I tried to be responsible
As everyone knows I was going to propose to my girlfriend, and I did. She rejected me and everything was fine until yesterday, she doesn't want me or the baby so she is going to have it aborted.
I tried to tell her that if she keeps it that I will take responsibility for it,she won't need to do anything and I'll raise it on my own. But she doesn't want to because she knows I can't cope. But shouldn't I have a say in this too.
Any advice?
I tried to tell her that if she keeps it that I will take responsibility for it,she won't need to do anything and I'll raise it on my own. But she doesn't want to because she knows I can't cope. But shouldn't I have a say in this too.
Any advice?
you really should sit her down and cover how you feel about it.
she's killing an innocent child...both of your child.
she might be just scared to have it, because it is one of the most scariest painful things to do. I can see where she's coming from.
but you two deffinatly need to talk more about it.
you should have a say in it.
Bubble Wrap., August 1st, 2007 at 10:38:55am
*sigh* I do think a guy should be able to take care of his own child if he's willing to, but legally, abortion is completely up to the girl. I really would try to convince her not to get it if I were you.
Billie's Willie, August 1st, 2007 at 02:35:59am
You do have SOME say in it morally. But then again not legally and it kinda is mostly her choice.
If she has it aborted, I think she'll regret it. A life not lived is a very sad thing...
But you have to see it from her point of view. She's probably thinking, "Why should i so through the pregnancy - weight gain, morning sickness, mood swings, back pain, labour and birth itself, etc - for a baby I don't even want?"
This is very hard and scary for her. I know you want the baby, but if she's not ready for all this, then i'm afraid it's really her choice.
Talk to her though. Tell her how you feel, just have a heart to heart.
I hope this all works out for you...
Teh munkeh, August 1st, 2007 at 02:13:14am
please dont make her abort the baby, thats just wrong. let her know and prove to her that u will make a great father. good luck
PenguinPunk, July 31st, 2007 at 10:36:56pm
go to www.jesus-is-savior.com, they should have pics of what abortion does to the kids. or try to stall until she's over 24 weeks, then she can't have one.
get famous, July 31st, 2007 at 10:17:52pm
It's either you convince her and get her out of having an abortion, then take responsibility...
Or she does the abortion...She must be aware of what she's doing. The poor baby is so innocent you know. But if it really is what she wants and there's not much you can do to stop her, then that's the end of it.
=[ I'm so sorry though..
threeam., July 31st, 2007 at 10:09:45pm
You definitely should, you are the father.
worn-out astronaut., July 31st, 2007 at 09:41:53pm
i agree with whatashame i think she's just really scared
billie's lover, July 31st, 2007 at 09:13:06pm
fathers rights are always a grey area but at the end of the day your both very young and as much as I applaude you for taking responcibility and proposing you need to think hard about if it was for the right reasons. She's probably very scared at the propest of being a mother because how do she know for certain that in 9 months time you still want to be the father because if she has people talking her out of it so will you and your in the position where you can walk away. She would have to carry the baby and then give birth which is veyr veyr difficult even more so if she's16/17. If this is what she wants then you have to respect her wishes.
NeoSteph, July 31st, 2007 at 09:01:46pm
If her mind is set on this, there may be no way to convince her otherwise. If you are certain you want to go through with raising the child on your own, your only alternative may be legal proceedings. Contact someone as fast as you can to discuss your options as I do not know your country's laws regarding this. A Family Law specialist is probably the best to contact. You may qualify for legal aid too.
Grandma, July 31st, 2007 at 06:37:15pm
=[ that f*cking sucks. i admit i'd be scared to have a child. but if the father really wanted that baby i'd have it. x_x
=[ im sorry i cant be of any help.
matt good., July 31st, 2007 at 06:24:17pm
She's already made her mind up, the appointment is set and everything and she's taking her four big brothers and her old man.
schooldropout, July 31st, 2007 at 06:20:33pm
i suggest confronting her and explaining how much this means to you. and ask her to really think about it as well, a baby is a life, a small life. created by two people and those two people both have a say in its life, heck until its old enough to make its own desicions you both control its life, explain to her what that baby could achieve. tell her just because she doesnt want you doesnt mean the baby wont. im sure you'll be an amazing father. :]
matt good., July 31st, 2007 at 06:19:19pm
yeah. i think you should cause its your baby. i think that shes terrified into giving birth.
whatashame, July 31st, 2007 at 06:01:49pm