Sylar Falling In Love With The Board Age: 35 Gender: Female Posts: 5703
April 16th, 2007 at 12:43am
tyco:
Anji:
Self infliction of pain releases endorphins. Endorphins have similar properties to morphine, except that it is naturally occuring in the piuitary gland and the nervous system. It is possible that most people who practice self harm never actually 'hurt' themselves with enough endorphins being released into the brain, since it is a pain-reliever neurotransmitter. So, there is no actual harm in self-harm. They're produced when there are high levels of stress present, no surprise about it, so some people have found a way to eliviate their stress through self-harm. Releasing endorphins aslo strengthens the immune system, yet another reason why I can see pains good affects. I guess pain addiction is similar to morphine addiction since endorphins are like morphine, and could then lead to addiciton.
If you think people shouldn't do it...well sex also releases endorphins.
So does eating certain foods, running, laughing, and other relieving activities. People who are addicited to endorphin release may run to much, eat too much chilli, whatever, but cutting is only another way to relieve themselves.
erm yea.... and what about those people who cut too deep and kill themselves or have to be rushed to casualty because they have cut into a major vein or archery.
what about the nasty scars and the way people look at you when they see them
what about finding it hard to get a job where your arms might be on show
what about those people that get too addicted that they have to find otherways to feed there addiction. what about those that get soooo worked up by it all that they actually commit suicide what about those whos parents would literally dissown them if they knew
what about those who lose all there friends because no one wants to be friends with a loser who results in self harm!
THAT! is why thats why people shouldnt do it!
its a scarey thing it really is.
and if sex and food and running all release it then these are the things that cutters should be doing instead of cutting!
I've gone through all that and have I stopped? NO. I've just become more cunning. For someone truely addicted to cutting there will always be a way around a problem.
I get emotionally hurt a lot, i used to cut and i sometimes do now, i try so hard not to and i am ashamed. But it takes the emotional pain away from me, i dont want to die but im not afraid, i wish i could stop but i cant
I get emotionally hurt a lot, i used to cut and i sometimes do now, i try so hard not to and i am ashamed. But it takes the emotional pain away from me, i dont want to die but im not afraid, i wish i could stop but i cant
Addison Montgomery. Falling In Love With The Board Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 7078
i respect other people's opinions about this but i think its totally pointless cause in the end youre the only one that suffers, instead of taking the pain away it harms you more... and about suicide i think its totally pointless and that there are much better ways to slve your problems. i think suicide will never help it just ends with you and harms all of your family, friends, etc..
robotchicken. Falling In Love With The Board Age: 34 Gender: Female Posts: 8423
June 22nd, 2007 at 05:02pm
Libertina Grimm:
^ Exactly.
I found when I go into a bout of depression- I'm not sure I'll ever be rid of it- the thought of a god out there letting me feel like this made things worse. Then I'd start thinking about the starving kids out there, the homeless people and all that other crap that a god could help... And ugh. Made things so much messier
Letting you not feel that way would take away your free will. We cant just pick and choose our emotions, feelings, and thoughts.
I haven't cut for ages.
Every time I get the urge I just remind myself how much of a bother it is to have to cover up and hide the scars from people. I know i'm good at it because no one knows I used to cut, but that doesn't stop it from being a pain to hide.
wfougoafoihqfe Falling In Love With The Board Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 9656
June 23rd, 2007 at 02:19pm
tyco:
okay i agree but there are very few of them most people who do it or have done it really liked it it wasnt a punishment for them.
I probably sound like I'm picking holes or whatever, but how can you know what 'most people' are thinking anyway?
*offtopic* Wow, I just saw your new avatar and Queen's song 'Save Me' suddenly burst into my head in full volume. *offtopic*
Not a bad thing, since I do like the song. Cute ava, too.
thanks.
