In Love With My Friend....Again?
To start off: This is my first blog, so I am very, very, very sorry if it's a bad one. Tell me so, and I will delete it at once!
Thank you!
Okay, this is for me a serious problem( I think you've kinda guessed what it is, from the title). I think I'm falling in love with one of my friends....again.
She has no idea(I hope) that I used to be in love with her, and it took me a very long(and painful) time to get over her, and I really don't want to go through that again.
The way I got over her the last time, was that we stopped talking. I don't know how it happened, but just suddenly, we weren't talking anymore, which suited me at the time, but now we're talking again and hanging out and hugging like friends do, but I'm afraid I won't be able to take it. I'm afraid I will fall back in love with her. And she's a stunner, I'll tell you that! She's nice, she's funny and childish and she also just happens to have the looks of a model, and can probably get anyone she wants.
Plus I don't think she's bisexual.
She's very open with the whole kissing female friends(even though I've never kissed her) and the whole "being gay thing", but I really don't think she is bi.
And this is really frustrating for me, and I really, really, REALLY don't want to fall back in love with her, even though I think it might already be to late.
Do you have any suggestions on what I should do? Have you been in a similar situation?
- Melody
Thank you!
Okay, this is for me a serious problem( I think you've kinda guessed what it is, from the title). I think I'm falling in love with one of my friends....again.
She has no idea(I hope) that I used to be in love with her, and it took me a very long(and painful) time to get over her, and I really don't want to go through that again.
The way I got over her the last time, was that we stopped talking. I don't know how it happened, but just suddenly, we weren't talking anymore, which suited me at the time, but now we're talking again and hanging out and hugging like friends do, but I'm afraid I won't be able to take it. I'm afraid I will fall back in love with her. And she's a stunner, I'll tell you that! She's nice, she's funny and childish and she also just happens to have the looks of a model, and can probably get anyone she wants.
Plus I don't think she's bisexual.
She's very open with the whole kissing female friends(even though I've never kissed her) and the whole "being gay thing", but I really don't think she is bi.
And this is really frustrating for me, and I really, really, REALLY don't want to fall back in love with her, even though I think it might already be to late.
Do you have any suggestions on what I should do? Have you been in a similar situation?
- Melody
It seems like a lot of people disagree with me, but I just wanna tell you this much:
I really really really liked my friend, and I didn't even tell her, she found out. Needless to say she blocked me on AIM and we didn't talk for about FIVE months. This person was one of my best friends. I almost killed myself once over what happened. I would do ANYTHING for none of that to happened.
AND, the person knew I was bi and was totally fine with it. But when it's them, man, opinions change.
Miley Cyrus, June 10th, 2007 at 10:36:05am
Trust me, it can be that bad!
But I think I'll tell her...eventually
I Rule: End Off!, June 10th, 2007 at 08:24:14am
Well I think you should tell her how you feel! Like it can't be that bad can it?
If she is your true friend she will understand and tell you what she thinks!!
BeautyInBreakDown--, June 10th, 2007 at 08:21:42am
Well, she knows that I'm bi though, and she hasn't told anybody. I don't think she's the gossiping kind of person.
But still.....Telling her could ruin a lot of things =/
And it'll kill me, maybe......
But, if I tell her, when school vacation starts, I won't have to see her at school everyday, and I don't have to see her at drama, basically, it's easier to avoid her.....Maybe I'll tell her.....
I Rule: End Off!, June 10th, 2007 at 08:06:34am
hm.
that's a tough one.
you could either ruin the relationship or gain a new, closer relationship.
to me, it doesn't sound like she'd really go out with you, if she would accept the fact that you like her.
plus, she could be grossed out by the fact that you like her and ruin your reputation/tell other people and then EVERYONE at school/ whatever will say you're bi or a lesbian and they'll ask you every day or just talk about you. i know how THAT is.
i dunno honey.
personally, i like being honest with people and once i trust them enough, i tell them that i'm bi and they're fine with it, or they don't mind as long as i don't do anything to them.
but it's too late for you to do that..
i really don't know.
i'd be as stuck as you are though.
with all my heart, June 10th, 2007 at 01:31:12am
Wouldn't you feel better telling her and having her know even if she doesn't feel the same? That way it doesn't kill you inside because you will NEVER get her if she doesn't know that you like her in the first place. I say tell her.
jenna:hearts:spencer, June 9th, 2007 at 08:28:06pm
You can go really really wrong.
Having been in that situation and being reatively normal on a social level, it's a bad bad bad bad bad idea. She may be okay with "the whole gay thing" in theory, but when people are faced with it, it all changes. Trust me.
Miley Cyrus, June 9th, 2007 at 02:46:49pm
I wouldn'y take my advice simply because I am fully aware that my status as a normal teenager is way below normal, particularly in the social skill dept., but I would tell her. The whole 'kissing female friends thing' is usually a good sign, but I dunno. Tell her. Just say you have to tell her something and let it out.
'Hey, I like you, sort of a lot. I dont want that to ruin our friendship but I think Id feel better if you knew.'
That's what Id do. Cant go too wrong, right?
Idk, all I know is usually things go better if you just get them in the open.
banquo, June 9th, 2007 at 01:22:43pm
I used to have this exact problem, except she wasn't into the kissing female friends thing AND she found out and didn't talk to me for five months, and now we're nowhere NEAR as good friends as we used to be.
It prettty much just sucks ass.
Hmmm, there's not much you can do except wait it out, and for the love of God, DON'T TELL HER.
Miley Cyrus, June 9th, 2007 at 11:26:45am