Someone help me D:
This is all a long story really, but I'm gonna try to sum it up.
My dad's girlfriend is in North Carolina. They love eachother. I love her. I love him. I want us to be together. Problem is, my dad has no money, Tiffanie has no job, they're both living with their parents. He's stuck here in Delaware... 600 miles away. If it weren't for me, my dad would be in North Carolina with her by now. I really don't want to leave here... my friends and all. But I just can't stand seeing him like this. He's on the phone with her for hours every night long distance. She misses him like hell. I want him to be happy so bad but I can't stand the thought of switching schools and moving again.
Plus I'm really anti-social and so that makes school all the more harder. I spent the past 3 years talking as little as I possibly could and pretty much failing every class because I couldn't work with anyone or talk to anyone and alot of the stuff we did we had to do in groups. Switching schools would make it all the more harder, and I can't live with that. But at the same time I can't live with knowing that I'm keeping my dad and Tiffanie apart.
Tiffanie's uncle has a nice little house in the mountains... he said that we could live there. I'd love to live there but I just don't think I'd be able to get through switching schools. I'm having a hard enough time in the one I'm in now, the last thing I wanna do is go to a new one where I don't even know anyone. I just don't know what to do.
And on top of that, the love of my life lives 2 hours from where I am now. I only get to see him once a year. If I move, I'll see him MAYBE once every other year. I don't know if I can deal with that.
Tiffanie could move here, but first they'd both have to get jobs and he'd have to get a place to live. Right now we're with my grandmother and she doesn't want Tiffanie here again because it costs her enough money to have me alone living here. I just don't know what to do :(
My dad's girlfriend is in North Carolina. They love eachother. I love her. I love him. I want us to be together. Problem is, my dad has no money, Tiffanie has no job, they're both living with their parents. He's stuck here in Delaware... 600 miles away. If it weren't for me, my dad would be in North Carolina with her by now. I really don't want to leave here... my friends and all. But I just can't stand seeing him like this. He's on the phone with her for hours every night long distance. She misses him like hell. I want him to be happy so bad but I can't stand the thought of switching schools and moving again.
Plus I'm really anti-social and so that makes school all the more harder. I spent the past 3 years talking as little as I possibly could and pretty much failing every class because I couldn't work with anyone or talk to anyone and alot of the stuff we did we had to do in groups. Switching schools would make it all the more harder, and I can't live with that. But at the same time I can't live with knowing that I'm keeping my dad and Tiffanie apart.
Tiffanie's uncle has a nice little house in the mountains... he said that we could live there. I'd love to live there but I just don't think I'd be able to get through switching schools. I'm having a hard enough time in the one I'm in now, the last thing I wanna do is go to a new one where I don't even know anyone. I just don't know what to do.
And on top of that, the love of my life lives 2 hours from where I am now. I only get to see him once a year. If I move, I'll see him MAYBE once every other year. I don't know if I can deal with that.
Tiffanie could move here, but first they'd both have to get jobs and he'd have to get a place to live. Right now we're with my grandmother and she doesn't want Tiffanie here again because it costs her enough money to have me alone living here. I just don't know what to do :(
Well, North Carolinians [the ones I know] aren't really "judgy" people
I mean some of us have attitude problems, but that's the same everywhere...
All I mean by that is if you do have to move then look at the possitive, don't look at it as "It's a new school, it's torture"
If you want to talk about it, I'm here pretty much everyday
Emily., October 6th, 2007 at 04:57:39am
As for the love part, Jeff and I have pretty much loved eachother since we met. And back then we were only little kids. This was like 7 years ago. We had crushes on eachother from the day we met and the feelings got strong everytime we saw eachother. There's not a single person in the world that could take his place.
And my friends are keeping me here because before I moved here, I had no friends whatsoever. That was 4 years ago. And now all I've got is Jeremie. And I only have her because she's not like most people and she's the one person I know who doesn't judge me and assume things that may not be true and whatnot.
Moving again just would never work out with school.
So yes, Jeff and Jeremie are all that's keeping me here, but that's more than enough. I love them both as much as I love my dad so it's just impossible for me to leave them.
