Suicide is viewed as a way to find peace you've been looking for, you can just take everything away. Some people think feeling nothing is better than feeling what they have to, and we have no right to judge, we havent lived their life, so we can't say what they did is a mistake, or that they're being selfish.
I think their is always an alternative to suicide, but that doesn't mean everyone wants to take that alterntative or do it. Suicide would seem like the easier option, but to people saying they are cowards taking the easy way out, is it really easier? Is erasing your existance easier than trying to fix it? Just getting rid of everything, stopping your life, eliminating all emotion,completly stopping your life, making the descion that your life is now better off ended, how is that an easy descion?It's so much more than that, you don't just wake up one morning and decide "Yup, Im gonna kill myself today" it takes time to reach a point where you are ready to do that. Imagine what they go through when actually dying. Most people wont kill themselves at a party surrounded by people, they're alone. They're dying by themselves, watching their own life trickle away. Can you imagine whats going through their heads? Suicide is not the easy way out, and anyone who says that obviously has not thought about what all commiting suicide involves.
Matt Smith Admin Age: 33 Gender: Female Posts: 31134
August 10th, 2006 at 11:46am
My views on suicide have changed drastically due to several events in recent weeks.
I used to think it was negative; tragic, avoidable. Now, i'm not to sure.
Everyone has one shot and one shot only at life, this is the single chance you have to live and feel and breathe as a human being. So if you want to throw it all away, then that is your choice, and I don't think anyone should ever be stopped from doing that.
Because death cannot exist without life, the two are interrelated. True, suicide shows little regard for the people you leave behind, but by the time you're dead you don't think need about that anymore.
I think that suicide can be a sort of a freedom for people. In extreme cases, it's a way of finally making your own descision. I don't really remember dying too well (in a past life), so I can't say whether that rush of freedom stays as you fade out. (I guess it depends on how long it takes for you to die) I'll be hypocritical and say that dying as a way of fighting back is alright with me. Dying because you think things blow isn't fighting back.
Suicide: it's just like having a terminal disease and you take time to prepare for the death. Some people don't take that time. You can sit up in the middle of the night and go I'm going to kill myself. I should. You get up and go to the washroom, or go outside. That's the fast track, and it's easier than going through the dying of comtemplated suicide. I think that it'd be frightening because you hadn't made your peace yet.
As for cutting, it's a way to make things better. Pain makes your brain release soothing hormones/endorphins, so it's a natural high. I have trouble seeing the issue others have with people doing it. Any anti-cutters want to explain?
I'm not an anti-cutter, I'm one myself, but I'm trying to stop. It isn't easy to hide the scars and cuts.. No one knows, but if someone saw it, people wouldn't understand.. I have to lie to everyone; I can't swim, I have to wear long sleeves all the time and a wristband and I'm paranoia all the time.. That's for 3 years know, I'm tired of hiding and lying.. Once you start you can't stop.. And now? I don't know the answer.. I'm 'addicted' to it, but I can't see the goodness of doing it..
Maiku's Kind Ghost King For A Couple Of Days Age: - Gender: - Posts: 2102
August 12th, 2006 at 06:29pm
I was at work today bagging groceries and this young woman came up with with her BF checking out stuff. She was wearing a short sleeve shirt and she had cut's/scar's all over her arms in the shape that a knife or razor would leave. And It scared me because I've done it to myself (not any where near to the severity she did) and it made my think "well... what if it gets THAT bad for me?"
I was at work today bagging groceries and this young woman came up with with her BF checking out stuff. She was wearing a short sleeve shirt and she had cut's/scar's all over her arms in the shape that a knife or razor would leave. And It scared me because I've done it to myself (not any where near to the severity she did) and it made my think "well... what if it gets THAT bad for me?"
I saw a girl at Warped who had major cutting scars on her arms. I can't understand how they can walk around with them showing like that! But I guess you can't wear long sleeves forever...
Personally, I don't have terrible scars. I take really good care of my cuts after I cut. (I've never cut very deeply anyway.) I just always feel guilty afterwards and scared that people will see the scars.
Lucifers Angel King For A Couple Of Days Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 4751
August 13th, 2006 at 03:05am
[quote="ava0893"]
+Maiku-San+:
I was at work today bagging groceries and this young woman came up with with her BF checking out stuff. She was wearing a short sleeve shirt and she had cut's/scar's all over her arms in the shape that a knife or razor would leave. And It scared me because I've done it to myself (not any where near to the severity she did) and it made my think "well... what if it gets THAT bad for me?"
