Mom and Dad Will Never Understand
I can never concentrate. I ALWAYS procrastinate on everything, and it sucks. I have the worst memory and attention span ever. All I can really remember is songs and stuff. I never do my homework the night before, I can't sleep at nighttime (but I can't sleep with light in my eyes) which may be part of it, and projects are impossible for me unless I think they're really interesting. My mind always wonders to Green Day or something random and crazy. People have suggested giving up Green Day, and once there was almost an intervention, but if I didn't have Green Day my life would be hell. My parents think that Green Day is the cause of my problems, but it's really the opposite. It even helps me concentrate a little. They keep taking it away, watching me fall apart, and then giving it back after I'm all but a pile of dust. They don't care. They want me to be miserable, I know it. Parents will never understand. They don't even see the logic that they miss in their judgements. They blame me without proof. I don't want to be something I'm not, but if I'm myself they make fun of me and drive me crazy. Sometimes I'm alone locked in my room in hysterics. Sometimes I have dreams of killing some people. Sometimes... No, most times, I wish I was somewhere, ANYWHERE else. I'm usually thinking, "5 more years? I'll probably be DEAD in 5 years!!!" Me and my friend have a plan. As soon as we graduate, we're pulling together all of our money, picking a state, and getting a place there. If they saw this, they'd just take away something very near and dear to me instead of talking about it. Well, if yelling counts as talking, then there's always that. I wish they would just understand, but they don't and they never will. I'm always planning what I'll do when I'm a parent. If I'm watching South Park, I'm not gonna send them to bed. I'm gonna either let them watch what I'm watching or not watch it at all. They preach all this shit, "don't swear, don't do this, don't do that" and tell me not to do all the stuff they do. They'll tell me that they'll kill me if I ever drink, even after I'm 21, while they're pouring their beer or vodka or zima or whatever. They tell me to never do drugs, but that's MY choice. They can't shoot me for it. Then they tell me I'm lazy and don't ever do anything. I dust and sweep every other day, feed and water the dogs, plant stuff in the garden, watch my brother, and get them stuff constantly. I just want a mom, dad, stepmom, and stepdad who listen. I'm not saying that my parents are bad parents or abusive, because technically they're not. They're just like most other parents. They'll never understand. And if I talked to them about it, they'd say that it's not true and that I'm just paranoid or something. What can I do?
Depends on the parent really. I remember what it was like to be 13, and I can relate to my 15 year old daughter. The thing is it's not that they don't understand, it's that you have different perspectives on any given issue The reality is your parents just want you to have a great life and not screw it up making the same mistakes they might have made.
Grandma, August 10th, 2008 at 06:32:29am
I agree with the others. When I was 13, I felt the same way as you do now. Now that I'm 16, I've realized that my parents just wanted to protect me. (They still kinda do, really. xD) Your parents just want to make sure you don't get into something bad; and of course they don't understand you; that's usually how parents are. But it's okay because things will most likely turn out better later on in life for you. :D
Kr!sta's Inferno, August 9th, 2008 at 01:55:59pm
I fully agree with Who Stole My Pants?
[this comment is immediantly diminished in seriousness by saying the phrase "who stole my pants?']
When I was 13, I thought my parents didn't understand me at all. That I was being forced to do things I didn't want to, that my parents just wanted me to be sad.
Well, yeah, it's been 2 years. Obviously you're going to learn they care about you and don't want you to ruin your own life by drugs, alchohol, and other stuff at a young age. I used to think my mom was just a meanie, but now she's one of the closest people to me, she knows me best.
They only want to protect you. Dude, you're 13. You're not going anywhere for 5 years, so sit tight, and be more open-minded.
Tyler Durden, August 9th, 2008 at 12:52:58pm
Isn't 13 a wonderful age?
My first instinct is to tell you to just shut up and suck it up, be happy you have parents who don't beat the living sh*t out of you every damn day. Of course they will never understand (if they did they wouldn't be called parents) because they're always a generation behind. Give them some credit. You're 13 and still alive, that must mean they have been doing something right with you.
They want you to become a successful person, not some alcoholic or some loser who smokes their life away. I've seen and been on both sides, and trust me, its better to just steer clear of alcohol and drugs or smokes, especially as a kid, because being a kid is crappy enough. Why make it even harder when it isn't necessary?
Just be thankful for what you have and wait - its all in your age, when I was 13 life was sh*t and all that, but then you get older and start taking responsibility for yourself and your actions instead of whining about life in general, then people being respecting you a little more.
Addison Dewitt, August 9th, 2008 at 12:41:38am