Should I or shouldn't I?
On my profile I have a small section where my 2 friends Chad and Sanfred have written something about me; If you have read it you will notice that Chad said that he loves me. Sanfred is just a mate, but Chad really really likes me and I really really like him aswell, the only problem is our age difference; Chad is 19, I'm 15. We've spoken about us being a couple, I'm just afraid that he's gonna wanna have sex or something, I'm not ready for that yet and won't be for a long time. Dad says Chad is a nice boy who will respect me if we do become a couple.
I have to admit Chad is exactly what I like in a boy; long hair, loves music, funny, caring, sweet and he's a drummer.
Last weekend we almost kissed; I was at his house, we were sitting in his room watching South Park and Family Guy, it was cold and I started shivering so he put his arm around me, I turned to look at him, he looked me, he smiled, I smiled, he lent over to kiss me, but I turned away, he kept his arm around me, turned and looked at the floor with a sad look on his face, I turned to him and said "Chad, its not that I didn't want to kiss you, I'm just not ready" he asked why I wasn't ready so I told him about the incident that happened last year, (If you don't know see my blog titled why won't they understand?) I started to cry cause I always do when I talk about it, when I finished telling him his jaw dropped, he gave me a hug and said "I'm sorry Bron, I didn't know" I said it was ok and that he didn't have to apologize. He wiped the tears from my face, kissed me on the cheek and we both smiled. I really really like him, dad really likes him, hes already calling my dad, dad. I'm just not sure if I should date him cause of our age difference.
What do you guys think?????
I have to admit Chad is exactly what I like in a boy; long hair, loves music, funny, caring, sweet and he's a drummer.
Last weekend we almost kissed; I was at his house, we were sitting in his room watching South Park and Family Guy, it was cold and I started shivering so he put his arm around me, I turned to look at him, he looked me, he smiled, I smiled, he lent over to kiss me, but I turned away, he kept his arm around me, turned and looked at the floor with a sad look on his face, I turned to him and said "Chad, its not that I didn't want to kiss you, I'm just not ready" he asked why I wasn't ready so I told him about the incident that happened last year, (If you don't know see my blog titled why won't they understand?) I started to cry cause I always do when I talk about it, when I finished telling him his jaw dropped, he gave me a hug and said "I'm sorry Bron, I didn't know" I said it was ok and that he didn't have to apologize. He wiped the tears from my face, kissed me on the cheek and we both smiled. I really really like him, dad really likes him, hes already calling my dad, dad. I'm just not sure if I should date him cause of our age difference.
What do you guys think?????
I'd go for it!!! Age is just a number....
About the whole sex thing, I see your point. I would talk to Chad about that, just telling him that you don't want to be come that involved so soon...
Barney Stinson, May 8th, 2008 at 03:32:22pm
if your dad likes him, you like him, and you trust him, there should be no problem.
the only problem with age is usually the maturity difference. most of the time this means 19 year old boys are much more sexually mature (and sometimes mentally, but not often..haha) than 15 year old girls. as long as hes not forcing you into anything, it is definitely okay. its a good sign that your dad even trusts him =]
you know, when you get to be an adult, a four year age difference is nothing at all. its just when you are growing up it seems so much bigger.
suburban.zombie, May 8th, 2008 at 03:31:10pm
If you and your dad really like him, then go for it. Age difference shouldn't matter. If he tries to force you to do something, tell him to stop. And if he doesn't, he obviously has no respect for you.
Skippy., May 8th, 2008 at 05:23:40am
when a dad likes a guy for his daughter it must mean that guy is defo something special because dads are very overprotective
and tbh i think from the sounds of things this guy would never rush you into anything, and you must be quite special to him for him to be so close to you and love you despite the age differnce so he would be aware of the boundries
and i really think age shouldnt count if its true love involved
i mean if he was flirting with you and trying to pass sexual comments then thats different that would be lust
but this sounds like love and i know you dont want to be rushed or hurt if he wants something more, but i think you two will learn more from each other as a couple and prehaps in a few years time if your both together then you may be ready to move forward a step
i would suggest you date him, delay it for too long and you may end up breaking his heart.
paper heart., May 8th, 2008 at 04:51:29am
Age is nothing when it comes to love, never let anybody tell you otherwise.
From what i've read, he seems to be a really nice boy. I think you should date him if you like him that much. But lay down some ground rules, Like 'no sex until you're ready for it', 'dont force me into anything'. Stuff like that, Just to reinforce things. *nod*
Tholomew Plague, May 8th, 2008 at 04:43:58am