Unrequited Love.
They say unrequited love hurts.
I guess its true. I mean, what can be pleasant about love for someone that is not returned?
But, in reality, have everyone one of us suffered some form of unrequited love?
Its during class that I have these deep and strange thoughts. While studying the poetry of John Donne in English, the topic of unrequited love got me thinking. I still remember my teacher saying this to us:
"I hope none of you have to deal with unrequited love. It hurts. And this is the message Donne is trying to get through with some of this poetry.
But could I have suffered some form of this? However small and not-so-obvious?
For example, you have a crush or like somebody. OK, so they don't know they like you. You never pluck up the courage to ask them out, get to know them, or they take no notice of you. You realise that you just can't be with them, however hard that may be, and you move on, even though there's the tiny possibility that they could like you secretly as well?
Well, another option is asking them out, and finding this out straightaway.
You do so.
You get rejected, humiliated and feel terrible. Is this worse than thinking within yourself that they don't like you despite the fact there is a small possibility that anything could have happened?
Who knows. Most likely, yes. Although if you had kept to yourself, you might have felt better living in hope.
The main point about this is that its not known whether there is a love connection between you and your dream partner, so maybe this is just lust. But then again, who knows?
So unrequited love could happen often, or hopefully very rarely. I myself, have never been rejected as severely as that. Well, this is probably because I've never been asked out or asked anyone else.
There is always the possibility that unrequited love could happen within friendships as well. Say you like your friends; but they don't like you back. You are rejected, cast out, and hurt.
Unrequited confuses me sometimes, other times I can understand it without confusion.
Either way, I know something:
Unrequited love does hurt.
I guess its true. I mean, what can be pleasant about love for someone that is not returned?
But, in reality, have everyone one of us suffered some form of unrequited love?
Its during class that I have these deep and strange thoughts. While studying the poetry of John Donne in English, the topic of unrequited love got me thinking. I still remember my teacher saying this to us:
"I hope none of you have to deal with unrequited love. It hurts. And this is the message Donne is trying to get through with some of this poetry.
But could I have suffered some form of this? However small and not-so-obvious?
For example, you have a crush or like somebody. OK, so they don't know they like you. You never pluck up the courage to ask them out, get to know them, or they take no notice of you. You realise that you just can't be with them, however hard that may be, and you move on, even though there's the tiny possibility that they could like you secretly as well?
Well, another option is asking them out, and finding this out straightaway.
You do so.
You get rejected, humiliated and feel terrible. Is this worse than thinking within yourself that they don't like you despite the fact there is a small possibility that anything could have happened?
Who knows. Most likely, yes. Although if you had kept to yourself, you might have felt better living in hope.
The main point about this is that its not known whether there is a love connection between you and your dream partner, so maybe this is just lust. But then again, who knows?
So unrequited love could happen often, or hopefully very rarely. I myself, have never been rejected as severely as that. Well, this is probably because I've never been asked out or asked anyone else.
There is always the possibility that unrequited love could happen within friendships as well. Say you like your friends; but they don't like you back. You are rejected, cast out, and hurt.
Unrequited confuses me sometimes, other times I can understand it without confusion.
Either way, I know something:
Unrequited love does hurt.
You have a point about it being an infatuation, not love. I guess it still hurts though.
The Brightside., April 7th, 2007 at 09:08:24pm
There is a difference between "love" and having a "crush" on someone though. Crush is just silly infatuation. Obviously getting turned down by a crush hurts, but you weren't in love with them, it could feel a whole lot worse.
Kurtni, April 7th, 2007 at 11:19:55am
I've been rejected pretty badly, actually. I made a phonecall to one of my crushes to see if he wanted to go to Homecoming. Even though he doesn't like my school, I thought I'd put the offer up because we're still friends. NEVER CALLED BACK. Yeah, I didn't even want to think about other guys for the next two months.
The guy I like now... we've liked each other since almost three years, but neither of us has said anything. We were, like, best friends, so my guess is we didn't want to risk breaking our friendship. I miss him A LOT. I can't get over him, so I actually feel worse with that.
Funky Platypus, April 7th, 2007 at 10:40:52am
im totally different, i had unrequited love through friends. i thought they actually liked me, but it turns out they were just using me, but ive solved that now, and im very happy with a boyfriend who DOES love me back! lol.
Gothic-Lolita, April 7th, 2007 at 09:38:55am
Yeah it does, a lot. When I asked this girl out this year that I thought liked me back, she said no. It felt horrible because I thought all that time she liked me, but she didn't. I guess it was better knowing she didn't then living in hope.
Protest, April 7th, 2007 at 07:19:24am
You are right there. I made the mistake of acting with unrequited love- BIG MISTAKE! Humilation for the next two years and also one really crappy week
GreenDayCookieFairy, April 7th, 2007 at 07:18:15am