Peer Pressure
Peer Pressure.
I’m not talking about the pressure to do drugs, or to smoke, or to fuck up some kids life. I’m talking about the pressure to be thin or to be pretty. The pressure that is most dangerous of all, to some extents, life threatening.
You may think I’m being over dramatic or letting out my inner drama queen. But its true, so damn true it hurts.
When you walk in to school in the morning and you see that group of kids, that never cease to look beautiful or perfect, what runs through your mind? “oh wow, she looks great today!” Or “Man, I wish I could look like her”? I can guarantee it’s the second in most cases.
Day after day, it kills me to hear my friends saying that they must lose weight or they have to change their way of life because they feel its not acceptable anymore. And there isn’t anything I can do to change their minds, or to make them see that its not right to feel that way.
Being skinny/deathly thin doesn’t make you a better person. It makes you ill. It ties in with many other disorders too. I have a friend who’s suffering depression at the moment, and she’s also just been diagnosed with an eating disorder, mainly because she refuses to eat. Now she’s been advised to go and stay in a Young Persons Unit at the city hospital, to receive Therapy and such. And it makes me feel horrible to know she’s going through that, day after day.
The media has too big a part in this. Promoting what they call “perfection” and poisoning the minds of young people, making them think this is the way to be. But look at what happens to half of those people, promoted on your screens week after week. They turn to nobodies when the next “pretty” person comes along either that, or the pressure gets too much and drives them into basically “insanity”.
Why on earth would you think, changing yourself would be the only way to get people to like you? It gets you nowhere. You end up losing yourself, forgetting who you really are. Is it worth it? To lose all unique identity you once had? To be “popular”? Or “pretty”? No. Its not.
If people can’t see your true attributes as a person, as an individual, are they worth it? You ask yourself that the next time you feel the need to change yourself.
Perfect just the way you are. Don’t change for anyone.
I’m not talking about the pressure to do drugs, or to smoke, or to fuck up some kids life. I’m talking about the pressure to be thin or to be pretty. The pressure that is most dangerous of all, to some extents, life threatening.
You may think I’m being over dramatic or letting out my inner drama queen. But its true, so damn true it hurts.
When you walk in to school in the morning and you see that group of kids, that never cease to look beautiful or perfect, what runs through your mind? “oh wow, she looks great today!” Or “Man, I wish I could look like her”? I can guarantee it’s the second in most cases.
Day after day, it kills me to hear my friends saying that they must lose weight or they have to change their way of life because they feel its not acceptable anymore. And there isn’t anything I can do to change their minds, or to make them see that its not right to feel that way.
Being skinny/deathly thin doesn’t make you a better person. It makes you ill. It ties in with many other disorders too. I have a friend who’s suffering depression at the moment, and she’s also just been diagnosed with an eating disorder, mainly because she refuses to eat. Now she’s been advised to go and stay in a Young Persons Unit at the city hospital, to receive Therapy and such. And it makes me feel horrible to know she’s going through that, day after day.
The media has too big a part in this. Promoting what they call “perfection” and poisoning the minds of young people, making them think this is the way to be. But look at what happens to half of those people, promoted on your screens week after week. They turn to nobodies when the next “pretty” person comes along either that, or the pressure gets too much and drives them into basically “insanity”.
Why on earth would you think, changing yourself would be the only way to get people to like you? It gets you nowhere. You end up losing yourself, forgetting who you really are. Is it worth it? To lose all unique identity you once had? To be “popular”? Or “pretty”? No. Its not.
If people can’t see your true attributes as a person, as an individual, are they worth it? You ask yourself that the next time you feel the need to change yourself.
Perfect just the way you are. Don’t change for anyone.
you're right, you have a point
but i'm very thin and i never get to hear that i'm perfect the way i am... all they say is "gain weight, it's not pretty being thin", but i can't help it! T___T it's like they take for granted that i'm anorectic or something, even though i eat all the time... some people just can't gain weight easy, but it's all about losing weight when you want to get some tips...
but, like i said, you really have a point
EyesParalyzed, December 7th, 2007 at 10:18:53pm
*tears*
Wow, very true...amazing... it points out alot... nice blog
Destination_Unknown, May 28th, 2007 at 01:59:19pm
-tears up-
This is beautiful
So true
I think we all do it though
totoro, May 22nd, 2007 at 02:33:34pm
Wow, you're right.
Even though i can't help what i do to be thin, i wish i had enough courage to love myself for what i am.
But it's kinda hard.
But i wish i was like you.
Strong and stuff.
;[
mrs_tre_cool_, May 12th, 2007 at 10:20:01am
but I'm disgusting.
I hate hugging the only person who's ever said they love me because I'm so fat.
I hate walking because I think everyone is watching me jiggle.
Sydney Cloud, May 10th, 2007 at 01:06:54am
Perfection= boredom
If we all looked and acted the same.... the world wouldn't be so interesting
good blog
GreenDayCookieFairy, May 8th, 2007 at 02:43:29am
I don't care about seeing people that are pretty or thin( healthy size), that's fine. It's when they don't accept you because you're not like them. I also hate it when the media reveals celebrities true weights as if they are something to be ashamed about, like Britney being over 10 stone. Ok I admit it, I DO need to lose weight, but that's because I want to, and also because I get stabbing pains in my chest, easily puffed out, and back pains.
FashionCastaway, May 7th, 2007 at 10:04:16am
you have a real way with words..excellent blog as always..
NiMrOd_1995, May 7th, 2007 at 09:53:35am
Damn straight. It's so true.
TO BE DELETED, May 7th, 2007 at 09:38:14am
Great blog. Peer pressure is horrible. Media do promote it with the magazines with the stick thin celebrities on the cover. Most of them have paid a lot to get that thin. Why can't we be happy with how we look naturally?
dramamine;, May 7th, 2007 at 05:42:56am
you know what would be really great? To get one of these people, scrap that, all of these people to read what you just wrote. Perhaps THAT would beat some brains back into their heads. Heck, lets get all the pretty people to read it. I really like how you emotionally described the given situation and its true. But sadly, we're the minority.
PaNcAkEs, May 7th, 2007 at 03:03:27am
I also hate it when you get these ignorant people saying "i have to loose weight", most of the time they are real sticks. Some people who feel they are actually overweight and have puppy fat and what not and want to get rid of it, i can understand that, its to make them feel better about themselves, but there is a difference between fat and weight.
Vegemite, May 7th, 2007 at 02:25:33am
Very very true. It's sad how important the outer appearance is to everybody, it makes me sick. And sometimes it isn't even important to some people, but the media wants us to follow anyways because we're ugly and stupid if we don't follow the latest trends or act in the popular way.
Funky Platypus, May 6th, 2007 at 03:37:15pm
This is an awesome blog. Peer and media pressure cause half the problems in the world to do with fashion. It's just ridiculous and horrible at the same time
We're Outlaws, Yeah!, May 6th, 2007 at 03:26:46pm
*smiles and tears slightly
a beautiful blog saz
its so true
we all do it i am guilty of some of the points
yet what you say is true
the media is always changing and its not humanly possibly to keep up
<3
paper heart., May 6th, 2007 at 03:25:56pm