Liars.
Liars.
Kay so. I know many of you [if not all] will have a major problem with liars like I do. But I’m not talking about little lies that are not overly significant from day to day; I’m talking about compulsive liars.
I’ve been lied to about many things but recently I’ve found the latest case of compulsive lying. There is a girl I’ve been friends with since I was knee height and for as long as I can remember, she’s been a liar. A compulsive one. Always have I passed it by [maybe that’s where I go wrong], until now that is.
Before, the lies consisted of her latest boyfriend or where she was going on holiday but now they have reached a new level of severity. She told me she was a self harmer and that she cut her wrists on a regular basis because she found life difficult to cope with. I personally couldn’t see a reason why she should have self harmed but who was I to question. Now, self harmers don’t usually admit issues like that with such ease as she did, nor do they wear the amount of short sleeved tops that she did [to show her wrists and the non-existent scars].
This scenario happened almost a year ago, and things have worsened since.
One afternoon she appeared by my side claiming that she needed a private talk with me; so concerned I went to talk with her. She told me in a hushed voice that she’d been diagnosed with cancer. I felt horrid because from the moment she told me, I couldn’t help but doubt her, knowing her past with lying.
But after two weeks or so, I realized she’d pulled us in once again. If this was true, surely she would be missing school or something. But no. Day in day out she was there. Weekends, she was still drinking and doing drugs or whatever it is she does at night.
She should have known better than to lie to me about something like this. A life long friend. Especially when she knew my family’s past with demons such as cancer as having lost one set of grandparents and now my own mother and aunt living in fear.
Her motives were beyond me this time and this time she’d gone too far.
The point is, lying gets you nowhere except places you don’t want to be. It makes people lose all trust in you, that you’d once gained.
What good will it do, to tell a friend you have cancer? And for them in return to lose all trust in you.
The answer: no good. You end up in a deeper hole than the one you started in.
Most of us will at some point lie about something minor, but these white lies can most likely be overcome. But compulsively lying to people close to you? No. Don’t do it. If you know people like that, don’t stand for it, speak up about it. No doubt, you already will have.
Now, this blog isn’t the best. I don’t want your comments if all your gonna tell me is that I shouldn’t have stood for it that long. But when you friends with someone that long, its hard to let them go.
Kay so. I know many of you [if not all] will have a major problem with liars like I do. But I’m not talking about little lies that are not overly significant from day to day; I’m talking about compulsive liars.
I’ve been lied to about many things but recently I’ve found the latest case of compulsive lying. There is a girl I’ve been friends with since I was knee height and for as long as I can remember, she’s been a liar. A compulsive one. Always have I passed it by [maybe that’s where I go wrong], until now that is.
Before, the lies consisted of her latest boyfriend or where she was going on holiday but now they have reached a new level of severity. She told me she was a self harmer and that she cut her wrists on a regular basis because she found life difficult to cope with. I personally couldn’t see a reason why she should have self harmed but who was I to question. Now, self harmers don’t usually admit issues like that with such ease as she did, nor do they wear the amount of short sleeved tops that she did [to show her wrists and the non-existent scars].
This scenario happened almost a year ago, and things have worsened since.
One afternoon she appeared by my side claiming that she needed a private talk with me; so concerned I went to talk with her. She told me in a hushed voice that she’d been diagnosed with cancer. I felt horrid because from the moment she told me, I couldn’t help but doubt her, knowing her past with lying.
But after two weeks or so, I realized she’d pulled us in once again. If this was true, surely she would be missing school or something. But no. Day in day out she was there. Weekends, she was still drinking and doing drugs or whatever it is she does at night.
She should have known better than to lie to me about something like this. A life long friend. Especially when she knew my family’s past with demons such as cancer as having lost one set of grandparents and now my own mother and aunt living in fear.
Her motives were beyond me this time and this time she’d gone too far.
The point is, lying gets you nowhere except places you don’t want to be. It makes people lose all trust in you, that you’d once gained.
What good will it do, to tell a friend you have cancer? And for them in return to lose all trust in you.
The answer: no good. You end up in a deeper hole than the one you started in.
Most of us will at some point lie about something minor, but these white lies can most likely be overcome. But compulsively lying to people close to you? No. Don’t do it. If you know people like that, don’t stand for it, speak up about it. No doubt, you already will have.
Now, this blog isn’t the best. I don’t want your comments if all your gonna tell me is that I shouldn’t have stood for it that long. But when you friends with someone that long, its hard to let them go.
everyone i know.
Yay!, May 2nd, 2007 at 04:12:48pm
I know a person like that. shes not my friend, but she told everyone she had a brain tumor.
She's always lied about things too, wether its having went to a concert when she didnt, or having a mobile phone when she didnt.
But you're right, You get a feeling when its a lie. You know when its a lie.
And right now i have another friend who lies, she told me about cutting herself, and i had a huge feeling of doubt. For a lot of reasons.
I doubted her when she told me she had bullemia.
because you just get the feeling.
She also makes up all these problems with her mother that just aren't true. Im not going into details though. It's too frustrating, But she basically manipulates people and walks all over them. I made a blog about it similar to this.
And now shes done something that's just pushed it way too far. The problem compulsive liars have to face is when they push it too far they can't get it back.
good blog by the way.
a lot of people know how you feel.
waiting_a_long_time, April 17th, 2007 at 11:21:03pm
tbh.
I resemble your friend alot.
I told everyone last that I cut.
I've never.
It's a bad habbit to break, trust me.
Sara., April 17th, 2007 at 02:11:45pm
My friend Sam does that. she lies about everything and hurts me so much.
Great Blog.
We're Outlaws, Yeah!, April 17th, 2007 at 11:49:46am
I have a friend like that =/
Everyone knows she lies about everything, so she doesn't relly have many friends...I wanted to stick with her to see if she'd get any better, but she hasn't. I kind of wanna cut her loose, but I don't know how to do that without being mean. =/
lishaaaaa, April 17th, 2007 at 11:42:53am
wow! That's really bad I can't believe she did that!
I used to have a friend like that. She'd lie about family problems and stuff. In grade seven she told me that she slept over another friends house and her brother raped her while she was asleep, and she didn't know about it until she woke up.
That friend had heaps of issues but, and eventually I just stopped hanging around and wasting my time with her.
adrea, April 17th, 2007 at 10:21:15am
It's rather obvious she isn't get much attention, or just craves more and more.
If she has a rather crap home life, then she'll say she has cancer, or she's suicidal to get attention. You need to have a long talk with her about her lying, it'd be hard because you may not be able to believe everything she says. But remember to believe up to a certain extent, use your gut feelings [like teh one you had about cancer and how she wouldn't be at school], if something seems a bit suss about it, it probably is.
Just try and talk to her about it, and try and tell her it's wrong, and it's ruining your friendship.
Stef., April 17th, 2007 at 08:38:02am
But.. Why would she lie? That's quite silly if you ask me.
Maybe you should show her this blog but then she'd probably lie and say, "No I'm not a liar".. I really dislike people like that.
Skippy., April 17th, 2007 at 08:09:14am
HOLY sh*t SHE TOLD YOU SHE HAD CANCER!? what a wack job. yeah i agree she souldn't lie about that sort of stuff! telling you she had cancer but being completly healthy! and did she know about your past with cancer? my guess is yes. why would she do such a thing? i bet she just wanted to be 'popular'...er...sorry i'll stop answering myself...nnnnNOW!
KarenAndTheBabes, April 17th, 2007 at 07:25:54am
It's a real shame what some people do.
Especially when you've been close to them for so long.
Great second blog. (Y)
lili, April 17th, 2007 at 07:24:34am