The 7 Year Gap
The 7 Year Gap
I’ve always said that age was just a number. It didn’t matter in my mind, yet everybody else seemed to fuss and panic about it. I don’t really understand why it’s such a big deal, unless there is a reasonable argument opposing relationships with age gaps.
I was recently at a party. It was great fun of course, amazing people, lots of drink and what not. Towards the end of the night, I met this guy there. He was really nice, personality wise and funny, which was a plus. We ended up kissing a lot and spent most of the night together. We nearly ended up in the bedroom, but thankfully I wasn’t drunk enough to go with him.
The only problem was that I’m 18 and he’s 26. I don’t see much of a problem with that, because we’re both mature adults. Age never meant anything to me, especially if both of the people in the relationship are mature an accepting of the age difference.
My friend however thinks differently. She can’t seem to understand why I would even dream of getting together with a 26 year old. She’s thrown all of the arguments at me “Your to young” “You have your whole life ahead of you” “ The age gap” “Imagine what people would think”. But I honestly don’t care what people think. It’s none of their business, really. Once I am happy and once he’s happy - that’s all that matters, isn’t it?
I’m really in a bother about this. My friends are planning another house party within the next few weeks, and he’ll be there. I know this time that if we end up kissing again, things will go further and we may end up in the bedroom. I don’t know whether I want to have sex with him, especially since it’ll be only our second time seeing each other. But I’ve always had this care free attitude and my motto is “What happens at a house party, stays at a house party”. I’ve been to enough house parties in my life to know it’s all just a bit of fun.
I think deep down, I do want to have sex with him. I don’t just flaunt myself around to people, don’t get me wrong there. I do respect myself, but I don’t wear a chastity belt either. It’s just a bit of fun like and people get over these things, because like it or lump it, this stuff happens at college house parties.
I don’t even know what I’m ranting about. I just feel so lost with this. I don’t know if I do want him. If I don’t want him. Or, do I like him, or do I like the idea of him?
Have any of you ever been faced with a situation like this? I’m really lost here.
I’ve always said that age was just a number. It didn’t matter in my mind, yet everybody else seemed to fuss and panic about it. I don’t really understand why it’s such a big deal, unless there is a reasonable argument opposing relationships with age gaps.
I was recently at a party. It was great fun of course, amazing people, lots of drink and what not. Towards the end of the night, I met this guy there. He was really nice, personality wise and funny, which was a plus. We ended up kissing a lot and spent most of the night together. We nearly ended up in the bedroom, but thankfully I wasn’t drunk enough to go with him.
The only problem was that I’m 18 and he’s 26. I don’t see much of a problem with that, because we’re both mature adults. Age never meant anything to me, especially if both of the people in the relationship are mature an accepting of the age difference.
My friend however thinks differently. She can’t seem to understand why I would even dream of getting together with a 26 year old. She’s thrown all of the arguments at me “Your to young” “You have your whole life ahead of you” “ The age gap” “Imagine what people would think”. But I honestly don’t care what people think. It’s none of their business, really. Once I am happy and once he’s happy - that’s all that matters, isn’t it?
I’m really in a bother about this. My friends are planning another house party within the next few weeks, and he’ll be there. I know this time that if we end up kissing again, things will go further and we may end up in the bedroom. I don’t know whether I want to have sex with him, especially since it’ll be only our second time seeing each other. But I’ve always had this care free attitude and my motto is “What happens at a house party, stays at a house party”. I’ve been to enough house parties in my life to know it’s all just a bit of fun.
I think deep down, I do want to have sex with him. I don’t just flaunt myself around to people, don’t get me wrong there. I do respect myself, but I don’t wear a chastity belt either. It’s just a bit of fun like and people get over these things, because like it or lump it, this stuff happens at college house parties.
I don’t even know what I’m ranting about. I just feel so lost with this. I don’t know if I do want him. If I don’t want him. Or, do I like him, or do I like the idea of him?
Have any of you ever been faced with a situation like this? I’m really lost here.
she is married???
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kevinkerson, November 29th, 2010 at 07:41:22pm
D:
what if he's married ?
toybox trash, November 18th, 2008 at 11:37:04am
7 years is not bad my best friend's dad and step-mom are 22 years apart *shrug* ii's no biggy
fruit_baskets, November 17th, 2008 at 02:50:19pm
SEX! NOOOO! ... sorry that's all i saw
fruit_baskets, November 17th, 2008 at 02:47:23pm
my situation is somewhat similar.
i am almost dating this amazing guy, Chris.
I am a freshman in college and he is a senior in college, so a four or five year age difference.
But due to the fact that he has been married and is now divorced and he has a two year old son the age difference seems greater.
My parents hate this. They think, like your friend, that I am too young and I have my whole life ahead of me.
I also made out with him...but I actually like him, I'm not having sex with him until we are dating for awhile (thats not meant to sound sarcastic)
I say, age doesn't really matter. Unless its like a 40 year old. Thats kind of creepy...lol. but yeah. don't worry about it, follow your heart. I'm following mine no matter what my parents say...
suburban.zombie, November 17th, 2008 at 03:12:19am
Isn't that an 8 year gap?
Naishikyo-Sekai., November 17th, 2008 at 12:21:08am
I'm in a similar situation. I work alongside this guy who's 24 and I'm only 17 and we got along really well and we've started texting a lot and seeing each other. We both really like each other but my friends frown upon the age gap. But at the end of the day, its your choice and your choice only. It shouldn't matter what people think if its getting in the way of you being happy with someone, even if it is just a bit of fun at a party. Go with what you want to do, you'll feel better by knowing it was your choice not the influence of others. (:
serenade sarahh, November 16th, 2008 at 01:20:48pm