Why no child is safe from the sinister cult of Emo

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Browncoat-Idiot
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June 27th, 2010 at 06:04pm
When everyone is telling you to conform to a sterotype then thats what you end up doing...I get called emo coz I dress all in black, wear lots of bad tees, have a Billie Joe style haircut, wear heavy eyeliner and have black nails...WOW so miss informed...I am the biggest geek out there and proud!

So what I dress "EMO" I know I ain't deep down inside but I ware the stereotyped label with great pride!, and thats all thet gorramn matters!
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June 28th, 2010 at 05:37am
KIRK:
Plunkie.:
parents tends to do this because they dont want to face that they're bad parents.
so youre suggesting that suicide is down to bad parenting?


Mostly yes,
when you're that young yes.
If the parents can't see that their kids are depressed, there's something wrong.. i blame the parents.
I blame the parents because in most familys people arn't open about stuff.
When a child gets sad, or feel things that feels weird to them and need answers but is afraid to ask, or need to talk but their parents never showed a sign that its ok to talk - it later turns out pretty bad for the kids life.
Because a kid that small can't be blamed, it has no knowledge about things.
It needed help, no one obviously diden't notice.
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June 28th, 2010 at 11:58am
Plunkie.:
KIRK:
Plunkie.:
parents tends to do this because they dont want to face that they're bad parents.
so youre suggesting that suicide is down to bad parenting?


Mostly yes,
when you're that young yes.
If the parents can't see that their kids are depressed, there's something wrong.. i blame the parents.
I blame the parents because in most familys people arn't open about stuff.
When a child gets sad, or feel things that feels weird to them and need answers but is afraid to ask, or need to talk but their parents never showed a sign that its ok to talk - it later turns out pretty bad for the kids life.
Because a kid that small can't be blamed, it has no knowledge about things.
It needed help, no one obviously diden't notice.


And most kids don't wanna worry their parents with that kinda stuff.

For a start, I had those feelings when I was 14, but my mum had just come out of hospital after having a radical mastectomy and radiotherapy. I was being bullied every day because I didn't have the stones to tell anyone bout my mum having cancer because I thought that the bullies would pick on her instead.

I was so close to killing myself because everything happened at once. I didn't tell my mum about ANYTHING that was happening to me or what I was feeling because she needed to get on the mend herself...in most cases it is due to the child PROTECTING the parents. My mum and I talk about EVERYTHING, just that once we didn't and I regret that.

So, I'm sorry, you're wrong...
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June 28th, 2010 at 01:32pm
this is pretty much exactly what i wanted to say

i kept it from everyone because i felt like it would make a big deal out of nothing, because i didn't feel my problems were worthy of any worry. it was in NO WAY my parents' fault that i got as bad as i did, because i blocked them out. most people (and especially youngsters) don't know how to talk about things like this. they probably don't even understand what's wrong with them.

i just can't help but take offence at the original comment. depression isn't anyone's 'fault' and you have no right to call anyone a bad parent regarding it.
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June 28th, 2010 at 05:52pm
KIRK:
this is pretty much exactly what i wanted to say

i kept it from everyone because i felt like it would make a big deal out of nothing, because i didn't feel my problems were worthy of any worry. it was in NO WAY my parents' fault that i got as bad as i did, because i blocked them out. most people (and especially youngsters) don't know how to talk about things like this. they probably don't even understand what's wrong with them.

i just can't help but take offence at the original comment. depression isn't anyone's 'fault' and you have no right to call anyone a bad parent regarding it.


I'm with you... I take offence at it too.

You can't blame the kid or the 'rents or bands.

The people who should be blamed are the bullies who make you feel like crap every day of your life until you begin to really believe it yourself.
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December 8th, 2010 at 05:31pm
Browncoat-Idiot:
KIRK:
this is pretty much exactly what i wanted to say

i kept it from everyone because i felt like it would make a big deal out of nothing, because i didn't feel my problems were worthy of any worry. it was in NO WAY my parents' fault that i got as bad as i did, because i blocked them out. most people (and especially youngsters) don't know how to talk about things like this. they probably don't even understand what's wrong with them.

i just can't help but take offence at the original comment. depression isn't anyone's 'fault' and you have no right to call anyone a bad parent regarding it.


