talking about if i've studied it in college. I didn't just learn from books. I've had hand on hand experience.
I was never sexally abused of course, so I don't have an over all grasp of that feeling, but I am smart enough to realise that the reasons for chid abuse aren't always out of malice and spite. Some people just have a problem with function of their minds.
Dr.Hymen, February 25th, 2009 at 02:25:12pm
I don't give a flying f*ck if you know what your talking about or not. Just because you did it at college or whatever doesn't make you know what your talking about.
Try saying that to victims of child abuse. They will have the exact same reply, mental illnesses is unjustifyable.
schooldropout, February 25th, 2009 at 12:32:53pm
When you're mentally ill, you're not aware of what you are doing. There are people so ill that the illness triggers episodes where they go into this alternative world and don't realise what they are doing.
I spent weeks doing a project on Child Abuse for my college work, I know what I'm talking about.
Dr.Hymen, February 25th, 2009 at 11:11:30am
You can't justify child abuse by mental illness. That's like saying they didn't have a choice, there is always a choice.
schooldropout, February 25th, 2009 at 10:06:32am
honestly, I think they should chop their balls off.
XXIII, February 23rd, 2009 at 09:53:53pm
LMFAO. AGREED. OBV.
you're one of the best bloggers, jake.
*hugs*
take care.
princess consuela, February 25th, 2009 at 03:52:57am
I know exactly what they get done to them in prison and all I can say if they can dish it out. they deserve it.
There are people out there who, for psychological reasons, do these things. They have no understanding of what they are doing, they are unaware, they feel no connection or light into wht they are doing. They are mentally sick and can't help that.
Dr.Hymen, February 24th, 2009 at 04:06:38pm
honestly, I think they should chop their balls off.
XXIII, February 24th, 2009 at 07:53:53am
icegirl., February 24th, 2009 at 03:55:15pm