Billie's Willie Moderator Age: 35 Gender: Female Posts: 46473
June 25th, 2007 at 01:29am
I used to do it. For years. It disturbed me that I could just do something like that, but I felt like I couldn't stop. I was suffering silently for a good two years. No way was I going to tell anybody around me. I didn't trust them. Thankfully though, in late 2005 I found somebody that I felt close to...somebody that I could trust. Honestly, I wouldn't have quit if it wasn't for two people in my life. My friend, Ashley, was there for me. Someone I could talk to when I felt an "urge" coming on. And Jayden...well, he was going to be born 6 months from when I told myself "You are stopping." I didn't want him growing up around someone that could hurt themselves like I did. Everyday those two people give me the strength to keep going. I really don't think people can just quit on their own. They need someone to talk to. To listen. I've been "clean" for a good year and a half now. ..yeah.
okay self harm is a cry for help always and its also always for attention! i have been through it and i know this and its something i wouldnt do anymore.
the person wants to be aknowlaged and seen to when i used to do it allthough i used to hide my scars i used to wish people would notice so i could have help or to get attention (bad is better then none when you feel alone)
it also kinda gives you a sense of freedom and i dunno summin nice maybe achivement... you did this on your own there for your in controll of yourself almost i guess..
and it dose feel like your draining all the bad blood away the pain misery etc. etc.
just letting it all go and start a fresh.
that is actually caused my a chemicle that leaves your body i belive when you do it,
im just trying to help those who havnt been through it to understand from somone elses prsopective
also i can be an addiction and everyone should stop its not good and its not healthy and attention can be got in better fasions without loosing yourself (sorry bout spelling)
You've been through it. Okay. Whatever. Your experience is not like everyone else's experiences. You may have cut yourself for attention, but not everyone else does. Not everyone is like you.
I just thought I'd remind you of that =]
I do it sometimes. Mostly just hitting myself with an electrical cord. It's away of taking out my anger on myself, I guess. It also feels good. A sort of achievement, I guess. Plus, I think it prepares me for things that might hurt more.
Macfadyen Basket Case Age: 33 Gender: Female Posts: 16175
June 26th, 2007 at 06:07pm
People say suicide is the most selfish thing a person can do.
Personally, I think it's far more selfish to expect a miserable person to stick around and put up with their pain and suffering because of other people.
I had alot of friends and soem boyfriends with this problem (cutting) to help them you really have to talk to them to help them stop because you cant force them to stop. You dont see how bad it is untill you see them do it and i have and I've seen pics and I've seen when my friends wrist wouldnt stop bleeding for a long time and its scary but I'm helping them stop
I used to self harm a lot but it was never for attention, it was a form of self punishment and discipline. I used to think everything was my fault and so things happened accordingly.
I used to cut my stomach because that was the one place i could constantly keep covered from people [ it was also before i had my navel piercings done] but one day my sister saw as i reached up to hang up clothes.
After that, I opened up to her - about my suicidal thoughts, the craving for self harming - and being a previous sufferer herself, she immediately recognised that I suffered from depression.
I was then taken to the GP and I had a psychiatrist for almost a year.
Until last night [there's been a lot of stuff happening in my life atm], I hadn't cut since the last time I saw my psychiatrist which was about March or April.
From that, my own experience, I would definitely recommend speaking out to someone you trust if you're harming yourself so that you can have the help you need to sort stuff out that you can't handle by yourself.
Thing is though, it takes time and to be honest, during the time I had my psychiatrist, I cut more and more and advanced into the more potentially dangerous sites such as wrists but when I tried my best to co operate, it didn't take long for me to stop.
Oh and before you start, this isn't my life story, nor am I seeking attention but I'm open with my problems so that others can feel they can be too. The world would be a much better place if we were all a little more helpful with each other.
Anji Basket Case Age: 35 Gender: Female Posts: 15914
July 2nd, 2007 at 11:17am
Someday I'd actually like to meet someone who does cut for attention. I just think it's funny how the majority of people are seen as cutting for the attention, yet not one person seems to admit to it. I'd like to meet someone who will freely admit.
Someday I'd actually like to meet someone who does cut for attention. I just think it's funny how the majority of people are seen as cutting for the attention, yet not one person seems to admit to it. I'd like to meet someone who will freely admit.
I'm sure I read that someone admitted that already in this thread...
I was wondering the same thing.
*offtopic*
thanks.
