Finally Free From Him
I have been in a relationship for a year and a half. Over this time, the guy has proven himself to be manipulative, controlling, and just all-around emotionally abusive, as well as physically abusive.
Ladies and gentlemen, it is not okay to have a significant other that treats you like garbage, to yell and scream at you, someone that calls you names or pulls guilt trips on you if you don't want to do something sexual. It is not okay to have someone tell you who you can and can't talk to, when and where you can go, accuse you of constantly cheating, and it certainly is not okay for someone to stalk you, hit you, or make threats towards you.
I have learned this the hard way, and I don't wish it upon anybody else in this world. He finally let me go, found some other girl that very same day..a seventeen year old. And I feel bad for her, because I know the same thing will happen with her. God only knows how long she will also put up with the things he does, the ways he treats women.
And just because you're not with the abusive person anymore, doesn't mean he/she will stop with the abuse. Even though I am no longer with my abuser, he keeps sending me threats, keeps leading me to believe he's following me. Most all of his threats include guns, and blowing people's brains out.
Here's where it gets tricky. I have a six month old child with this guy.
So even if I do not wish to have any contact whatsoever with this person, he must be able to remain in my child's life, for the time being. Monday, I will begin legal processes. I will go to the courts to get a Personal Protection Order placed against him, and after that, I will file for sole custody of my child. I am only looking out for what's best for my son, and right now, I honestly feel it is not in my son's best interest to see his father while unsupervised. I will try to keep in touch with friends as the legal process of fighting for my son continues.
Please do not allow yourself to be in the same position I am currently in.
Ladies and gentlemen, it is not okay to have a significant other that treats you like garbage, to yell and scream at you, someone that calls you names or pulls guilt trips on you if you don't want to do something sexual. It is not okay to have someone tell you who you can and can't talk to, when and where you can go, accuse you of constantly cheating, and it certainly is not okay for someone to stalk you, hit you, or make threats towards you.
I have learned this the hard way, and I don't wish it upon anybody else in this world. He finally let me go, found some other girl that very same day..a seventeen year old. And I feel bad for her, because I know the same thing will happen with her. God only knows how long she will also put up with the things he does, the ways he treats women.
And just because you're not with the abusive person anymore, doesn't mean he/she will stop with the abuse. Even though I am no longer with my abuser, he keeps sending me threats, keeps leading me to believe he's following me. Most all of his threats include guns, and blowing people's brains out.
Here's where it gets tricky. I have a six month old child with this guy.
So even if I do not wish to have any contact whatsoever with this person, he must be able to remain in my child's life, for the time being. Monday, I will begin legal processes. I will go to the courts to get a Personal Protection Order placed against him, and after that, I will file for sole custody of my child. I am only looking out for what's best for my son, and right now, I honestly feel it is not in my son's best interest to see his father while unsupervised. I will try to keep in touch with friends as the legal process of fighting for my son continues.
Please do not allow yourself to be in the same position I am currently in.
God, I hope everything works out for you and your son (:
Good luck :)
dumbstruck., June 28th, 2010 at 04:20:38pm
Oh jesus..
Good luck, really. I hope it works out soon.
banquo, June 27th, 2010 at 07:52:37am
Good luck with this, you're very brave
wanderlust, June 21st, 2010 at 09:34:36pm
yeah dude, i had to deal with this same sort of thing. i actually posted a blog about it.
but she'd make me feel like sh*t, and got pissed off easily. she was controlling, and has major anger issues. she even goes off on her dad, who she "loves more than anything" and she always puts her own mom down. she'd even talk down about my friends, and more importantly my family. luckily, i got in a huge fight with my parents, and when i say luckily, i mean i'm glad it happened, because it finally got into my head that i needed to get rid of her. our relationships slowly fell apart from there, and within two weeks, i finally got rid of her, and have been happy ever since.
pseudo superhero, June 21st, 2010 at 02:25:21pm
*hugs*
Good luck to you and your son :)
Well done for getting out :)
TO BE DELETED, June 21st, 2010 at 01:04:36pm
Good for you, I know I've never talked to you but you're so strong for doing this. Good luck, I hope everything turns out for the best. :)
asthenia., June 21st, 2010 at 03:52:20am
That sucks you were in a relationship like that, but I'm glad its no longer continuining. & I really hope he stops being abusive like that. Good luck with everything and your son.
Skippy., June 21st, 2010 at 02:08:59am
I'm v. glad you're gettig a protection order, and hopfully sole custody. Justin doesnt deserve abuse like that, and neither do you. good luck with everything <33
Woodrow Derenberger, June 19th, 2010 at 10:33:35pm
Good luck Des. :)
Mareh, June 19th, 2010 at 10:23:51pm
I think it's really nice of you as a mommy to do that for your son. Kids don't need to be around abusive people either.
Good luck on all that, I hope it all works out in the best way it can. :D
nadroj, June 19th, 2010 at 08:32:49pm
Well I hope you get what you need settled for your son. Good luck :3
And I'd like to be seeing a new picture of how big he is :D
captain america, June 19th, 2010 at 06:26:16pm