Why Am I Friends With People That Don't Really Like Me?
I really need advice. I don't know what to do.
Today, me and my two best friends had a fight. And I actually found it quite funny to see that the one I thought I could trust the most went off with the other one. I also foundd it very funny to find out what they actually thought of me.
I mean, I'm pretty much used to them two being the "best friends" and me being the friend who's there when one is ill. We still hang around and stuff, but its like there best friends and I'm just the annoying one that hangs around with them. Last year me and the one I thought I could trust where the best friends, and I find it so terribly annoying that she switches friends all the time.
So...advice? Ditch them and find new friends? Stay friends with them? I'm not too good at making new friends...
Thank You
x
Today, me and my two best friends had a fight. And I actually found it quite funny to see that the one I thought I could trust the most went off with the other one. I also foundd it very funny to find out what they actually thought of me.
I mean, I'm pretty much used to them two being the "best friends" and me being the friend who's there when one is ill. We still hang around and stuff, but its like there best friends and I'm just the annoying one that hangs around with them. Last year me and the one I thought I could trust where the best friends, and I find it so terribly annoying that she switches friends all the time.
So...advice? Ditch them and find new friends? Stay friends with them? I'm not too good at making new friends...
Thank You
x
D: story of my life. Sure, me and her are friends, but i got a scecret friend... MWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!1 I just go out and have more fun then i would with them
BillieMyLove'_', December 6th, 2009 at 08:22:39pm
Thanks for that advice Backdoor and Wood Elf :)
I've started hanging around with a few other friends but I havent completely ditched the other two. Even though we argue every day and they also talk behind my back I think it's just something I have to deal with.
Thank you so much :) x
dumbstruck., December 2nd, 2009 at 12:14:23pm
For the majority of my life I was in the position you are. The third wheel. The other friend. Its annoying and often painful to be put in this position and it will never change as long as you are with the same friends. They aren't going to decide one day that you all are equal and neither of them are going to decide to like you better than the other, at least not permanently. It hurts a lot to think of it that way, but I found it is true.
I am TERRIBLE at making friends. But I also hate going through what you are going through. So I backed off and instead of hanging out with a couple people who treated me like sh*t, I just went on my own and hung out with people individually. Eventually, I found that if you are by yourself, people who are looking for a really good friend will find you. Now I am in college and my best friend wasn't my best friend at the beginning of the year, but my best friend left and she was alone to begin with and it just turns out that we are best friends.
But the biggest thing you can do if you want to save your sanity is to not consider people your best friend at all. Rather, have many "good friends" or just friends. In your head you are of course going to have a best friend. But it just hurts more when you go around saying it to everyone and then find out that they weren't your best friend after all.
I hope that helped some. Sorry if it sounded kind of depressing...lol.
suburban.zombie, November 30th, 2009 at 08:02:36pm
ditch them and find new friends, they suck
toybox trash, November 30th, 2009 at 11:58:27am