The Dallas and Skylar Saga, again.
They're back together.
She totally disregarded what my mom and I told her about not talking to him (because he knew if he could talk to her he could win her back) and she did. He's convinced her that he's changed. He's convinced her to give him a second chance. He's convinced her that everything will be better again. But of course it won't. "Oh, he's only human, we make mistakes". This only occurred about 2 weeks ago and she's already slipping back into the old routine. She's not wearing makeup, wearing boring colours (blues, blacks, greys, whites), not doing her hair as well as she used to, not talking to me, not talking to her friends, swearing, being obnoxious in English class, texting him constantly and being really rude to her mom.
If none of this were true, if he really wasn't an abuser, I would apologise profusely. I could not imagine how it would make him feel, being called all those things when they weren't true. But they are. I would feel like an absolute monster. Men like him don't change.
My friends and I tried making her understand that he doesn't deserve a second chance. Everything he did before should have been the last straw. But oh no, he's got her in his clutches now. When I see them together he has a haha-I-won look on his face. He's always gloating.
Now Dallas is saying "Oh, I just blew everything out of proportion because I was mad at him. I deserved it". I told her that you NEVER deserve to be hit by someone you love. It just didn't connect in her head, I guess.
I've tried my hardest to save her from him. She's made her decision. I can't stop her from doing anything. She seems so hell-bent on her own destruction. When she's decided that she wants her life back, she can come to me. I will always be here for her when she needs me.
She totally disregarded what my mom and I told her about not talking to him (because he knew if he could talk to her he could win her back) and she did. He's convinced her that he's changed. He's convinced her to give him a second chance. He's convinced her that everything will be better again. But of course it won't. "Oh, he's only human, we make mistakes". This only occurred about 2 weeks ago and she's already slipping back into the old routine. She's not wearing makeup, wearing boring colours (blues, blacks, greys, whites), not doing her hair as well as she used to, not talking to me, not talking to her friends, swearing, being obnoxious in English class, texting him constantly and being really rude to her mom.
If none of this were true, if he really wasn't an abuser, I would apologise profusely. I could not imagine how it would make him feel, being called all those things when they weren't true. But they are. I would feel like an absolute monster. Men like him don't change.
My friends and I tried making her understand that he doesn't deserve a second chance. Everything he did before should have been the last straw. But oh no, he's got her in his clutches now. When I see them together he has a haha-I-won look on his face. He's always gloating.
Now Dallas is saying "Oh, I just blew everything out of proportion because I was mad at him. I deserved it". I told her that you NEVER deserve to be hit by someone you love. It just didn't connect in her head, I guess.
I've tried my hardest to save her from him. She's made her decision. I can't stop her from doing anything. She seems so hell-bent on her own destruction. When she's decided that she wants her life back, she can come to me. I will always be here for her when she needs me.
i know what you mean.
some guys don't change.
one of my relatives is an abusive relationship. i don't remember exactly what he's done to her, but she's been real f*cked up because of this guy. from what i remember hearing, he stabbed her arm over and over, and she had to have a lot of work done to it. it's been a few years actually, and she still hasn't learn.
same with my birthmother kinda. she used to be in abusive relationships ALL the time. especially like my father. the stories i've heard, honestly make me wanna find this guy just to kill him. he's really f*cked up. luckily for her, she was smart. i know her last relationship, and this current one, the guy has been nothing but nice to her. so it's nice to see she's finally been finding guys who aren't abusive.
maybe someday your friend will realize what a big mistake she's making. hopefully before it's too late. good luck with that.
pseudo superhero, June 6th, 2009 at 10:53:45am