That and the last time I moved [which only lasted a month because of a bunch of different reasons] I was on the phone all day every day because I was up almost every night of that month crying because I just missed them so much. So the phone bill ended being just unbelievable.
That and if I did move there, the only phone we'd have is my dad's girlfriend's cell. We'd have no internet and no cable. I'd go crazy not being able to contact anyone.
I've spent years actually begging my dad to stay here and to find a house here. And now I'm just starting to feel so bad because his girlfriend misses him so much.
The more I think about it I realise there's nothing to do and I'm just gonna end up stuck in this hell hole with my grandmother until my dad decides to grow up and start acting responsible X_X
kodama., August 28th, 2007 at 02:09:54am
1.i agreee wiht I'll_be_back option number 1 is probly the one id go for. If your not doing well at school now it might be easier for you to switch and make a HUGE effort to make friends and do things in class. If your not happy now than even if you dont like school there (which is why you need to try really hard) at least you will be happy at home. You might be able o get a job there if you really need to as well. :D
2. It seems to me that the 2 things holding you back from moving are:
a. Your Friends
b. The love of your life
To be honest it seems like if you can make friends now you can probly make friends there. It might even be easier for you to make friends if your happy at home rather than worrying about your dad.
And can you really picture yourself in 20 years still being there friends? also, if your failing almost every class it might be best to
have a fresh start anyway as continuing to fail might have a huge impact on your life.
As for your love of your life i dont really think its worth seeing him once a year in exchange for you and your dads happiness. Youd probly find love somewhere else with somebody that you can actually see maybe every day.
Hope this helps *huggles* and everything turns out for the best :D
Meerkat, August 27th, 2007 at 09:15:00pm
I meant Tessa :D
moody fallon, August 26th, 2007 at 08:57:26pm
Tessam how about you come live with Jackie? :]
moody fallon, August 26th, 2007 at 08:37:50pm
I agree with I'll_Be_Back.
You're saying that you want all this to happen and that you want everything just to work out, but it won't work out on it's own. If you love someone you have to make sacrifices. If you do end up moving to a new school, don't think of it as a bad thing, think of it as a new start! =] You don't like your school at the moment, so this could be a chance to make the effort of making friends.
And about the job thing, his girlfriend isn't there to be responsible, and he's not so, YOU be the responsible one, at least for now to help him off his feet. Find a few job offers and suggest them, motivate him everyday.
And don't blame yourself, you're not the one at fault and you know it... Don't put yourself down like that. You're dad wouldn't be happier with his girfriend INSTEAD of you! He'd be heartbroken! And don't put it on yourself to provide for him, you have school to worry about, that's your job. His job is to provide for you.
Hope things work out anyway. Good luck=]
Teh munkeh, August 26th, 2007 at 07:05:51pm
I could get a job, but I've applied to several places and either I don't have the requirements or I can't work the hours they need because I have school. And I just refuse to work in a fast-food restaurant.
And my dad has a job now, but the pay is terrible. And knowing him, it'll take much much more than a year before he can afford anyplace. If his girlfriend were here, she'd be a big help. She's a hell of a lot more responsible than he is.
I'm just hoping Tiffanie gets a job so she can come here and help him out because he's way too damn immature to do anything on his own ><
I am seriously thinking about asking him if we could go back to NC though. I might just regret it but at least I'll be with him and that's really what matters to me more than anything.
kodama., August 26th, 2007 at 04:41:41pm
DDD:
that is a sticky situation ._.
*hugs*
i would feel the same way =/
St. Lucie, August 26th, 2007 at 04:25:05pm
Well I think you have a couple of options. (Sorry to sound blunt but I think it's reality I suppose)
1. You need to toughen up and try and make things easier for your dad and move and be happy for him and make a HUGE effort to go to a new school and make friends. You know , join clubs and whatever. I've never liked moved to a TOTALLY new place so it's up to you if you want to take this advice.
2. Force your dad to get a job and them wait like a year until he can afford a place of his own and then have his girlfriend move down so then you don't have to move school and you can see the love of your life. So really just waiting. I don't know how old you are either so I suppose you could try and get a job.
now for sympathy
I am really sorry. It must really suck to be in this position. *snuggles* I really hope everything turns out for the best!!
I'll_Be_Back, August 26th, 2007 at 04:24:06pm