I'm with you... I take offence at it too.


You can't blame the kid or the 'rents or bands.

The people who should be blamed are the bullies who make you feel like crap every day of your life until you begin to really believe it yourself.


i agree with both of you. i mean, i hide a bunch of stuff from my parents. i do it to give them peace of mind. i don't want them knowing that i'm being bullied, or that i'm slightly depressed. i just don't want to hurt them with this knowledge.

and the word 'emo', i hate it. i glare at people whenever they think of that stereotype. the only reason i hate it is cause i'm scared that since i'm depressed, i'm gonna end up self-harming. and that would lead to more pain and disappointment from my friends and family.
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December 14th, 2010 at 05:00pm
Browncoat-Idiot:
KIRK:
this is pretty much exactly what i wanted to say

i kept it from everyone because i felt like it would make a big deal out of nothing, because i didn't feel my problems were worthy of any worry. it was in NO WAY my parents' fault that i got as bad as i did, because i blocked them out. most people (and especially youngsters) don't know how to talk about things like this. they probably don't even understand what's wrong with them.

i just can't help but take offence at the original comment. depression isn't anyone's 'fault' and you have no right to call anyone a bad parent regarding it.


I'm with you... I take offence at it too.

You can't blame the kid or the 'rents or bands.

The people who should be blamed are the bullies who make you feel like crap every day of your life until you begin to really believe it yourself.


I agree with that, and people become depressed from so many differen't things. Bullies, death, school, stress, presure, etc.

And none of that is the parents fault.
And you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
Plus, those who are depressed most likely feel that they are worthy of anyone, and that if they did share their problems with their parent's, that they wouldn't really care anyway, So it would then therefore not even be worth it.
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May 3rd, 2011 at 11:34pm
I was never actually bullied for being Emo. People would just make fun of the bands I listened to and I would get into fights over it. People learned to be scared of me after that.
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May 4th, 2011 at 07:49am
Because getting into fights over different tastes in music is totally mature.
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May 4th, 2011 at 09:37am
Does Emo still exist? I thought it was just a thing of 2004.
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May 4th, 2011 at 10:48am
It exists for younger kids still. I heard a lot of it when I was working in an elementary school. People make fun of hipsters now
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May 4th, 2011 at 08:12pm
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Yup, it's alll the hipseters these days.
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May 5th, 2011 at 04:06am
I don't think clothes or music or anything like that can be blamed for someone killing themselves. She did it because she obviously had issues.



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May 5th, 2011 at 06:16am
Well... Hannah Bond came from the neighbouring village to me, and one of my friends was her best friend when she committed suicide. This friend was heavily into the emo thing at the time, and was cutting etc. (though I'm not sure if that started before or after Hannah's death). If the article is right and she was cutting to be initiated into 'being an emo', then that was worrying and probably a result of the warped and popularised version of what 'being emo' is (promoted by articles like this in the press).
I don't think she did it because she was 'emo'. I think I read in the local news somewhere that she did it as a protest against her parents and didn't mean it to actually result in her death; my friend saw her the day she died and she was fine at the time, apparently. I imagine it was a teen-angst moment that went too far.
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May 5th, 2011 at 03:45pm
I think that there are the kids that are the sterotype of "emo"
And then there are the real "emo"

Just like everything else in the world.
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May 5th, 2011 at 11:13pm
Doesn't emo mean emotional ? Or is it something else? Everyone can be emotional so I don't know who started the whole bullshit stereotype
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May 5th, 2011 at 11:42pm
What a lot of kids don't realize is that Emo kids listen to other kinds of music. I listened to Steely Dan, Matchbox Twenty, and plenty of other older music because that's what I grew up listening to.
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May 6th, 2011 at 12:51am
So you just called yourself emo. i yi yi
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May 6th, 2011 at 03:17pm
Oh, well since you appear to be the Emo specialist here....could you elaborate on some other things?

Oh, and that makes sense, the whole people don't understand....right? 'Cause that's part of the whole emo "scene"?
Or am I wrong?
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May 6th, 2011 at 05:34pm

i know all of the words to this Laughing

this is what i think about when i think of emo
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