Stupid drama?
I don’t really have another place to complain about this, so I’ll do it here.
I’ve had this friend for a while now. I think that most of the time, she’s fairly kind, not to mention funny, but we’re very different. We do get into arguments, and when she’s angry with me, she’s unnecessarily rude. I’m not going to use her real name, so I’ll just call her “Sally”.
See, the problem with Sally is that I try to listen and be sympathetic when she complains about her problems, but it seems like she’s always telling me “OMG SHUT UP AND GET OVER IT EMILY” when I try to tell her about my own. Usually hers are about guys or her parents. But to be fair, most of mine are too.
My school had a dance last night, and I have no idea why I went. Perhaps it was because my friends”including Sally”were going, or maybe because I’m a little stupid sometimes. I had a feeling that something bad was going to happen because a) I’m a little paranoid, and b) It’s happened many times before.
As I had predicted, the dance didn’t go too well. I absolutely despise rap (which was all the DJ played, for the most part), there was almost nothing to do because I don’t dance very much, and I hate watching the guy I have somewhat of a crush on grind his girlfriend in the middle of the cafeteria, which really hurt me emotionally. I’ve had to deal with things like this before, and I’m completely sick of it. I was talking to my other friends about this, and they were actually very supportive, which surprised me, because I thought they’d think I was selfish for getting upset over something like this. This is when I decided to leave the dance and go home, because I just wasn’t having a good time. Once I arrived at my house again, I felt relieved.
Apparently, Sally didn’t approve of this. Earlier today, I started chatting with her online and asked, “How was the rest of the dance?” and she threw a fit. I tried to explain to her that I left because was miserable, and she just responded with rudeness, telling me to get over it and that she’d had a crush on a guy for five years and how much he hated her and things like that. I don’t think she understands that I’m honestly very different from most people and that I’m highly sensitive, which I have told her before. Then she said, “OMG, Emily, don’t even start with that,” and then told she wasn’t going to talk to me. That’s when I logged off.
Does leaving a dance because I’m upset make me “weak” or something like that? Should I just shut up and get over it? I don’t know, because none of my other friends seemed to be as infuriated as Sally was. I have no idea who’s right this time. All I know is that Sally tends to overreact, and that I felt so much better when I went back home.
I don’t feel any shame, I won’t apologize.
I’ve had this friend for a while now. I think that most of the time, she’s fairly kind, not to mention funny, but we’re very different. We do get into arguments, and when she’s angry with me, she’s unnecessarily rude. I’m not going to use her real name, so I’ll just call her “Sally”.
See, the problem with Sally is that I try to listen and be sympathetic when she complains about her problems, but it seems like she’s always telling me “OMG SHUT UP AND GET OVER IT EMILY” when I try to tell her about my own. Usually hers are about guys or her parents. But to be fair, most of mine are too.
My school had a dance last night, and I have no idea why I went. Perhaps it was because my friends”including Sally”were going, or maybe because I’m a little stupid sometimes. I had a feeling that something bad was going to happen because a) I’m a little paranoid, and b) It’s happened many times before.
As I had predicted, the dance didn’t go too well. I absolutely despise rap (which was all the DJ played, for the most part), there was almost nothing to do because I don’t dance very much, and I hate watching the guy I have somewhat of a crush on grind his girlfriend in the middle of the cafeteria, which really hurt me emotionally. I’ve had to deal with things like this before, and I’m completely sick of it. I was talking to my other friends about this, and they were actually very supportive, which surprised me, because I thought they’d think I was selfish for getting upset over something like this. This is when I decided to leave the dance and go home, because I just wasn’t having a good time. Once I arrived at my house again, I felt relieved.
Apparently, Sally didn’t approve of this. Earlier today, I started chatting with her online and asked, “How was the rest of the dance?” and she threw a fit. I tried to explain to her that I left because was miserable, and she just responded with rudeness, telling me to get over it and that she’d had a crush on a guy for five years and how much he hated her and things like that. I don’t think she understands that I’m honestly very different from most people and that I’m highly sensitive, which I have told her before. Then she said, “OMG, Emily, don’t even start with that,” and then told she wasn’t going to talk to me. That’s when I logged off.
Does leaving a dance because I’m upset make me “weak” or something like that? Should I just shut up and get over it? I don’t know, because none of my other friends seemed to be as infuriated as Sally was. I have no idea who’s right this time. All I know is that Sally tends to overreact, and that I felt so much better when I went back home.
I don’t feel any shame, I won’t apologize.
Man, you know I'm always here for you, right? (: I love you best friend. <3
Newt., August 10th, 2010 at 06:32:30am
I'm a bit late as well, but I agree completely with Peacemaker.
I've been in so many bad friend relationships where I've been emotionally used but didn't back off; born with too much empathy is hard! ;D
no, but I believe "Sally" has some issues (absolutely no offence) and maybe you two should take a break for a while. Maybe you won't miss her, maybe you will - you will hopefully figure out whether she was your best friend, or just a plain old friend.
There is just no use in staying with people that don't make you feel good and happy, people that will restrict who you are, what you think and what you want to do. Good luck!
Lissie!, April 7th, 2010 at 08:31:00pm
[I know this is a little late, but whatever.]
There are two different kinds of friends: BEST friends, and just plain old friends.
A best friend will stand up for you no matter what. A best friend will be there when you need a shoulder to cry on. With a best friend, you could just sit there with her in complete silence and it will never feel awkward.
Plain old friends say hi to each other in the hallway. Plain old friends might hang out outside of school every once in awhile, but not on a regular basis. Plain old friends have fun together, but you probably wouldn't take a plain old friend to go to a Green Day concert with you, for example.
This girl seems like a plain old friend to me.
You have fun with her when she's not being a brat, but when she is being a brat, she's really annoying and you just want her to go away.
You can still hang out with "Sally", and talk to her at school and stuff like that, you just need to always keep in mind how she made you feel those few times before she starts becoming more of a best friend again.
Leaving the dance does NOT make you weak at all, and honestly, I would've done the same thing. Do what makes you happy, not what makes other people happy, and if they have a problem with that, they're not a real friend.
Just my advice. (:
i quit GSB., March 29th, 2010 at 01:40:26am
She sounds like a c*ck
Tell her she can go away :D
Get some real friends :)
*hugs*
If you want to talk, I have no life and am normally here.
TO BE DELETED, March 23rd, 2010 at 03:44:08pm
hun
sometimes people may provide entertainment or are good fun to pass the time with, however a friend is someone who is there for us when we're there for them.
& I really don't want to hurt you, but she doesn't sound like a true friend.
there is no harm hanging out with her, having a good time, but I think the more you try to be there for her, and then expect something back, the more you hurt, and she reckons she can get away with it.
I'd say probably the less you expect of her, and the more "loose friends" catergory you put her in, probably the better your self-esteem will be.
and you are NOT weak for leaving, hell some girls i know would have caused a scene and cried or moaned to their mates the whole night
what you did was remove yourself from a bad situation whilst letting your friends enjoy their good night out.
i think that takes courage if anything.
don't let people get to you
if ever you feel like there is absolutly no one to talk to, worst come worst, just send me a PM.
now i'm barely ever online, and when i am its very brief moments
but if you do PM me i will do my ut-most to reply back to you as soon as i see it.
& good luck with life hun :) x
paper heart., March 22nd, 2010 at 05:44:57pm
don't apologize or feel bad about it, she seems like a right b*tch no offense.
idk I think she's not being very supportive at ALL, seems kinda one sided
wanderlust, March 21st, 2010 at 10:30:06pm