I saw a girl at Warped who had major cutting scars on her arms. I can't understand how they can walk around with them showing like that! But I guess you can't wear long sleeves forever...
Personally, I don't have terrible scars. I take really good care of my cuts after I cut. (I've never cut very deeply anyway.) I just always feel guilty afterwards and scared that people will see the scars.[/quote
perhaps they do it so we can learn from it, or even perhaps they do it because they're not ashamed of what they did.
Sylar Falling In Love With The Board Age: 35 Gender: Female Posts: 5703
August 13th, 2006 at 06:49am
Coff:
Mikko Lindstrom:
This may have been said before, but I hate how people think self harm is without doubt going to lead to suicide.
I don't want to sound 'emo' or whatever term is being used now, but I've been cutting for years and although suicide has crossed my mind, I don't think I'll ever go through with it. Cutting is simply a way for myself and many other people of coping with pain felt emotionally. I'm not proud of it, and never display my scars, but I enjoy the slight release I feel with each cut.
Bash me all you want, but I can honestly say nothing will come of it.
MY POINT IS (having gone and got horribly off topic) that not all people who cut are suicidal blah blah blah and a lot of those people who cut, you probably wouldn't even know they did it unless they divulged that information to you.
Yeah. I agree with all, except for that bit where you said "I don't want to sound emo". Except I already had that rant with/to you in the old thinking thread. And I know you're not being stupid, because you agreed with me.
...I think that was you
I wasn't putting down emos, I was just clrifying it to anyone who would have otherwise dared call me one. You mention cutting this day in age and whether you agree with the generalisation that all emos cut or not, they're the first thing that comes to mind. And I don't think it was me you had it out with.
I bid you a good day.
i'm not a cutter myself. once, some preppy bitch said that anyone who listens to green day or other punk rock group is a cutter. excuse me, but green day is my favorite band and i'm not a cutter. i hate when people make judgements especially when it's related to the music you like.
Arcane-Inamorata King For A Couple Of Days Age: 33 Gender: Female Posts: 3278
August 21st, 2006 at 03:11am
as much as I hate to admit it, i was, indeed a cutter. I used to think it was dumb, but then i did it and it helped my anger. When my parents found out, I felt really bad because they were so upset. I quit just for them... Not saying I don't relapse occasionally. I don't think its right anymore. Theres other ways to help yourself.
Ryan Ross. Basket Case Age: 35 Gender: Female Posts: 17712
September 4th, 2006 at 02:50am
hi, my friend is cutting her for a while, but last week it's getting worse and worse. i really don't know what to do. last night she thought about suicide and that made me go crazy. i don't wanna lose her. she's so brilliant. so someone, help me please what should i do to help her?
Plug In Baby. Addict Age: 34 Gender: Female Posts: 11334
September 4th, 2006 at 07:44am
This is more in relation to Anorexia, which I guess is a form of self harm.
Anyways. ijust cant stand it, when people use anorexic to describe skinny people.
My friend is quite an offender of this. "Err you're like, anorexic, you're so skinny".
Or, "You can put your hand around your wrist, and they touch!? You're so anorexic!"
..I had a go at her today. I said "Hey, look, anorexia is serious, and its not a way to describe anyone thin, and I want you to stop." Something to that effect. I cant remember exactly.
But I just hate it so much >_<
And one of my friends little brothers was all "Are your brothers and sister like that? Like, all black and cutting wrists and stuff" and so I had a go at him too.
brownie King For A Couple Of Days Age: 34 Gender: Male Posts: 2438
September 4th, 2006 at 07:55am
i hate my life and have contemplated suicide many times
newagecarny Was Here Two Weeks Ago Age: 33 Gender: Female Posts: 42495
September 4th, 2006 at 08:02am
brownie:
i hate my life and have contemplated suicide many times
Have you ever thought about why you hate it so profoundly?
If we type personal experiences and things we've done, can we get reported?
robotchicken. Falling In Love With The Board Age: 34 Gender: Female Posts: 8423
September 5th, 2006 at 02:40am
xXx_I want my cookie_xXx:
i've wanted to cut myself... but i've never done it... but im tempted to because i don't know if i can vent any other way anymore...
Try running instead. Just run...and run some more when it hurts. Its the same isnt it? Im not trying to poke fun at this serious matter. But maybe taking up something could help. Like breaking things or running or weight lifting. idk. It helps me, alot. o_o
That's so sad.
