Family + School.... T.T Help?
About two months ago; my Dad said to me that I'm going through a gothic phase, and that it would be over soon. Its now December.. He said that in October roughly.. But, I have been listening to the music I listen to (Papa Roach, Green Day, Linkin Park, Avenged Sevenfold..) since April.. ? And I'll admit, my sense of fashion and music has cahnged from the start of the year.. But, I don't really care.. I mean I like what I like..
But then, because I'm not like every other girl at school, I get called Emo.. And Slitter.. The other day someone grabbed my wrists and checked for slits... Just because I don't like Pop music.. I don't coat my face in make-up everyday.. I've never had a boyfriend.. I don't wear short skirts and have a handbag; it seems like I'm not allowed many friends..?
On the other hand, its getting near Christmas... So I've asked for a Papa Roach, Avenged Sevenfold, and a Black Veil Brides CD... I used to love Black Veil Brides for a week not long ago... And my mum said to me a couple of nights ago: "Who's this wrist-slitting band you have been listening too? Avenged Sevenfold? Or is wrist-slitting music Black Veil Brides?" I didn't expect her to say that... Never mind to my face... I had a talk with my mum a couple of weeks ago about people at school... About me getting called Goth, Emo, Slitter and that sort of stuff and she said to me "If you want to be Goth one week, do that. If you want to be Emo the next, you can. If you want to b a skater kid the next, do that, 'cause no matter what music you listen too, or what you wear, its you're personality that counts." Once she had said that, I thought she wasn't bothered about what I listen too... But now I think she is.. Right now it seems like everyone has some sort of problem with me.. ?
Everything is just getting to me... And I don't know what to do.. Even some teachers at school are starting to treat me differently.. And its just making me feel small.. However, I know my friends like me for who I am...
I'm sure you know the populars? Ever school has them I am sure... They knock me down, as soon as I pull myself back up.. They knock me down again.. Anything I can do... ?
But then, because I'm not like every other girl at school, I get called Emo.. And Slitter.. The other day someone grabbed my wrists and checked for slits... Just because I don't like Pop music.. I don't coat my face in make-up everyday.. I've never had a boyfriend.. I don't wear short skirts and have a handbag; it seems like I'm not allowed many friends..?
On the other hand, its getting near Christmas... So I've asked for a Papa Roach, Avenged Sevenfold, and a Black Veil Brides CD... I used to love Black Veil Brides for a week not long ago... And my mum said to me a couple of nights ago: "Who's this wrist-slitting band you have been listening too? Avenged Sevenfold? Or is wrist-slitting music Black Veil Brides?" I didn't expect her to say that... Never mind to my face... I had a talk with my mum a couple of weeks ago about people at school... About me getting called Goth, Emo, Slitter and that sort of stuff and she said to me "If you want to be Goth one week, do that. If you want to be Emo the next, you can. If you want to b a skater kid the next, do that, 'cause no matter what music you listen too, or what you wear, its you're personality that counts." Once she had said that, I thought she wasn't bothered about what I listen too... But now I think she is.. Right now it seems like everyone has some sort of problem with me.. ?
Everything is just getting to me... And I don't know what to do.. Even some teachers at school are starting to treat me differently.. And its just making me feel small.. However, I know my friends like me for who I am...
I'm sure you know the populars? Ever school has them I am sure... They knock me down, as soon as I pull myself back up.. They knock me down again.. Anything I can do... ?
Thanks guys, :) It just gets on my nerves, y'know?
InnocentDemon, December 11th, 2010 at 08:11:39am
It's hard, I know..
Just show everyone you don't care, show them that they can't hurt you with all this 'slitting' sh*t.. they'll notice it doesn't bother you and maybe leave you alone :)
Worked with me.
Suga., December 10th, 2010 at 09:57:02pm
Been there.
Done that.
Bought the black t-shirt with skulls on it.
Just ride it through.
It is a phase (I didn't think it was either).
Now, roughly 5 years afterwards, and I'm into bright clothes, craziness and electro xD
*hugs*
Just ride it out, ignore the haters and tell your mum that she can shove it up her arse.
TO BE DELETED, December 9th, 2010 at 03:19:31am
I wish I had some great advice to give you, but I do know how you feel. People are very stereotypical. I really think you should break a barrier and show them that your style is just unique and you shouldn't be "wrong" in their eyes because of it. As for your parents, it may be a good idea to talk it out with them even though you talked to them about school, home is completely separate. Just know yourself and who you are, and you'll get through it. If you wanna talk more send me a message or comment I'd be happy to try and help you more.
Shelbysername!, December 8th, 2010 at 06:23:49pm
Sounds like everyone's being very stereotypical towards you. I've went through stuff like that, I just ignored the people's stupid comments through the early years of school because they soon grew up and and realised it's the personality that counts. Labelling someone because of what music they like and what fashion they wear is just immature, in my opinion. It will pass and get better when you leave school, nobody cares about peoples images after that.
Ensiferum, December 7th, 2010 at 12:49:02pm
I know it's hard at the time, and a lot of us went through it, but seriously, when you leave school and actually see the world you'll find people who you never thought could even exist.
The thing about school friends is that they're just convenient. You get smooshed together and you make the best with what you've got. But one day you'll find friends based soley on who you are as a person and who they are.
Not because you have to spend your weeks with them.
Just wait it out love, it all gets better at the end. <3
waiting_a_long_time, December 6th, 2010 at 03:26:15am
I know it sounds impossible, but the only way to stop letting people like that getting to you is to stop caring. When I was 13/14, I went through the depressing music, too much eyeliner, no one understands me phase before any of my friends at school, it was pretty much the same then for me; until I stopped caring what they thought. The year after, those kids that had called me every name under the sun were asking to borrow my mp3 player, asking how I got my eyeliner so good, begging to see pictures of me with guys from bands; they wanted to be my friend because they were all desperate to be different now it was cool. Do what makes you happy and wait it out.
Yay!, December 5th, 2010 at 05:42:22am