Changing.
Everything is about change. The world is changing. Family situations, changing. But most of all, we're changing.
Emotionally, Physically, Mentally.
But, is their a point where is stops? When we're happy with the way we look, the music we listen too. Or are we going to continue to morph into our next passing phase.
I know that mum's getting sick of buying me new clothes and getting my new haircuts and colours because I feel like changing. I mean, I've been preppy blonde and tanned, I went through my 'I'm so punk' stage, my emo phase, by I don't give a poo hippie stage, More preppiness and now I'm just where I'd like to be. Well, for now..
But I've noticed girls at my school, Let's call one of them Neddy.
She started off being that rock girl. Red hair, coloured piece extensions and Doc's. Listened to Green Day and Rancid. Then she slowly fell into the dance group.
She started wearing big earings, bright eye-shadow and pink all the time.
THEN she got into the school production (Big deal at our school, BIG DEAL) and came to school today with peroxicide barbie doll blonde hair!
I think that if you change for yourself, it's good. But changing because you've been let in to a certain crowd or because you want to impress them is wrong.
I just want to know when people will stop changing for others.
Just as I am, thanks
Emotionally, Physically, Mentally.
But, is their a point where is stops? When we're happy with the way we look, the music we listen too. Or are we going to continue to morph into our next passing phase.
I know that mum's getting sick of buying me new clothes and getting my new haircuts and colours because I feel like changing. I mean, I've been preppy blonde and tanned, I went through my 'I'm so punk' stage, my emo phase, by I don't give a poo hippie stage, More preppiness and now I'm just where I'd like to be. Well, for now..
But I've noticed girls at my school, Let's call one of them Neddy.
She started off being that rock girl. Red hair, coloured piece extensions and Doc's. Listened to Green Day and Rancid. Then she slowly fell into the dance group.
She started wearing big earings, bright eye-shadow and pink all the time.
THEN she got into the school production (Big deal at our school, BIG DEAL) and came to school today with peroxicide barbie doll blonde hair!
I think that if you change for yourself, it's good. But changing because you've been let in to a certain crowd or because you want to impress them is wrong.
I just want to know when people will stop changing for others.
Just as I am, thanks
I change a lot. I've had those phases you talked about, probably more x] I always wonder when I'll be satisfied, when I know that this is me, and this is who I'll always be. Because it freaks me out, I can't stand living a life where I can't rely on myself at all.
But I change only because of myself, my own thoughts, my own ideas. Not others'.
and also, I've seen the same thing you did about the red-to-blonde girl.
I have a friend - or had a friend, who dyed her hair pink, wore a zillion hair clips, crazy outfits like two different socks and shorts, bowties and checkered shirts. She was amazing.
In Sweden, we go to gymnasiet after 9th grade, and as she got there... she completely changed. From refusing to drink alcohol to completely drunk. From non-smoker to smoker. She dyed her hair blonde, got herself a very stupid boyfriend, goes to parties every weekend, and this is, I'm quite sure, because of the girls that she met in her new classes at gymnasiet. They're the same way.
She doesn't speak to me anymore. I know she says weird stuff about me. She has blocked me from her world. We're just not friends anymore.
good blog!
Lissie!, October 31st, 2007 at 10:31:13am
Cheers you guys.
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germma margaret!, August 6th, 2007 at 11:17:40am
I'll only ever change for myself.
No one else.
=] Very good blog Gem.
Skippy., August 6th, 2007 at 10:59:08am
Very true. Change is everywhere and I agree with you on the part where you said...
I think that if you change for yourself, it's good. But changing because you've been let in to a certain crowd or because you want to impress them is wrong.
I'll admit I have changed a bit over the years, but I did that on my own and for myself. People seem to think otherwise. To some people at my school they consider me along the lines of "fake" or "a poser" and such. Why? Because I used to be a Hilary Duff fan and at the time when I was I was proud of it. Eventually I got into Green Day and to this day people I know think I did it just because I wanted to "fit in" or do something having to do with the "mainstream." After all, I did get into them during AI. Meh, sorry for rambling... but I think it's best for people to just be who they are and if that involves change then they at least have to do it for the right reasons.
threeam., August 6th, 2007 at 10:10:29am
Personally, I think most people get to about early to mid-twenties before they truly realise they should just be themselves. The young often change to fit in to a group as you describe, in the strive to be accepted. But it's not just the young, older people do it too, some never stop. While we may say yes I'm just going to be myself, the reality is the acceptance derived from morphing into the latest phase, being one of the crowd, fitting in, is important to many.
It is also important to realise that most young people have little clue as to who they truly are, being a teenager is a difficult time, just from a physiological perspective. Add to that, emotional changes, friends, family, education etc, they are still evolving and maturing, developing their own set of values, and learning about themselves. It can take a long time to develop a true sense of self.
Grandma, August 6th, 2007 at 10:01:18am
Gemma I've just read all your blogs and they're really good. Honestly.
You can always get your point across without boring people.
Lover yooh. xoxo
Frosted Lemon Coward, August 6th, 2007 at 10:01:11am
i really like your topic.
and certain people will never change, everybody just needs to be themself for themself. not for everybody else.
Me: i have always just been myself. and have people like me for who I am and not for who they want me to be. if they dont f*cking like me screw themm. nobody should have to put up with people tryingto change them..
but the answer to your question about when people will stip changing for others, is never.
but what you can do is be yourself and encourage other to do the same. and that might help.
My Chemical Emotions, August 6th, 2007 at 09:52:03am