So Where Did They Get Cinderella From Anyways?

I really truly believe that humans are very smart species, and really we are. Look what we’ve accomplished. Technology, communication, progression, living conditions, and leadership. But are their perhaps flaws in all of these things? You better believe so…because after all we are just human.

The world seems to be pretty hateful lately. Maybe it’s just the times, maybe its just a phase, but I can’t help but notice that the biggest problem in society today is that hate has filled so many people that its destroying everything and everyone in its path.

Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death for young adults age 15-24. If that’s not enough to scream to the world that something needs to be fixed…than I don’t know what that is. When a person commits suicide, it’s not just out of the blue. They have a reason for their choices. It may not be a good reason, a justifiable reason, or rational reason, but it’s a reason none the same. In other words something has traumatized them so much that they have decided to end their life, and at such a young age. There is no replay button or backspace…when you end your life it’s done. You’re gone. You gave up. You gave up on yourself, your life, any thought of happiness.

I know that no one in this world can get along with everyone else, and that even if you love someone very much, you aren’t going to be completely content with them 24/7. That’s just not how it works. I honestly don’t believe that there is someone out their who is “perfect” for you. No human is perfect therefore there is no perfection between two people. You will always have arguments, flaws in your relationship, and occasional second thoughts. That doesn’t mean you don’t love them. Or you don’t care about them. It’s just the truth. There is no “happily ever afters”. No matter how hard you try you will never be perfect, your relationships with other people won’t be perfect with the ones you love, and your life won’t be perfect.

This may come as a shock to some of you…but friends won’t always be there for you. Parents will lie to you. Your dreams won’t always come true. And you really can’t do whatever you want if you believe in yourself. Life is unfair. It’s short. You will have your heartbroken. You will cry yourself to sleep. You will be backstabbed. And more than what you would think are going to have to battle a war inside, half of you praying that you won’t wake up in the morning, and the other half telling you to dry your eyes and buck it up.

In this world some are going to be living in big mansions, having others less fortunate waiting on them hand and foot. Some are going to be lying in the dirt with little to no clothes, their ribs sticking out horridly, proof that they haven’t eaten properly in months. Than theirs your middle-men who live paycheck to paycheck, fighting to survive. This is everyone’s world. Everyone started out just the same. Everyone’s life is just as important as another’s…so why are some left without food for days while others are stuffing their face? Why are some watching their children die because they simply can’t afford to feed them, while others supply them with everything they could want? Why are some living in a box while someone is living in a house with to many rooms? Why do some have to work harder just to put food on the table…while others get it handed to them? Is it luck? Is it favoring?

What is success anyways?
Does it really matter how much money you have. Does money really buy you happiness? Well, yes it does. It buys you artificial happiness. That sort of temporary lustful happiness. The kind that you get from certain people, certain little things out of life, music, TV shows and friends. But at the end of the day whether you are a old man living in a shopping cart, or a fancy business woman living in a condo facing the Eiffel tower…only you can find that true happiness inside you. Only you can make you smile. Others can either help you, or make it difficult, but you have to depend on no one but yourself. If you lean on someone else you are setting yourself up for failure because more than likely you will get hurt. Trust no one? Seems pretty solitary, but safe all the same.

Successful to me is finally finding that true happiness. And being able to look at yourself in the mirror and say “I’m happy with me and what I’ve done.” And looking at your life, pleased that it’s what you have. You don’t have to be perfect. Your accomplishments don’t. And your life doesn’t. But being able to smile at the end of each day is successful to me. Being able to say that you lived your life to the fullest that you could, is success and greater than any billionaire with a Mercedes.

Seems pretty sad…huh? But here’s the thing. As terrible and horrible as all of that sounds…it really isn’t so bad. You have to be able to accept that this is life. You have to take it and make it into the best. Try your hardest…always try. You may not reach what you wanted, but you tried. You’ll go farther if you try and fail, than if you fail and don’t try at all. Because you know that you gave it your all that you actually wanted something so bad that you tried as hard as you could.

Just know that the girl sitting next to you in Biology may cry herself to sleep every night, something you have been doing for months. That a little boy 100,000 miles from you is not eating dinner tonight, and that someone close to you may make a wrong choice that results in the taking of their life. Life isn’t fair. Its not planned. You are born, and than you die. Those are the only certainties. You may go far, you may manage to smile everyday, or you may be miserable every second. You will more than likely be backstabbed but you have to make the best out of everything. No friends are going to be prefect, so live with the ones you have and learn to forgive. You may not fall in love at 14…or 21…or even 50. You may not become a actress like you’ve prayed to do since you could talk. Yet, you will learn to live with things and learn to love people even when they do things that make you cry for weeks. This is your life. Its just as important as anyone elses, and don’t think otherwise. Don’t give up on yourself. Don’t give up on happiness. Don’t give up on finally being able to look at yourself and your life and be proud of what you have and what you’ve accomplished.